contagious rash and a very important hospital app

[fostermumtomany]

hi
my foster baby has an extremely important appointment next week in essex (we are in lancashire) this is the appointment that determines how she recieved her injuries and whether she can go back to mum or not.

now she has a rash that the gp says is chicken pox but i really dont think it is (See my other thread)

i have spoken to her sw about it and she is going to ring me on monday regarding it.
thing is when i spoke to the sw it was just the baby that had the rash, now 2 of my children have it as do one of their friends as do i.

what do i do about the appointment.
we have waited so long for it and to have to postpone it now would put everything back including the finding of facts hearing scheduled for february.
its a real predicament and i really do not want to have to cancel.
the sw said she would speak to the specialist about it and see what he wants to do.
do i fight and say she is fine (she isnt poorly just has a few spots) but she is contagious. but then is she still contagious?
how would i know if she was or not.

is this going to be one of those things that is taken out of my hands?
ultimately this appointment will decide this baby girls future and who are we to mess with that?

oh what would you do?

i should add that the appointment is in a private hospital with a top doc from great ormond street. would it make a difference if he wore gloves?
i honestly have no idea what to do.
should i lie?

[shaz298]

Would it be possible to have the appointment somewhere else?

The reason people with contagious anything aren't allowed to go to hospitals for appointments or to visit, is to protect other ill people who have weakened immune systems and for whom a 'normal' childhood illness could in fact be fatal. ]

So there is a valid reason for not allowing people with contagious illness to go to appointments. However due to the serious nature of this appointment and the fact that the doc is a private one I am thinking it may be possible to make alternative arrangelents for the location of the appointment??

Good luck.

[SquidgyBrain]

It will really come down to what the specialist feels.

I wouldn't lie, I know that this appointment is really important, but I am sure if the Dr called and said he had a spotty rash that he didn't know what it was but it is contagious would still like to come along, you wouldn't allow the LO to be put at risk of catching it.

Hoping that the appointment can go ahead

[fostermumtomany]

he has agreed to see her, although he said he would have to wear gloves lol i would hope he would anyway wouldnt you!!!

im wondering if we will get the questions answered today.
she has to go every week and has done for the last 8 weeks to check her bones etc but today is the big one where we find out (hopefully) if her injuries were organic or not. im praying they are otherwise i have been completely duped by her family(not her mum)!

i dont like to think they have pulled the wool over my eyes when they seem so nice and so genuine.

still which is the lesser of two evils, to have a life long condition and stay with mum or to have had 8 broken bones inflicted on her (not by mum) and have to be adopted out.

its a tough call.

[SquidgyBrain]

what an awful situation :( It is indeed a tough call

Hoping the appointment goes well

[fostermumtomany]

well the verdict is in....the injuries are non organic meaning someone deliberately broke this babies bones....8 of them when the baby was just 8 weeks old and 9 weeks prem so really not even a fullterm baby.

i feel sick. this is the bit of fostering i hate.
i could cry i feel so upset for her.

[p99gmb]

Poor poor helpless LO..

how on earth can you put that out of your mind when seeing the parents? Be professional right?? God knows how I could do it - this "job" is so much more than a job - I think it has to be to look after the LO's we take in and help thrive.

[fostermumtomany]

i dont believe it wa smum and nobody will tell me otherwise. her reaction when the doc said it broke my hubbys heart. he was in tears.
she was pleading with him to make them believe it wasnt her.
its just so devastsing.