Hi all...
Any advice/support welcome - really need to rant and get this off my chest... we've had the summer from hell and can't believe what we are being told.
For those of you who 'know' me.. we got asked to be SGO's for a little baby 10 days after she was placed with us which we initially said no to, but then a few weeks later said yes. Health issues made SW think she wouldn't be adopted.
As her health these past few months has improved they have now decided that she is 'adoptable' and so have altered the care plan and the plan is to have her adopted.
Ok.. gutted but have had no other choice but to accept it and come to terms with it.
The sting in the tail is that they (SS) now say we are 'too bonded' with her and so want to move her to another short term FC who will care for her until she is found her forever family. She has had 3 moves already (which includes her move to us) (she is only 10mths old) and now they want to do another one - potentially for a few months only until family is found... (final hearing due in 3wks time)
Basically, they think its 'cruel' to ask us to do this transition, and worry what it would do to us... I've spoken to BAAF who say if they do this (because its about us not coping with the transition - not about her best interests) then they are being down right neglectful. Guardian does not want it but doesn't feel able to intervene.
Our SSW thinks we should be allowed to do it with extra support(as it was them who asked us to do the SGO in the first place!!) but that yes, we would find it hard but then so do lots of other carers - particularly with babies.
Feels like we are being punished because we care...
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BusterTheDonk · 11/09/2012 19:33
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