Our LO has now been here over 8 weeks! Not sure where the time has gone!
Anyway, when he arrived, he was almost sleeping through - needed a little soothing occasionally but that was only in the first week, and he was doing brilliantly at self settling.
Fast forwards to 2 weeks ago, he had a rotten cold, he was obviously feeling really poorly. As a result, he was a wee bit grumbly over night, but again just needed his back patting and a little soothing and he was going back over.
He went to contact (overnight) when he was beginning to feel better. His mum was over dramatising how ill he was (I was seriously worried as she was describing him as really really ill) when I went to take them to the Dr's it was obvious to me that he was actually much better than he was when he was dropped off on the Tuesday morning - however I know that it is different when it is your own child and you panic.
So he ended up spending 2 nights there as the social worker felt that it was important for both LO and his Mum to bond over this.
We got him back on the Thursday morning, and haven't had a full nights sleep since. Just about had him back to self settling - went for another over night again on Tuesday and he was worse than ever.
It seems that when he wakes up in the middle of the night they get him up and give him toast and milk!
The placement seems to be a longer term one - next LAC meeting is in March and I have been told he will not be getting returned then - they are planning on going to a shared care system.
The parents seem to be compliant with agencies but it is seeming more and more like just talk.
So what would you do/say? I have 3 kids of my own and a DH who gets up to work at 5.30 so a screaming baby every night for the next 6 months is really not going to work.
I Know that most babies/children cry, and we are more than prepared to get up with a child if they need us too - as there is always light at the end of the tunnel, but in this case the light seems to be coming from the buffet car on the train steaming towards up offering toast and milk!
It really is more the there is no end to this and the frustration of us spending 5 nights a week at the minute working hard to get him in to a routine and settled and it is undone in 2 night , as the parents are not prepared to "let him cry" and he rules them
Maybe I am just whinging?
Would appreciate any help advice or even that is the job get one with it's
thanks
SB xx
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SquidgyBrain · 16/01/2011 19:57
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