I'm Jumping before I'm pushed.

(636 Posts)
usualsuspect Thu 30-Aug-12 20:49:54

See ya.

BlackberryIce Thu 30-Aug-12 20:50:40

Because of that thread? Nah,you are better than that.

BellaVita Thu 30-Aug-12 20:51:15

What thread?

No usual don't go I look forward to your drunk thread every week! sad

SecretNutellaMedallist Thu 30-Aug-12 20:53:38

What has gone on?

Sparklingbrook Thu 30-Aug-12 20:54:12

I am on my holidays. What's gone on? sad

usualsuspect Thu 30-Aug-12 20:54:44

Not just because of that thread. Lots of reasons.

But I ain't enjoying MN anymore, so I need to announce my flounce so I can't come back.

BlackberryIce Thu 30-Aug-12 20:54:47

It's in active

What's happened? what thread?

don't go usual...not for one thread

Well you could come back really after a name change

TrinityRhino Thu 30-Aug-12 20:56:19




that's helpful Blackberry, there's 50 threads in active! grin

usualsuspect Thu 30-Aug-12 20:57:34

I don't want to hide behind a NC.

I need to get off MN. So if I announce my flounce I will feel a twat if I come back.

SecretNutellaMedallist Thu 30-Aug-12 20:57:39

Name of thread?

Chubfuddler Thu 30-Aug-12 20:58:14

Don't be absurd.

HecateHarshPants Thu 30-Aug-12 20:58:32

Yeah, that never works grin

TrinityRhino Thu 30-Aug-12 20:58:42

'announce my flounce', sorry but have to snigger at that

usualsuspect Thu 30-Aug-12 20:58:49

It's really not just because of that thread. I've taken more stick than that in the past on here.

Viviennemary Thu 30-Aug-12 20:59:00

I got a total telling off on that thread. If it's the same one I'm thinking about.

usualsuspect Thu 30-Aug-12 20:59:13

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Well hopefully we will see you again usual and I hope you feel better after a break and that you do come back. The Friday night drunk thread won't be the same without you sad

BlackberryIce Thu 30-Aug-12 20:59:18
usualsuspect Thu 30-Aug-12 21:00:20

That thread was the straw that broke the camels back.

TrinityRhino Thu 30-Aug-12 21:00:27


usualsuspect Thu 30-Aug-12 21:00:49

Sorry Trin. I love you too.

TrinityRhino Thu 30-Aug-12 21:01:10

<fixes camels back>

<gets rid of all straws>

Chubfuddler Thu 30-Aug-12 21:01:23

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If I start a petition will you stay?

TrinityRhino Thu 30-Aug-12 21:01:42

awww faaanks

but STAY!!!!

LackaDAISYcal Thu 30-Aug-12 21:02:19

Nooooo sad, I love your straight talking, tell it like it is, styleee!

Just have a break, lurking to keep abreast and then come back in a week.

Maryz Thu 30-Aug-12 21:03:04

Just don't dereg, 'cos then they won't give you your name back when you inevitably just have a look at aibu one night when you are bored and get sucked back in.

Not that that has ever happened to me, you understand <lies>

Please don't go usualsuspect I will miss you, I hope I haven't upset you. smile wine

TrinityRhino Thu 30-Aug-12 21:03:33

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TrinityRhino Thu 30-Aug-12 21:04:09

oh bollocks my striking out didn't work


Viviennemary Thu 30-Aug-12 21:04:11

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TrinityRhino Thu 30-Aug-12 21:04:25

honestly, I've been here far too long to not be able to do it

fanjoforthemammaries Thu 30-Aug-12 21:04:49

Awwww sad

amillionyears Thu 30-Aug-12 21:05:26

I dont want you to go usual.
Perhaps you could have a break,and come back with your usual name later.
I always have 1 day off a week from MN,every week.Perhaps you could do that.
I felt hurt on your and others behalf on that thread.I think the op posted in poor taste,but she did apologise.
I think a break may be a good idea for you,but maybe not a permanent one?

<applauds> Trinity grin

usualsuspect Thu 30-Aug-12 21:06:00

Don'tflatter yourself chub it anything you said I stand. By everything I said on that thread

Mintyy Thu 30-Aug-12 21:06:02

Oh no!

I suspect that we might have very little in common in rl or on paper ... but I very often seem to agree with you Usual.

I DEMAND that you stay and IGNORE the twats.

TrinityRhino Thu 30-Aug-12 21:06:36

<takes a bow> but really I was ruuuuuuude and shouldn't be applauded grin

<crap effort to not get deleted> grin

EchoBitch Thu 30-Aug-12 21:06:41

Sorry to see you go usual but why did you get involved with that thread if the subject upset you so much,surely better to sit on your hands and ignore it if you don't like what you see.
Fwiw,i didn't think that op was being nasty and a snob,i think she was taking a look of her own prejudices and saying how she now see's how hard it is to live on a low budget.
And that coming from relative wealth to low income is a difficult adjustment.

But that's just what i thought.

Oh yes how dare you trinity wink

usualsuspect Thu 30-Aug-12 21:07:38

Sorry about shit phone typing

What EchoBitch said.

TheLightPassenger Thu 30-Aug-12 21:09:03

I don't see what was so bad about what you posted usual, it's a puzzling place here at times!

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Thu 30-Aug-12 21:09:25

It's not really fair to blame the op of that thread is it. She cane across ok to be even if you didn't like the original post.

Usual, reconsider. Who is going to police them baby name threads and help protect the letter k? sad

Mintyy Thu 30-Aug-12 21:09:36

I think op of that thread could have hesitated and thought a moment before posting, Echo.

She has bought into the myth that Mumsnet is all Boden-clad middle class mums on good incomes. She deserves a bit of a kick up the arse for that lazy assumption alone, imvho.

ParaOlympicpark Thu 30-Aug-12 21:09:41

usual don't go. We need all opinions on here, yours are just as valid as anyone else's!!!

usualsuspect Thu 30-Aug-12 21:10:15

That's why because you can't post your opinions on here anymore without the in crowd ganging up

LST Thu 30-Aug-12 21:10:28

Don't go usual.. I felt the same as you on that thread but I'm not brave enough to say anything..

Vagaceratops Thu 30-Aug-12 21:10:30

Dont be silly Usual.


TrinityRhino Thu 30-Aug-12 21:11:13

who the fuck is the 'in crowd'?

NaiceSpam Thu 30-Aug-12 21:11:20

Good Grief Penfold!

Did you not expect to receive that reception on that thread when you posted usual ? You sounded like you were spoiling for one, y'can't flounce over it!

I wouldn't risk looking like a knob when you come back, just don't go instead... wink

<waves wine enticingly>

fanjoforthemammaries Thu 30-Aug-12 21:11:34

Some people, and not usual, are loving the chance to make a big bunfight out of that thread and doing their best to stir it up and make more of it than it is IMO

LST Thu 30-Aug-12 21:12:14

It's there Trinity picking up in everything you say if it's not their way..

germyrabbit Thu 30-Aug-12 21:12:15

hide the other thread!

don't flounce over it!

Sparklingbrook Thu 30-Aug-12 21:12:37

usual I have just had a look at the OP on that thread, My first thought was it was a wind up. I can't tell fact from fiction on here at the moment.

LST Thu 30-Aug-12 21:12:55


TrinityRhino Thu 30-Aug-12 21:13:12

I'll wear a name that embarrasses me for as long as you want if you stay

TrinityRhino Thu 30-Aug-12 21:13:46

ok I'm scared now

BellaVita Thu 30-Aug-12 21:13:54

Who the hell are the in crowd?

LemarchandsBox Thu 30-Aug-12 21:14:44

Don't go.

Viviennemary Thu 30-Aug-12 21:15:07

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PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Thu 30-Aug-12 21:16:06

Listen I can really see what your saying about the other thread. I'm just saying (and I am certainly no Boden wearing mc person) that not everyone read it like that.

I just thought the op was a bit sad, split with husband, had to leave her home and is struggling with maintenance.

She apologised when people said about the op sounding a bit piss takery and said she didn't mean it.

LST Thu 30-Aug-12 21:16:13

vivie I thought that too actually counted on my fingers

K999 Thu 30-Aug-12 21:16:32

Am delurking to say DONT GO....you silly mare! grin

LemarchandsBox Thu 30-Aug-12 21:16:48

Soz, meant to do <sadface> there as well. wink

There are no incrowds on here. There are Factions but no In Crowds.

Mintyy Thu 30-Aug-12 21:18:01

Why lurketh you, you VERY old-timer?

cornybootseeker Thu 30-Aug-12 21:18:08

I really hope that you don't leave usual.

Oh, but I love your posts Usual sad

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Thu 30-Aug-12 21:18:46

Was it the sausage rolls that gave it away?

I hope it wasn't a wind up.

I'm going to pop into greggs tomorrow and ask their thoughts re shelf life.

Mintyy Thu 30-Aug-12 21:18:52

What on earth is this incrowd you silly old thing Usual?

Nagoo Thu 30-Aug-12 21:19:05

Thursday is the new Friday.

Start a drunk thread and we'll forget all about it.

amillionyears Thu 30-Aug-12 21:19:14

I think the in crowd,if it is the ones I am thinking of,are a lot less in numbers than they used to be,and are actually,on the whole,quite a lot more reasonable than they were say 6 months ago.
I dont know how long you have been on MN,but I suspect a lot longer than me,so it can be difficult to see changes.
You do seem to get a bit picked on on MN,I thought you actually liked the attention.Shows how much I know.
Have a break,and see how you feel.

Haven't seen the thread.

You're a cunt, but I like you grin

Don't go.

K999 Thu 30-Aug-12 21:22:18

I lurk cos there's so many twats on here now and if I posted what I thought I'd be flouncing like Usual! grin

Better to lurk then jump in when no-ones expecting you!!

Of course no twats on this thread....except Usual for flouncing! grin

TrinityRhino Thu 30-Aug-12 21:22:18

i think I'm blind or just stupid

I dont notice 'groups'

RunYouBastardRun Thu 30-Aug-12 21:22:47

There always has to be an 'in crowd' or 'royalty' or some group that can take the flack. Otherwise people would have to think about what they're posting.

TrinityRhino Thu 30-Aug-12 21:22:51

<slaps laurie> grin

McPhee Thu 30-Aug-12 21:22:51

EchoBitch Thu 30-Aug-12 21:06:41
Sorry to see you go usual but why did you get involved with that thread if the subject upset you so much,surely better to sit on your hands and ignore it if you don't like what you see.
Fwiw,i didn't think that op was being nasty and a snob,i think she was taking a look of her own prejudices and saying how she now see's how hard it is to live on a low budget.
And that coming from relative wealth to low income is a difficult adjustment.

But that's just what i thought.

That's how I read it as well..certainly didn't come across any other way to me. It takes a big person to admit they were wrong about how they thought of others.

TrinityRhino Thu 30-Aug-12 21:23:49

someone called me royalty once

I actually did lol

I wish I was royalty sad

<accepts slap>

<gets out Uzi>

You probably are Royalty Trin - are you Pippa Middletons arse??


There is no such thing as incrowds and royalty.

Maat Thu 30-Aug-12 21:28:33

<curtseys in front of Trinity> grin

Don't go usual.

I like to see your name on threads.

TrinityRhino Thu 30-Aug-12 21:29:08

fuck aye, I AM pippas arse!!

Cynner Thu 30-Aug-12 21:29:17

Usual, please don't go! I thought the tone of that OP was a bit off, decided not to post because of it.

You mean that Trinity isn't Royalty? shock <adjusts spreadsheet>

lissielou Thu 30-Aug-12 21:30:26

Its really odd at the mo. you can't post anythiing without snidey comments or being reported. So much paranoia.

TrinityRhino Thu 30-Aug-12 21:31:31

lol keema

I am so jealous of people with spreadsheets

LemarchandsBox Thu 30-Aug-12 21:31:46

There are Factions. Not Royalty.

One thing I've learned on here in recent months is that no one Queen Turd Of Shit Hill can drive you away from MN.

It's too big, too varied, too impersonal and yet too supportive.

NewStartSameStory Thu 30-Aug-12 21:33:10

Don't flounce. Although, I have to agree with all your reasons for doing so. Take an extended holiday. MN will either calm down or explode. But if you flounce to not come back how on earth will sanity be restored if we are only left with the crazies?

I personally think there are people out there with vendettas, it seems to me that some posters cannot move without being reported and deleted, yet other posters can post identical things and the posts will stand.

Mintyy Thu 30-Aug-12 21:35:25

Agree with Lemarchands.

There are deffo factions but ... so what?

Who cares?

Perhaps I am missing something but I can't see factions at work on that thread Usual.

Don't be a loon and de-reg, you hear??

LemarchandsBox Thu 30-Aug-12 21:36:17

I have a Vendetta.

It doesn't taste like it used to sad

Chubfuddler Thu 30-Aug-12 21:37:22

No one actually has been deleted on that thread though, so that doesn't stack up ferret.

PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 21:37:44


K999 Thu 30-Aug-12 21:38:55

LemarchandsBox.....you're thinking of Vienetta aren't you? grin

plus3 Thu 30-Aug-12 21:38:56

Usual - I have been here for 8yrs (mostly lurking & have probably got more than I will ever be able to give back)

I read that thread & felt sorry for her, although thought she was being a bit of a twat with how she put it.

Your POV is why I love mumsnet - it made her think & apologise.

I think the days of long drawn out reasonable discussions have largely gone.

Please don't flounce.

puds11 Thu 30-Aug-12 21:39:33

You can't go <stamps feet>
Not allowed so ner!

Northernlurkerisonholiday Thu 30-Aug-12 21:39:46

The tone of the thread linked below works fine if you read it in terms of the OP talking about herself and her feelings. Given that she has had the massive stress of a marriage breakup, being obliged to relocate across the Atlantic and is now living on benefits whilst negotiating a difficult divorce, I was happy for her to use whatever black humour she likes to get her through that situation when talking about her own position.

Usualsuspect seems to have taken that thread as a personal insult and when you start reacting like that it probably is time for a break. Hopefully she can come back refreshed soon. What's the opposite of a flounce?

MyDogShitsMoney Thu 30-Aug-12 21:39:51

Well, I don't know you Usual but I will be sorry if you go.

I see you about a lot and although I've never really noticed a pattern as regards to how often we agree/disagree you always speak your mind and I have huge respect for anyone who is prepared to do that.

You have strong opinion, you're happy to have a ruck, but I've also seen you be very kind and funny.

There's nothing wrong with disagreeing! I see a lot of posters who seem to care more about what other's think of them than being truthful.

MN would be a better place if there was more honesty IMO.

sunshine401 Thu 30-Aug-12 21:40:04

I don't get threads like this . I mean why bother its attention right??

PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 21:41:07

<shoos sunshine out of the room>

PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 21:41:56

<with a very serious 'look' at her so she doesn't come back>

EchoBitch Thu 30-Aug-12 21:42:01

I would agree with TheFerret and add that i think there are also genuine,supportive friendships on here too.
But i wouldn't say there were 'in' crowds,MN is too big for that,just like minded people who strike up friendships.

K999 Thu 30-Aug-12 21:42:30

Yeah, fuck off Sunshine grin

PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 21:43:30

K999 says it so much better.....

Ohh I wasnt tlking about that thread chub. I was musing on the incrowd/groups/royalty thing.

sunshine... everything is attention seeking, your post just now. Is attention seeking.

My post is attention seeking. I wouldnt post if I wanted to be ignored.

MigratingCoconuts Thu 30-Aug-12 21:44:05

Has usual gone then?

NoComet Thu 30-Aug-12 21:44:07

I kept off that thread, the OP was very jokey. Possible because she was genuinely upset, but I couldn't think of the right tone for a reply.

PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 21:45:01

I've never understood people saying usual is mean or argumentative

she's kind, witty, fun and lovely

(and she said she loves me, so ner ner nee ner)


sunshine401 Thu 30-Aug-12 21:45:56

lol ok ..... smile

usualsuspect Thu 30-Aug-12 21:46:02

Mn won't even fucking load for me tonight.

Thank you everyone for your kind words.

Well nearly everyone.

cinnamonnut Thu 30-Aug-12 21:46:30

I have never noticed an "in crowd." Those who have been on MN a long time and are popular, yes, but not to the extent that they constitute an in crowd.

PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 21:46:38

northern, are you actually on holiday?

anywhere nice?

Dont let the door slam your beyonce.

MigratingCoconuts Thu 30-Aug-12 21:47:27

You 're back!!!


PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 21:47:33

I've been here a fucking age and I aint in no crowd

FamiliesShareGerms Thu 30-Aug-12 21:47:42

Please don't go usual, I like reading your posts!

HarleenQuinlan Thu 30-Aug-12 21:47:45

I read the OP as being sincere, I thought it was pretty brave of her to mention her 'previous life' given that she must have known some people would take exception to it

PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 21:47:56

lol quint

PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 21:48:33

<huff> none noticed my 'almost but not at all witty' namechange

usualsuspect Thu 30-Aug-12 21:49:39

I went to watch Emmerdale.

K999 Thu 30-Aug-12 21:49:42

Yay, you're back Usual. Now that you've got that flouncing business out of the way can we turn this into the DRUNK thread?? grin

C'mon....you know you wanna! I've got change for the duke box grin

K999 Thu 30-Aug-12 21:50:24

Aaggh! Jukebox!

tethersend Thu 30-Aug-12 21:50:27

But... but...

<lip wobbles>

PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 21:51:04

woooohhhooooooo you've flounced and come back

thats good, we can put it all behind us now

PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 21:51:51

i'm not drunk K999 can I still stay when usual turns this into the drunk thread?

amillionyears Thu 30-Aug-12 21:52:29


Thelobsterswife Thu 30-Aug-12 21:53:12

Please don't go. I am quite new and mainly a lurker. I am generally too scared to post as some people on here's lives seem so different to mine. But then you come along on a thread and you normally say what I thinkand don't mince your words and to my mind talk a lot of sense. Stay stay stay!

K999 Thu 30-Aug-12 21:53:32

Course you can! You could maybe stock the bar and check the mixers so we can all get rat arsed.....

OlympiaMumsnet (MNHQ) Thu 30-Aug-12 21:54:05


<takes a bow> but really I was ruuuuuuude and shouldn't be applauded grin

<crap effort to not get deleted> grin

very crap effort. sorry

LST Thu 30-Aug-12 21:54:54

I noticed pippa trinity

PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 21:55:00

ok, thats cool

<puts out ashtrays, beanbags, mixers, glasses>

<arranges cushions and throws on the sofas and chairs>

Heavensmells Thu 30-Aug-12 21:55:24

Please don't go Usual. Not read the other thread but just want to say that I see you as the voice of reason on here. I always (in silent, lurky style) agree with you.

The baby name threads NEED you. grin

LST Thu 30-Aug-12 21:55:47

Welcome back usual smile

bitbewildered Thu 30-Aug-12 21:55:53

Don't go! I have wine

honeydragon Thu 30-Aug-12 21:56:09

Well if Usual can glounce than so can I. I'm feckin' pissed of at HQ for letting some ridiculous horrible comments stay on here - I don't know what they're playing at at the moment sad

PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 21:56:45

oops sorry Olivia blush

cool name change btw smile

PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 21:57:54

they've deleted them now honey

they cant watch all of the threads all of the time

Things are just screwed up at the moment - money worries, redundancy, benefit cuts and escalating costs .... It is no longer just something anyone an just shrug off or ignore.

Skins are very thin here at the moment and sometimes knowing to walk away from a thread isn't admitting defeat but just a self preservation technique ...

Northernlurkerisonholiday Thu 30-Aug-12 21:59:21

I am indeed on holiday. In the Inner Hebrides. Weather's been decent, very relaxing but the internet is practically steam powered.

MigratingCoconuts Thu 30-Aug-12 21:59:44

Has usual gone again

(I'm going to get worried every time there's a long gap since last postingsad)

K999 Thu 30-Aug-12 21:59:55

they can't watch all of the threads all of the time

Why the fuck not? I can manage it...grin

Usual I think MN will be worse off without your opinions fwiw.

*Trinity* Pippa I noticed too.

Viviennemary Thu 30-Aug-12 22:00:29

Food poisoning is no joke. Some of the worst cases of food poisoning comes from cooked meat. That's a fact.

tethersend Thu 30-Aug-12 22:00:33

usual, you can't go, you fucking moron.

What will I do without you?

<fills up again>

grin @ k999

honeydragon Thu 30-Aug-12 22:01:37

Pippa not that thread. And I am normally a staunch HQ defender. I've reported the same comment 3 times since this morning.

PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 22:01:51

she is having trouble loading mn tonight but I keep worrying too

I got deleted AND olivia quoted my post

all in one thread


PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 22:02:26

I thought you meant this thread honey

PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 22:02:49

<hugs> tether

PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 22:03:45

<plumps cushions ineffectually>

K999 Thu 30-Aug-12 22:04:02

Ive never had my post quoted by MN....fuckers grin

Mind, it prob helps if I lurk less and post more??

wordfactory Thu 30-Aug-12 22:04:07

Well I for one don't think you hould leave usual.

You add a different dimension to MN. And it needs that.

But, I do htink you should apologise to the OP on that thread

Maat Thu 30-Aug-12 22:05:37

usual, no-one is going to push you they wouldn't dare so don't jump.

Can you not just have a little hop & skip and then come back (in time for tomorrow) smile

honeydragon Thu 30-Aug-12 22:06:08

That's what's pissed me off, wade in and delete and a flouncy thread but ignore the bigotry comments. Apparently they are monitoring it, So that's ok.

LemarchandsBox Thu 30-Aug-12 22:12:52

<drapes self over honeydragon>

<and usual>

<starts to sing>

5inthebed Thu 30-Aug-12 22:13:50

Dont go, you're one of my all time fave posters. Who is going to stand up for us low life working classers if you leave sad

tethersend Thu 30-Aug-12 22:14:14

<cries again>

Pagwatch Thu 30-Aug-12 22:15:20

I don't really no what's going on. But no one should leave and everyone should sing. Loudly

LemarchandsBox Thu 30-Aug-12 22:15:57

<drapes self over tethersend>

<watches tethersend gather herself and leave>

Portofino Thu 30-Aug-12 22:16:03

I totally agree that you cannot posst your view without being a) ganged up on b) accused of troll hunting. The place is filled to overflowing with trolls/people workihg on novel plots etc.

PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 22:16:06

<sings loudly>

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 22:16:09

Get your arse on twitter lady smile

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 22:16:32

Not your arse Pippa, usual's arse

PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 22:16:48

<offers herself to be draped over>

LemarchandsBox Thu 30-Aug-12 22:17:05

<debates draping self over Pagwatch>

<throws caution to the wind>

PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 22:17:32

are you on my fb usual???

don't want to lose you sad

LemarchandsBox Thu 30-Aug-12 22:18:10

Twitter? shock

CumberdickBendybatch Thu 30-Aug-12 22:18:50


usualsuspect Thu 30-Aug-12 22:20:59

Wordfactory , I won't apologise to the OP of that thhread I stand by what I said

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 22:21:15


Can bitch about the beeatches then. It's all happening

PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 22:21:38

<hugs usual tight>

GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt Thu 30-Aug-12 22:22:17




Don't fucking go.

I have not read that thread but bloody hell you have been here years and know what the wanky threads are all about.

You are much loved and I personally would really like you to stay.

Come ON. Fucking hell you can watch Emmerdale Farm as well.

Viviennemary Thu 30-Aug-12 22:22:55

I was worse than you usual. I got a special mention for being horrible.

GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt Thu 30-Aug-12 22:23:03

I'm going to look at the wanky thread now.

Pagwatch Thu 30-Aug-12 22:24:07

<<singing is muffled>>

OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere Thu 30-Aug-12 22:24:12

That's right usual fuck off and leave me to face the baby name threads on my own shock

how could you!

PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 22:24:27


repeat ad nauseum

EchoBitch Thu 30-Aug-12 22:25:29

You must be proud Viv.

tethersend Thu 30-Aug-12 22:29:13

What happens on Twitter? I have an account and can't work out what to do with it. I only used it to check if the riots were going to torch my house last summer (they weren't).

But I digress.

<resumes weeping>

AgentZigzag Thu 30-Aug-12 22:30:21

I would say just namechange y'daft cunt/twat, but we'd all know it was you wink

LemarchandsBox Thu 30-Aug-12 22:31:01

I followed him off Being Human for two minutes.

I think you have to be Poppulier and everyfink sad

Viviennemary Thu 30-Aug-12 22:31:55

Not proud no. But it was only the same advice I gave DD once. But it was sort of tongue in cheek.

AgentZigzag Thu 30-Aug-12 22:31:59

And could you not have put the thread in AIBU for a bit more drama?

If you're going to flounce, flounce with excessive swearing style eh?

I really dont see the issue usual. Me and you, we have been out a winter night before. People have called us twunts, braindead or similar. So what?

I am sorry you feel upset. I shall order you some thick (seal) skin to wear for mumsnetting.

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 22:32:19

Ooh tethers, what is your name. You just sort of post. I don't post during work or I'd be fired lol but I post evenings - it is great fun when watching telly, commuting, random chat etc. is quite fun.

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Thu 30-Aug-12 22:32:33

Twitter is deeply mind boggling and upsetting. All these @ and %23 and I keep getting busty sex ladies following me.

BlackberryIce Thu 30-Aug-12 22:32:59

I've got all the bake off people on my twitter tethers and some other slebs. And some mumsnetters.

BlackberryIce Thu 30-Aug-12 22:33:40

I have some sex ladies following too shock

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 22:33:46

Lemarchandsbox - are you on there? As long as you follow back I will follow you smile. I am not popular grin and I don't give a shit lol

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 22:34:23

Who are you all you sods?

I LOVE bake off

PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 22:35:00

I'm no good at twitter.

LineRunner Thu 30-Aug-12 22:35:58

hello usual tis me off of the drunk threads. smile

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 22:36:25

No good your arse

LemarchandsBox Thu 30-Aug-12 22:38:55

No, fox.

I just stalked looked at Aiden a bit.

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 22:39:44

You know you want to Box

lissielou Thu 30-Aug-12 22:40:42

I thought I had you on my fb usual sad

tethersend Thu 30-Aug-12 22:40:58

LineRunner, thank you THANK YOU for following the rules of the song story game the other night. You saved my screen from getting stoved in grin

usual would've loved that game sad

<weeps some more>

honeydragon Thu 30-Aug-12 22:41:25

I gave up ..... There was confusion between me and a sexy lady of similar id.

I thought I was open minded about the sexy stuff. Turns out I'm not.

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Thu 30-Aug-12 22:45:39

You should call yourself dragongrannypants.

The thing is with twitter I never got anything interesting to say.

"made a cup of tea now I think I need a poo"

"think I'll have apricot jam today for a change"

And on it goes.

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 22:45:46

What sex stuff?

LineRunner Thu 30-Aug-12 22:47:20

Hi tethers, the Song Game brought out the prefect in me grin I even did SHOUTY.

usual knows my foibles.

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 22:47:23

Who are you on pickles twitter?

lissielou Thu 30-Aug-12 22:47:34

I hate twitter.

Love facebook.

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 22:47:34

Lol on twitter pickles

threesocksmorgan Thu 30-Aug-12 22:47:51

hope you change you mind op.
saw that shit thread and think you were bang on with your posts.

MmeLindor Thu 30-Aug-12 22:47:59

It is a shame when well known and well loved posters leave, but sometimes it is good to take a break.

Tbh, I was surprised at your response to the OP on the other thread, cause you are always straight-talking but that was downright mean. The OP was trying to make light of her situation, and was talking about how a year ago she would have judged the person she has become.

It was not sneering at poor people, it was sneering at what she was.

And I think a good bit of FUCK YOU to her ex - she is poor but at least she is not living with that wanker anymore.

You misunderstood the tone, and were nasty to someone who was obviously upset. If MN is making you react like that, then I think you need to take a step back for a while.

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 22:48:20

Lissielouuuu who are you on Facebook? Haven't seen you for yonks

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 22:49:14

No one sends me sex stuff fgs

MmeLindor Thu 30-Aug-12 22:50:03

I love love love twitter.

Doesn't matter if you have nothing to say, Pickles. We are all just blethering a load of shite.

usualsuspect Thu 30-Aug-12 22:50:17

I was a bit dramatic to start this thread I dunno what the fuck is up with me

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 22:51:06

Blame it on the menopause usual. I'm going to do that A LOT

Mmelindor, who are you on twitter?

lissielou Thu 30-Aug-12 22:51:48

Ah, I nced after a few indiscretions during the f4j stuff. I'm fairly easy to find on fb, have lots of mn friends and initials L W. How are you?

GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt Thu 30-Aug-12 22:52:56

I will tell you what is dramatic, my dd is sitting next to me and has just seen my user name and said 'ffs mum he is 25, what are you doing fancying a 25 year old Jamaican man'.

I told her to sod off.

Northernlurkerisonholiday Thu 30-Aug-12 22:53:13

I can blame almost anything on the point I'm at in my menstrual cycle. Of course that could mean I'm just bad tempered...............

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Thu 30-Aug-12 22:54:05

I've got the biggest crush on usain bolt. He makes me feel funny.

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 22:54:38

Good thanks smile hope all is well with you

LemarchandsBox Thu 30-Aug-12 22:54:44

I think you've got that wrong, MmeLindor.

Like a lot of others.

usual posted on the first page and then no later than p3.

Her posts were taken up and run with many pages later.

As I've said, a polarising OP.

tethersend Thu 30-Aug-12 22:55:31

Blame it on me, usual.

Say I made you do it.

Pleeeeeeaaase stay...

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Thu 30-Aug-12 22:56:01

I know I can cope with fb I spout shit on there but I get writers block on twitter something chronic. Plus I'm friends with work stuff so I can't say swears and be truthful. So I keep fb for fun.

PippasArse Thu 30-Aug-12 22:56:10

Yay don't go!!! grin woohooo we all love you. gringrin

MmeLindor Thu 30-Aug-12 22:56:30

I am not saying that Usual is the only one who was nasty on that thread, there was a whole load of snide posts. She is the one that this thread is about, so I am not sure what you mean by your post.

Viviennemary Thu 30-Aug-12 22:56:43

usual, of course you should stay. Lots of people want you to. Now nobody would even notice if I left. grin

LineRunner Thu 30-Aug-12 22:57:28

Isn't it my turn to take the blame?

That is one fucking weird thread, btw.

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Thu 30-Aug-12 22:57:33

She apologised straight away that op. if there was trouble on that there thread I don't think it was her fault.

MmeLindor Thu 30-Aug-12 22:58:45

Can you click through my blog to find Twitter name? Don't want to post it on here (blog url on profile)

You need a separate account for fun then you don't have to watch what you are saying.

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 22:59:06

Ok have sent a friend request lissie smile

threesocksmorgan Thu 30-Aug-12 22:59:24

the thread is shit, same old same old, someone in the in crowd starts a thread and is allowed to post judgy bollocks. people know the back story and jump on not in crowd posters that don't.

GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt Thu 30-Aug-12 22:59:42

I can't even look directly at Usain.

It makes me feel all quivery like looking at Dave Gahan in 1992 did.

I mean his arms make me speechless.

Which is a bit strange being his wife and all.

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Thu 30-Aug-12 23:00:50

Maybe I will try it!

Fox my name is my real
name so I can't say it for fear of an outing!

MmeLindor Thu 30-Aug-12 23:01:17

oh, or I could just PM you, Fox. Doh. Sorry, am freeeeezing and the blood is obviously not going to my brain.

Northernlurkerisonholiday Thu 30-Aug-12 23:01:31

No threesocks that isn't it at all. hmm

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Thu 30-Aug-12 23:01:53

If you have dibs I'll have to take "the beast" as the next best thing. I love his beast hands. But I'll always be giving bolt the glad eye.

Hullygully Thu 30-Aug-12 23:02:05

<baffled as per>

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Thu 30-Aug-12 23:03:23

Three socks that's not necessarily true, I don't know nothing about no cliques and no back stories. Honest. I just went with what the op said.

GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt Thu 30-Aug-12 23:03:29

<beady eye at hully>

Are you coming to the meet up?


usualsuspect Thu 30-Aug-12 23:04:57

Obviously some posters on that thread knew the back story.

MmeLindor Thu 30-Aug-12 23:05:19

I have no idea who the 'in crowd' is supposed to be and know nothing of the back story of the OP of that thread.

And I am pretty fed up with every single bunfight being used as an excuse to shit stir and whine about the 'in crowd'.

There are posters on MN who I really really love, and those who I think are absolute cunts (and I NEVER use that word).

I communicate with the former, and have a laugh and I try to ignore the latter. If we could all do that, then it would be a lot more fun, and MNHQ's gin bill would not be sky high.


SrirachaGirl Thu 30-Aug-12 23:06:04

Don't leave biotch. We've all misjudged tone or posted bull after a glass or three. Staaaaaaaaaaaaaay.

honeydragon Thu 30-Aug-12 23:06:40

<<immediately wonders which of MneLindors lists she is on>>

<<decides to be a better person>>

LemarchandsBox Thu 30-Aug-12 23:07:01

Must have been the 'downright mean' part MmeL.

As usual has Flounced with that thread as the last straw I do think it's relevant.

Chubfuddler Thu 30-Aug-12 23:07:02

No back story. Never knowingly encountered the op of that thread before today. Just a person in pain I felt for. That's all.

FunnysInLaJardin Thu 30-Aug-12 23:07:12

don't be such a drama queen usual, tis not like you at all

EnjoyResponsibly Thu 30-Aug-12 23:07:36

Dont go, I like to see you smile

NewStartSameStory Thu 30-Aug-12 23:07:39

Thing is I read that thread at the start. My blood boiled and I hit hide when it was less then 10posts long. It was not necessarily obvious from that first post that it was someone trying to make fun of their bad situation. It was laced with mn in jokes and it did cause confusion wrt tone with the first few posters. Imo it was a badly thought out OP.

threesocksmorgan Thu 30-Aug-12 23:08:09

i read the thread and obviously some people knew the back story and some people didn't so just as normal read the op for what it was.
to then jump on someone cos they don't know the back story is odd imo.
and please there is an in crowd on mn, they probably don't choose to be a member, but they are allowed to get away with a lot of shit.

NarkedRaspberry Thu 30-Aug-12 23:08:55

'someone in the in crowd starts a thread and is allowed to post judgy bollocks. people know the back story and jump on not in crowd posters that don't.'

I assumed she was a new poster. I gave it the benefit of the doubt. I've never heard of her before. I did notice the usual chippy shit coming from several posters that are well known names on here though. The 'back story' is in the OP!

Chubfuddler Thu 30-Aug-12 23:09:38


Christ. Seriously.

Hullygully Thu 30-Aug-12 23:10:18

who were the in crowd on that thread?

I thought it was distasteful btw <throws in lots of pennies>

SweetFannyCraddock Thu 30-Aug-12 23:10:46

I only read the op and instantly knew it was someone on their uppers who is in a situation they didnt think they would be in, this time last year.

LadyKopperberg Thu 30-Aug-12 23:10:54

Usual, long term poster here and what I will say is mn is what it is. Sometimes it does your head in, sometimes it's great. Just take a bit of time out and come back when you are over it. All in all it's a good site to be on.

usualsuspect Thu 30-Aug-12 23:11:16

I could have listed the people on that thread that came on just to have a pop at me.

threesocksmorgan Thu 30-Aug-12 23:11:43

so if there was no in crowd and no back story and you take the op on that thread at face value.....
it was a piss take of a poor persons life.
so Usual was spot on with her posts

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 23:12:11

I haven't even read the thread

I'm still waiting to hear why everyone else is getting sent sex and I'm not

Chubfuddler Thu 30-Aug-12 23:12:29

Not me then usual. I was the first poster after the op.

LadyKopperberg Thu 30-Aug-12 23:13:01

And fwiw usual I read the op after it just started and completely saw it as a piss take.

AmberLeaf Thu 30-Aug-12 23:13:27

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GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt Thu 30-Aug-12 23:13:50

I agree with fox


WalterAllen Thu 30-Aug-12 23:13:54

Hully, every time I have seen this happen to somebody, it is always done by the same group people and you also seem to have no idea what is going on. How can you not have worked it out by now?

SweetFannyCraddock Thu 30-Aug-12 23:14:49

I never get sex messages either.

that makes me sad.

LineRunner Thu 30-Aug-12 23:14:49

Good points from Amber.

Hullygully Thu 30-Aug-12 23:15:07

Walter, you are going to have to help me out here..

GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt Thu 30-Aug-12 23:15:11

Yes hully, you disingenuous twat you.

MmeLindor Thu 30-Aug-12 23:15:44

What are you talking about, LMB? Am I not allowed to have an opinion? I said that I found Usual to be downright mean on that thread, and that she is not normally like that.

I am truly bemused at what you are getting at.

<consults lists> Hmm, well...

Hullygully Thu 30-Aug-12 23:15:46

yy amber. V queer indeed. Poor person's lifestyle bingo.

tethersend Thu 30-Aug-12 23:15:48

Hully, if ever there was a time for a lovebomb, it's now...

GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt Thu 30-Aug-12 23:15:49

I haven't had sex since Girls Aloud were last in the charts.

Someone should help me aht.

honeydragon Thu 30-Aug-12 23:15:50

Sometimes in the deepest darkest most cynical portion of my soul I suspect some people think only the rich can truly experience what it is like to be poor, because the rest of the plebs have never known any different and must therefore be happy.

Now so this admission will get reported and destructed

Oi Hully you are a big fat cunt who wants badly to bump ugliest with John Prescott!!!!!!

LineRunner Thu 30-Aug-12 23:15:56

On another thread, someone is saying that 'hi' is in fact a sex message.

So we could all be getting them all the time, every day.

SweetFannyCraddock Thu 30-Aug-12 23:16:08

which group? Im confused!

usualsuspect Thu 30-Aug-12 23:16:36

Stop making me laugh grin

LemarchandsBox Thu 30-Aug-12 23:16:56

Hi! <smile>

Hullygully Thu 30-Aug-12 23:17:22

Eh? Am hopelessly baffled. Am I being accused of being one of em (wasn't on said thread), or a victim? Or something else entirely?

Walter? Walter?

Chubfuddler Thu 30-Aug-12 23:17:47

I want whatever honey dragon is on.

NarkedRaspberry Thu 30-Aug-12 23:18:16

It was a very odd thread. That's why I assumed it was a <ahem> new poster. The response was very full on though.

I think Walter is accusing you of place marking Hully. confused

GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt Thu 30-Aug-12 23:18:33

I think perhaps some people view poverty as a short term thing which can be escaped, without actually thinking that this kind of life is lived by people daily who simply do not have the wherewiothal to change.

It's not slumming it. It's not being on your uppers. It is life. Primark, cheap crap food, Macdonalds as a treat, school uniform purchase a fucking nightmare, this is every day reality and they have not know any different.

WalterAllen Thu 30-Aug-12 23:18:40

Hully, I'm not going to stir up some murky festering pool by going into details of MN leaving/getting kicked off/fight threads.

I just enjoy your posts on these threads because every time it happens, I am wondering how long it will be before you come on and are totally confused by what is going on!

AmberLeaf Thu 30-Aug-12 23:18:45

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LineRunner Thu 30-Aug-12 23:18:48

Here - the sex messages of 'hi'.

You will note my hopelessely naive comment.

honeydragon Thu 30-Aug-12 23:18:58

Chub you'd be amazed how often I hear that grin

GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt Thu 30-Aug-12 23:19:43

Oh fucking hell line hi is a sex message?

threesocksmorgan Thu 30-Aug-12 23:20:07

WalterAllen you are so right

Hullygully Thu 30-Aug-12 23:20:10


1. Who were the in crowd on that thread?

2. Am I accused of something or not?

3. Why is everyone so cross?

4. Who wants to sex poor withered up Gerrof?

WalterAllen Thu 30-Aug-12 23:20:18

And, no, I wasn't asking you of being one of them. I just find your confusion funny. It is like watching Inception.

Chubfuddler Thu 30-Aug-12 23:20:24

It's the ops life for now getorf. She may get out if it she may not. It used to be mine. I know what it's like which is why by any means (channels Scarlett Ohara) I'm never going back there.

honeydragon Thu 30-Aug-12 23:21:15

Thank Getorf. You said it better than me and now it's been said twice I don't have to worry about getting beaten about.

<<tried to peer at MmeLinfors list>>

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 23:21:24

Where is this sex thread?

Not only am I not getting sent sex, I can't even find it when it is there waiting for me

Hullygully Thu 30-Aug-12 23:21:27

Why is Walter right? Am I really the only confused one here?

GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt Thu 30-Aug-12 23:21:44

Oh walter


Who are you?

usualsuspect Thu 30-Aug-12 23:21:44

You are not one of them Hully.

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Thu 30-Aug-12 23:22:08

getorf you want sex messages when your married to the bolt!

Some people are never happy.

honeydragon Thu 30-Aug-12 23:22:15

<<tries to peer at MmeLindors list>>

<<smashes phone>>

SweetFannyCraddock Thu 30-Aug-12 23:22:33

one of who? <stamps foot>

GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt Thu 30-Aug-12 23:23:03


I am not really married to him. I just wish it with my heart.

<bowed head>

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 23:23:19

We are right on track for a clique thread

About now

Or a thread with a list of in mumsnetters

<groundhog day>

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Thu 30-Aug-12 23:23:39

You want to get on plenty of fish. My sister is on there and gets pictures of torsos and penis-es sent to her.

Hullygully Thu 30-Aug-12 23:24:16

Is walter a snake?

Could you do the sex with walter the snake perhaps?

GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt Thu 30-Aug-12 23:24:18

<chirps up>

Can you IMAGINE being married to Usain.

I mean honestly.

What a fucking wonderful life.

<starts crying in rage and disappointment>

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 23:24:26

Omfg I have never had a penis pic fgs

LineRunner Thu 30-Aug-12 23:24:49

Plenty of Fish is horrific.

GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt Thu 30-Aug-12 23:24:54



foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 23:25:07

I have nearly been on mumsnet 10 years I realised. 10 years. No sex messages or penises in that time. What a waste.

GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt Thu 30-Aug-12 23:25:22

I am NOT doing internet dating mullarkey with MEN sending pictures of PENII

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 23:25:44

I thought plenty of fish was a euphemism for Cod

I didn't want to ask what she was doing with penises

NewStartSameStory Thu 30-Aug-12 23:25:48

I saw that thread. LineRunner. I think it applied to msgs on dating sites only though.

Hullygully Thu 30-Aug-12 23:25:56

No it would be rubbish, gerrof. He'd be all healthy food and early nights and no semen expulsion cos of saving his MANJUICE for super fast running. It would be dead frustrating. You'd be better off with walter.

SweetFannyCraddock Thu 30-Aug-12 23:26:08

foxy, Ive never had any dirty messages either.

I do get regular emails offering penis rentals though.

they are nice.

MmeLindor Thu 30-Aug-12 23:26:13

Ok. I had another look, LeMarchandsBox, to see if I could see what you are seeing.

Su someone was really nasty but that wasn't a name I recognised.

Then Usual was snide.

Then some people told them not to be so nasty. Among them


all jolly nice posters, but I can't say that I have noticed them being part of a crowd.

I think that people picked Usual up on her posts cause she is normally straight talking but kind. And this wasn't kind.

NewStartSameStory Thu 30-Aug-12 23:26:18

After all who would want their grandparents/parents/kids sending them a sex msg <shudders>

tethersend Thu 30-Aug-12 23:26:30

I'm going to have a vodka and a fag in honour of usual's about-turn.


GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt Thu 30-Aug-12 23:26:48

Yes but I could touch him.

I could feed him wheatgrass shots and rub his bicep I SAID BICEP

LineRunner Thu 30-Aug-12 23:27:21

I hope so NewStartSameStory otherwise I'm really going to have to change the subject heading of emails to my sister.

MmeLindor Thu 30-Aug-12 23:27:52

lolol Fox.

I am falling behind. I should be talking about sex tips and stuff.

How come I have never had sex tweets?

honeydragon Thu 30-Aug-12 23:28:20

I thought Ussain was all in favour of the sexy time when training? Didn't he nearly break a nice young lady with his erm repeated enthusiasm shall we say?

Hullygully Thu 30-Aug-12 23:28:57

He has a boyfriend you know...

LineRunner Thu 30-Aug-12 23:29:09

He's quite big, isn't he?

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 23:29:31

We are clearly following the wrong fish MmeLindor

usualsuspect Thu 30-Aug-12 23:30:01

It wasn't them MmeLindor.

They are much more subtle than that.

honeydragon Thu 30-Aug-12 23:30:34

He doesn't Hully. He is very polite in rejecting potential boyfriends though....

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 23:31:02

I am in Florida and going to water parks with the kids and they have lifeguards <swoon>

I have to be so careful as I'm a bit fucking old now and come over all young maaaan and look like some hideous sex starved crinkly old hag

Hullygully Thu 30-Aug-12 23:31:22

Are they another secret group? <brain boils>

usualsuspect Thu 30-Aug-12 23:31:24

I'm not kind to posters that think its funny to take the piss out of people that shop in Primark and Asda.

<stands on soapbox>

MmeLindor Thu 30-Aug-12 23:31:34

Obviously, Fox.

Whats the point of this here Twitter if I don't get sexy tweets.

Here - what happened to all the sexyladybots? The spam followers - don't see them around much these days.

Cynner Thu 30-Aug-12 23:32:08

Wait!!! Can we go back to Hi as sex thing? My bestie American friend starts all conversations with Hi!..is she sending me secret messages of lust?

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Thu 30-Aug-12 23:32:37

Big orrible pen-ii as well. Wonky ones too.

Hullygully Thu 30-Aug-12 23:33:00

fox - I am terrified when I speak to young lovelies these days that they'll think realise I fancy them, so I preface everything with, speaking as a really old person etc

Cynner Thu 30-Aug-12 23:33:55

Sorry, Usual did not mean to hijack your farewell thread, but I MUST KNOW!

lilachair Thu 30-Aug-12 23:34:02

Oh fuck sorry. Don't leave usual

Hullygully Thu 30-Aug-12 23:34:17

<has to agree with ususal> Even if someone has had a big comedown in life, you can't use poor people's real lives as a jokey, oh woe look what I have come to. Not the ticket.

Chubfuddler Thu 30-Aug-12 23:34:34

But no one was taking the piss out if shipping in asda or primark. Really they weren't.

<head desk>

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Thu 30-Aug-12 23:34:43

But I'm not sure she was taking the piss.

I think there was just two ways it could be taken, that's all.

I would not never condone piss taking like that, being someone who does all those things. I've never even been in a Boden.

MmeLindor Thu 30-Aug-12 23:34:55

Don't you see that she was makign fun of herself - the person she used to be.

She basically said that a year ago she would have been all judgey pants and now she knows how hard it is to be in that situation.

I understood it as a 'jesus, how shallow and judgey would I have been if I had seen me a year ago'.

She wasn't making fun of those who shop in Primark, she was poking fun at those who judge them, cause we are all but a sudden redundancy, or a wanker of husband away from poverty.

Thats how I read it anyway.

LemarchandsBox Thu 30-Aug-12 23:34:58

The thread started as a 'type', MmeL.

There's a lot of it about these days.

Usual was jumped on for responding to that. In quite a nasty way, many pages later and long after she had said her piece.

It was ganging up. Don't know why, don't know who. But retrospective ganging-up it was.

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Thu 30-Aug-12 23:35:25

Let's all agree to disagree and work on these sex messages.

Hi cyn

SweetFannyCraddock Thu 30-Aug-12 23:35:36

mme, me too.

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 23:35:45

Lolol hully. I do much the same. I am obviously so careful that all the gorgeous young lads I work with told me I am a fabulous mother figure for them (said with no irony)

I AM A MOTHER FIGURE now fgs. No more sexy and desirable. Ok they may be young enough to be my children but still lol


Viviennemary Thu 30-Aug-12 23:37:04

Asda, chicken nuggets, sausage rolls. Same old same old.

LineRunner Thu 30-Aug-12 23:38:06

I didn't find it at all self-deprecating. Just weird.

TiggyD Thu 30-Aug-12 23:38:37

I am not merely marking my place. I am making a purposeful contribution to the thread.

Cynner Thu 30-Aug-12 23:38:59

Hiiiii, Pickles! Are we all sexed up now? Just for record, i have never bin in Boden, either...

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Thu 30-Aug-12 23:40:46

What are we missing? I might order a catalogue.

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 23:41:05

We are all distinctly unsexed up

You are all waiting for the clique and the list innit

WalterAllen Thu 30-Aug-12 23:41:10

The OP could have been taken in a number of ways. It was confusing and people were confused by it. I didn't immediately get that the OP was taking the piss out of herself/ making a commentary on her difficult position because I didn't know that shopping at Asda was a thing to be looked down upon, to descend to or whatever.

It is just a supermarket; it isn't full of zombies crawling about in the dark.

I feel sorry for the OP of the other thread and for Usualsuspect.

usualsuspect Thu 30-Aug-12 23:41:20

It was weird, and obviously some posters on the thread knew her.

D0oinMeCleanin Thu 30-Aug-12 23:41:29

Ooh usual you nasty wee girl you!

At this point I would say that I thought something was a bit off about that thread too, but that would be nasty, so I won't wink

<barricades usual in>

Chubfuddler Thu 30-Aug-12 23:42:39

Not me. Never seen the op before.

honeydragon Thu 30-Aug-12 23:42:53

I am really quite poorly and getting confused. Usual are you staying please?

usualsuspect Thu 30-Aug-12 23:44:16

Well I've just read Cockypants delightful post to me on the other thread and I'm all rahhhhhhhhh again now

MmeLindor Thu 30-Aug-12 23:44:17

Well, Usual, we shall have to agree to disagree on this one.

Stick around and we can find something to agree on.

I am temping this week in an IT company and the young men were chatting about girls today. I felt really really old.

perfumedlife Thu 30-Aug-12 23:44:31

I saw it exactly as MmeLindor. I thought the op was saying here I am living a different life, it's as hard as I thought and I should never have judged. She sounded really down. I know what it's like to be poor and then have money and lose it, for whatever reason. Even now I am comfortable, I loathe the neighbour who sneered at me unloading Asda shopping from my car 'Oh I see you've been slumming it in Spasda' angry Total ignorant snob.

And I think usualsuspect is a cool poster who is blunt straight talking but kind normallly and tonight seemed to me an over reaction. I don't know about any back story though as I rarely post these days so apologies if I'm wrong. But don't flounce usual . Will be a ghost town soon at this rate.

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Thu 30-Aug-12 23:44:56

I didn't though I agree some knew her, but they all seemed to be sympathetic so I assumed she'd posted about it before.

I joined in late so I saw all her comments. She had apologised by then and explained a bit more about her situation.

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 23:45:10

Yes I get that at work. It's like eavesdropping on another world isn't it. A new stage of life!

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Thu 30-Aug-12 23:45:55

Don't be all raaaaaaah. Be all weeeeeeeeeee.

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 23:46:06

Are you back in the uk MmeLindor? (were you ever here, can't remember now)

Hullygully Thu 30-Aug-12 23:47:04

<hands round lovehearts>

There isn't nearly enough agreeing to disagree on this yere site.

Ponders shipping in Asda - sounds interesting. I am IN!

MmeLindor Thu 30-Aug-12 23:50:25

I am back, Fox. I haven't lived in UK for 20 years so it is an adventure.

20 years ago next Monday, I left UK and my life changed forever.

foxinsocks Thu 30-Aug-12 23:53:22

Wow. You enjoying being back?

SuperB0F Thu 30-Aug-12 23:53:53

I didn't post on that thread to attack usual. And I've never attacked her in the past. Quite the reverse. I actually remember being up late into the night with her when she was upset quite recently. I posted to say to the OP that she should stop justifying herself to all the wankers (ALL), and to thank her stars she wasn't a cunt (meaning like her husband). Usual then snappily asked if she was a cunt or a wanker, I replied by saying I disagreed with her, and I thought her unkindness had unleashed a torrent of twats on the thread, which it really did. But I wasn't rude to her, or attacking. There was absolutely no need for her to take the hump at me.

Quite how this has turned into a conspiracy to drive usual off MN, I don't know.

Usual- stay, go, take a break, whatever. It can be a bit shit on here sometimes, I often feel pissed off with it myself. But there's enough crap around to get upset about without inventing evil plots to oust you- it's completely unnecessary.

usualsuspect Thu 30-Aug-12 23:56:11

Tonight was the first night ever that MN has made me cry.

Time to walk away when that happens I reckon.

If thats being a drama queen then sorry but thats how I feel.

Northernlurkerisonholiday Thu 30-Aug-12 23:57:36

Uusal - I haven't seen anybody post that they knew the OP of the other thread from before that thread. I certainly don't remember the name.

Hullygully Thu 30-Aug-12 23:57:43

<wonders whether to asctually read the thread>

QuickLookUsainBolt Thu 30-Aug-12 23:58:10

I think usual is upset, I dont think telling her she was wr

NewStartSameStory Thu 30-Aug-12 23:58:30

Then take a break. Don't flounce in the heat of the moment. If you decide you want to flounce at a later date then do it. But not when you are upset.

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot Thu 30-Aug-12 23:59:36

People did seen to know she'd had some troubles.

Usual im sorry you feel like that. That's really rubbish.

AmberLeaf Thu 30-Aug-12 23:59:42

Read it Hully

foxinsocks Fri 31-Aug-12 00:01:14

I haven't read it and I am sure my life will not be any worse off for not reading it

Don't cry usual

Come sit next to me and debate whether to eat dinner

I am 5 hours behind you all. I think I have put on about 5kg (seriously) and dh is talking about dinner fgs

I had a McD for lunch and they put about 3 inches of cream on the milkshake. I have never in my life eaten this much unhealthy food. No wonder they have an obesity problem here

And don't even mention Churros

perfumedlife Fri 31-Aug-12 00:02:44

Cry, sleep and decide later usual . Loads of people are worried and on edge right now and when we feel attacked or patronised it's hard not to react. Very hard. But worth it to cool off, especially if you are proven right and unable to come back and gloat cause you've flounced and de-reg'd grin Maddening that.

Empusa Fri 31-Aug-12 00:03:00

Usual don't go! I may not agree with you on all things, but I always feel less miserable on the never ending stream of benefit bashing threads knowing you are there alongside me. It feels slightly less hopeless.

QuickLookUsainBolt Fri 31-Aug-12 00:05:10

Sodding phone.

Usual is upset and I don't think coming on her thread to tell her why you think she was wrong is a great idea.

Usual don't leave. Mn is very weird at the moment. Hang on in there.

As an aside. I'm very upset to see Getorf has gone and married Usain. I thought he was mine. sad

FoxSake Fri 31-Aug-12 00:06:34

When your crying because people on the Internet disagree with you i'd say it's a good time to take a break, speaking as someone who is just back from a break.

Don't de reg though, that's just silly grin

Hullygully Fri 31-Aug-12 00:06:58

I've read it now.


that is all.

usualsuspect Fri 31-Aug-12 00:09:03

Message deleted by Mumsnet for breaking our Talk Guidelines. Replies may also be deleted.

perfumedlife Fri 31-Aug-12 00:09:38

QuickLook the op of the other thread was upset and usual came on to tell her why she thought she was wrong. It's what people do on here. And people are trying to say they don't agree, that they see it differently, they are not judge and jury telling her she is wrong really at all.

FoxSake Fri 31-Aug-12 00:12:24

Ha Ha, that's good. I'm pleased that you don't care what I think. I wonder why you care so much what others think but not me?

WAIIIIIITTTTT!!!! Fucking wait! This shit can't happen on a Thursday, I work on Thursday's and I've just got home to this! <not happy>

I need to read both threads now <gets grump on>

C'mon usual, I have no idea what's happened you understand but whatever it is we can't be having with this. Im gonna miss you and if you EVER come back with a name change you must promise to pm me so I know who you are ok? Loves ya x

MmeLindor Fri 31-Aug-12 00:13:15

Well, anyone who was beginning to have sympathy with you will have likely lost it with that post to FoxSake.

She was being nice to you.

usualsuspect Fri 31-Aug-12 00:13:54

I've been disagreed with hundreds of times on here.

I'm not a fucking shrinking violet.

usualsuspect Fri 31-Aug-12 00:14:23

Yes she was being lovely on the other thread too.

BlackberryIce Fri 31-Aug-12 00:15:19

All these fox posters is confusing! Well, 2 of them

Op on other thread is now going to throw herself under a train! I think you both should just namechange..

SweetFannyCraddock Fri 31-Aug-12 00:15:45

Ummm... Right!

AmberLeaf Fri 31-Aug-12 00:16:19

Foxsake wasnt being nice! read her post on the other thread.

MmeLindor Fri 31-Aug-12 00:16:30

Actually, Usual. I have to say that you are not sounding happy at all. I don't 'know' you really, other than from what you have posted on MN, but I don't recall you being so quick to take offence.

Hope you are ok.

AmberLeaf Fri 31-Aug-12 00:17:13

Yeah its all getting a bit dramatic over there.


usualsuspect Fri 31-Aug-12 00:18:03

You know what I'm done.

MN can fuck right off.

LemarchandsBox Fri 31-Aug-12 00:18:22

Is she heck as like, BI.

Think everyone should take a step back and tell themselves it's only Mumsnet.

foxinsocks Fri 31-Aug-12 00:18:52

I was the first fox though <twirls>

FoxSake Fri 31-Aug-12 00:20:03

I'll hold my hands up and say that I said you were being unkind on the other thread because I do think you were being unkind it's hardly the end of the world and yes on this thread I am being as nice as I can be because I think it would be a shame to de reg over people not agreeing with you.

I don't really know why I'm bothering though because to be honest I care not, it's all a bit playground.

MmeLindor Fri 31-Aug-12 00:20:33

I hadn't read Fox's post on the other thread. I wish we could keep the argument to one thread, this is getting confusing.

Ok, that was a bit snide, but I have seen worse.

QuickLookUsainBolt Fri 31-Aug-12 00:25:27

Perfumed I just don't understand why some people are comhaving a go at Usual when she is clearly upset.

The very thing people are accusing Usual of doing on the other thread confused

D0oinMeCleanin Fri 31-Aug-12 00:27:46

I think it's all gone a bit them vs us. T'is easy to forget that there is a real person behind the screen.

I didn't see any nastiness to begin with. The nastiness started after usual was first accused of having a go, imo, anyway. Then it all went a bit crazy.

SaggyTitsAndHairyToes Fri 31-Aug-12 00:28:11

it's funny i started reading the other thread thinking what the hell has happened to mn, got to usuals post about primark and asda and agreed! i then stopped reading and clicked 'hide' thinking what the hell is going on around here right now??
started reading this and now im gutted! i love your posts usual! i name change alot but your one of my favs.

sorry for shit spelling/typing/grammar- one very tired mum today!
i been feeling the same, alot of trolls about.

WalterAllen Fri 31-Aug-12 00:28:30

I don't think usualsuspect was particularly mean, by MN standards.

I sympathise with the OP. In a similar vein, I remember the Poor Kids tv show and subsequent thread. At the time, I thought (but didn't post), how can they not afford to get their kids' hair cut for that long that the kids are being mocked over it? Now I can't afford to get my kids' hair cut for school starting next week. And that is despite MIL paying for 5 x school shoes (trainers, football boots, ordinary school shoes).

And the OP is in a horrible situation re the husband. It must hurt every time she is scrimping on stuff because her ex-husband doesn't seem to care about his kids anymore. And I agree about coming to despise Pasta.

But on the other hand, a lot (if not most) people on MN are ordinary and shop at places like Asda, and don't see it as some kind of terrible thing. So I can see usualsuspect's point.

BonkeyMollocks Fri 31-Aug-12 00:28:33

Usual have a break and come back.when you feel better.
We all need it from time to.time .

And tell anyone you need to to fuck off, its therapeutic!

MmeLindor Fri 31-Aug-12 00:32:01

I agree, Walter.

Usual was mean, people were mean to Usual but for MN it was still quite mild. Not really worth getting MN collective knickers in a twist about.

I think we all need to calm down and have some camomile tea.

you lot have it, I think it tastes of piss and shall drink gin instead

NaiceSpam Fri 31-Aug-12 00:37:37

Gerrof why won't no one do sex with you? You can tell me, whisper in me ear... <leans over to slyly reveal bosoms>

WRT The Thread; even if it was ill-considered, I don't think lila realised/meant it. When I was A Bit of a Noob I started a thread to explode my rage pants about that Wright tosser who made a really snide comment about Susan Boyle (bizarrely) basically calling her ugly, and I came on to rant and rave about it. I said it was "not as if SuBo were Jordan or nuffin", i.e. someone who is famous for their looks and puts themself out there to be judged on them.

I had 4,000 people pounce on me asking if I thought it was OK to judge Jordan just because she's blah blah.

Didn't we all in the beginning?

foxinsocks Fri 31-Aug-12 00:38:49

Omg you should have SEEN my first thread

It was so bad I had to name change to foxinsocks and it's stayed that way since 2003/4

CumberdickBendybatch Fri 31-Aug-12 00:50:43


foxinsocks Fri 31-Aug-12 00:52:33

Ah my first wonky dick, how fantastic

CumberdickBendybatch Fri 31-Aug-12 01:22:41

Arf, xposts!

honeydragon Fri 31-Aug-12 06:14:56


Because the MightyMumsnetDefenders are out in force again. Wonderful human brings who pick one person do defend to the hilt and another to bully.

BOF, having read the thread I think a bit of cross posting went on. Usual didn't mention you and after you pointed out you were not slagging usual off it was fine. I think your fairly sensible post was drowning in a sea of spiteful ones though.

Foxsake why come on one thread to be nice to the op and be horrible to another confused it's not like disagreeing over politics on one thread and having a laugh over Peter Andre on another. You are talking about the same person in the same situation.

Usual most of the time when I see you post you are being abrasive to the point of rudeness. You can't then whine if people take you up on he fight you are so desperate to have. You may call it being honest, but then people are going I be honest back with you about what they think.

Basically, if you can't take it, don't dish it out.

toriap2 Fri 31-Aug-12 07:28:09

Please don't go! You are the reason I delurked and got the confidence to post on mumsnet! You made me so welcome on yourdrunk thread!

FrothyOM Fri 31-Aug-12 07:34:07

Don't go

rubyrubyruby Fri 31-Aug-12 07:38:20

<<disclaimer>> I haven't read this thread or the other one but I don't want usual to go.

That is all.

amillionyears Fri 31-Aug-12 07:39:00

Usual,if there is a clique going on,they will disintegrate eventually.And more and more people will eventually spot the clique.
Have you ever read the book "Queen Bees and Wanabes".It is actually a book for teenagers,but decribes cliques perfectly.
There are cliques in most schools,and elsewhere.If you read the book,you will be able to work out the characters in the book,and match it to any clique.I bought the book for my DD once,and she found it enlightening,and took it to her school,and people worked out the characters in the clique.

So did usual go or what?

amillionyears don't be silly, you can match up personalities of any book characters to different people.

I could match up the characterisations of the bloody Bennet sisters to groups of friends in a school.

there are no cliques and incrowds

SuperB0F Fri 31-Aug-12 08:17:10

Honeydragon, I'm not sure what the misunderstanding is. It should be plain enough from the other thread, which if people read it, will tally with my account. But it looks to me like usualsuspect has got upset specifically from something I've said, or she imagines I've said, or someone has wrongly told her I've said: in the other thread, she rather bizarrely accuses me of having the power to get people kicked off mumsnet. And the title of THIS thread seems to reference that, hence why I am concluding that her flounce has something to do with me more than other posters.

Obviously, it's upset her, which is why I've tried to explain that she has misread things.

But it is a pretty harsh and unfair slur on me too. If anybody cares to ask MNHQ, they could confirm (I think), that:
a) I've never reported a post of usualsuspect's
b) I've never conducted any sort of campaign to get anybody banned, nor have I 'over-reported' any particular poster
c) I am not some kind of golden child to them: in fact, they probably think I'm a bit of a knob.

I've now seen a couple of coded references to me being a bully since this thread started, so I can only assume that there is some gossip somewhere via pm or similar, slagging me off. Which is pretty unfair, as I've done nothing wrong.

And I've just seen that Hecate is leaving. I hate this place at full moon.

honeydragon Fri 31-Aug-12 08:30:03

Ah, I was just going by your post on that thread, BOF. I couldn't see anything in it offensive, only that it was misread by Usual which you pointed out.

And agree wholeheartedly about the full moon.

honeydragon Fri 31-Aug-12 08:31:38

Oh and sorry grin

I just thought your post was in the middle of some snipey ones and had not been read properly - hence misunderstood.

FoxSake Fri 31-Aug-12 08:32:42

Because pointing out that she was wrong on one thread is not being nasty, where have I been nasty about usual? I said it was unkind, I stand by that, her comments were unkind to lilac however I came on this thread and was nice because I didn't want usual to dereg over one thread.

It is possible to disagree with someone,point out that they were wrong and still get on. I have not been harsh or false, I don't think. If I came accross that way I apologise I have just stated what I thought.

amillionyears Fri 31-Aug-12 08:33:19

ABF,read the book.It will be an eye opener.

Hullygully Fri 31-Aug-12 08:36:39

I love it that everyone goes to bed, gets up and carries on.

What's happened with Hec?

honeydragon Fri 31-Aug-12 08:38:50

Fgs don't show Hully the Hec threads. She'll throw PARD out the window and go nuclear.

TiggyD Fri 31-Aug-12 08:41:11

Lilachair attempted a darkly humorous post which according to some didn't really come off. I do feel for her in the position she's in. It must be hard for her to embrace the changes in her life.

Usual got upset as she thought it was mocking her. I can see her point. The OP apologised. That's when Usual should have let it lie and both her and the OP should have walked away and made banana muffins. (Separately).

amillionyears, I don't need to read a childrens book to open my eyes. ive seen the film

Hullygully Fri 31-Aug-12 08:42:09

I'm leaving too. Everyone has gone COMPLETELY BARKING (have skimmed Hec thread)

Pagwatch Fri 31-Aug-12 08:42:20

What happened with Hecate ....

Op wrote the thread about refusing to wash mils pants
Hecate posted on that thread supporting her
Op got upset by other nasty comments and hid the thread
Op then to some pms
Op then started thread on aibu alleging that Hecate sent her an abusivepm
Hecate came to the thread late and was very upset that some people believed she would do such a thing and now says she is leaving
Hecate has posted a shot of the pm on her profile
The pm read : dear op. sorry you are upset. Yanbu. love Hecate
The op replied : fuck off you foul bullying ow

All very batty

Maryz Fri 31-Aug-12 08:44:31


What Tiggy said.

<whispers: Honeydragon, lovely to see you back - where's the other one (that isn't you) gone?>

What's up with Hecate?

<wanders off to search, confused as per usual>

Maryz Fri 31-Aug-12 08:45:19

xposted with Paggy.

shock [baffled] confused

honeydragon Fri 31-Aug-12 08:46:35

It's definitely full moon. Tiggy wrote an entirely sensible post shock

And very well said it was too.

rubyrubyruby Fri 31-Aug-12 08:46:42

<<sits around waiting to go barking mad>>

Pagwatch Fri 31-Aug-12 08:47:04

The clique thing fucks me off in every possible way.

Either it is just mates chatting and others hating it = possibly annoying but frankly tough shit.
Or it is a sinister thing with people plotting to get others excluded from the in crowd = fucking childish
Or some people just like to pretend it is a sinister thing to shit stir and find ways to get at people they don't like = fucking childish

People muttering darkly about cliques create more bad feeling than any bloody cliques possibly could. It makes everyone paranoid

Hullygully Fri 31-Aug-12 08:47:55

Who remembers the days of proper fights? <wistful>

This stuff is all just nuts.

Hullygully Fri 31-Aug-12 08:48:32

But there are snakes in the midst, Paggy, I seen em.

TiggyD Fri 31-Aug-12 08:49:16

"Tiggy wrote an entirely sensible post"

Yay! Fuck you evil badger people trying to control my brain with your smell ray!

Pagwatch Fri 31-Aug-12 08:49:41

I don't mind a good proper fight.

It is the endless fucking, cunting, wanking sub-text that drives me batty

Has somebody been nasty to Hecate?


I miss most of the fistycuffs, luckily. But this. sad

honeydragon Fri 31-Aug-12 08:52:04

Pag- I said don't show Hully. I blame you for her current distress. Now fix her!

Hullygully Fri 31-Aug-12 08:53:23

I't like people getting the nukes out because someone forgot to put sugar in their tea.

And IT'S ALL SO UNNECESSARY, a little rational explanation, good will and understanding would go a long way.

Gosh, it is not even 9 am, and I need chocolate already.

Hullygully Fri 31-Aug-12 08:56:51

Dd ate all mine - that she bought me. Her justification was, "Well, I thought about it and I decided it was all right as I paid for it." <cries>

LemarchandsBox Fri 31-Aug-12 08:57:59

It's actually sunshine out there. I have to go and catch some rays.

Can no one else leave while I'm gone? sad

Pagwatch Fri 31-Aug-12 08:58:38

Sorry Honey

On a lightly different note, did anyone see that Hec has posted a 'fuck the fuck off you total fuck' style rant. Hec went batshit!
Who knew it was possible

D0oinMeCleanin Fri 31-Aug-12 08:59:18

School is back next week.

mistlethrush Fri 31-Aug-12 09:00:16

I am hoping that the sane, sensible members of MN (including Hecate and Hully, and no doubt others too) stay put and allow the full moon madness that seems to have overtaken MN at the moment to die down so that normal threads are once again possible.

WofflingOn Fri 31-Aug-12 09:01:06

'Dd ate all mine - that she bought me. Her justification was, "Well, I thought about it and I decided it was all right as I paid for it." <cries>'

I feel your pain, I was once given a box of choccies with all DS's favourites already gone. His rationalisation was that I'd have shared anyway so he took his portion first...hmm

So where is Hecates thread? And that laundry thread?

Pagwatch Fri 31-Aug-12 09:03:39

Fucking hell. Hec is a potty mouth and Hully is an example of sane and sensible!

mistlethrush Fri 31-Aug-12 09:05:16

Quint - AIBU

this one?

A thread started by the same op vilifying hecate?

Hullygully Fri 31-Aug-12 09:12:54

Yes, Pag. And? <gimlet eyes>

Pagwatch Fri 31-Aug-12 09:13:59

<<wanders away whistling>>

WandaDoff Fri 31-Aug-12 09:25:19

Usual don't go. Please.

Pinot Fri 31-Aug-12 09:27:59

Christ, I missed everything.

The other thread was 'orrible, but not worth flouncing over. Don't leave, usual. Genuinely, don't leave. It's not OK to take the piss out of being skint FFS.

Hec can not leave. She CAN NOT.

LadyBeagleEyes Fri 31-Aug-12 09:37:08

Another one saying don't leave, please Usual, if people like you leave the po faced and humourless will take over.
We need you.
I didn't go on that thread BTW as I didn't believe a word of it.
I still don't.

mistlethrush Fri 31-Aug-12 09:39:42

Quint, this was the original.

MN have confirmed that Hecate's pm wasn't what the OP suggested.

MN will be boring if all the decent posters deregister. sad

fanjoforthemammaries Fri 31-Aug-12 09:53:18

I don't blame usual for leaving tbh. The goading and bullying and nastiness under the guise of 'telling it straight' are unbelievable these days. Usual voiced dissent mildly to an OP and there were pages vilifying her like she had written screeds of nastiness..she didn't.

Think I will do the same for a bit until all the full moon vileness has blown over (if it does)

Not that anyone will give a shiny shite though grin

foxinsocks Fri 31-Aug-12 09:56:35

I mentioned cliques Pag as I was utterly bored of the fight, usual was upset and i was trying to distract. I even managed sex talk for about 20 mins

Is all v tedious and why I don't use mumsnet any more tbh

Pinot Fri 31-Aug-12 09:57:22

<<clings to fanjo>> <<and usual>> <<and Hecate>>

BonkeyMollocks Fri 31-Aug-12 10:02:56

Ok halfway through the thread and it gets deleted.

Is Hecate ok?

Anything she has said to me in the past has been nothing but lovely and supportive.

I can't believe the flipping loony posters!

RabidAnchovy Fri 31-Aug-12 10:07:56

bloody hell it will soon be that all the decent, funny, sensible, barking posters will leave because of all the nastiness that has become so routine on her lately and we will be left with the back biting idiots sad
I see moldies happening all over again

Pagwatch Fri 31-Aug-12 10:13:46

Sorry foxinsoxs, I wasn't responding to you.

I just read all the fighty threads and the 'in crowd' and cliquey stuff kept being mentioned. It pisses me off because regulars seem to get shunted into some group every time. I have been told I am in a clique picking on someone with my mates when I have barely recognised another person on there.

It makes posters paranoid and I think much of the time it is just an easy pot shot.
This thread just was where I posted it - probably because I empathised with much of what Bof had posted. it's just frustrating <shrug>

I don't often get the sex but I did send Riven porn.[actual fact]

threesocksmorgan Fri 31-Aug-12 10:16:13

there is an "in crowd" I call them that as they seem to be able to hound and bully people on mn and mn hq allow it.
most people are aware of it, and have at some time seen it.

haveyougotaminute Fri 31-Aug-12 10:18:42

Queen Bees and Wannabees - the book mentioned by someone upthread.

Most pertinent, and seriously worth reading if you've got dd's or ds's going out with girls.

Anyone who says it's not is in denial. smile

threesocksmorgan Fri 31-Aug-12 10:20:29

I have watched mean girls enough.... so take my lead form that

Pagwatch Fri 31-Aug-12 10:21:39

Well I wish I knew who they were. Because when I get caused of being in one - and the bullying and hounding that I must also partake in - it is irritating because it is untrue.
and being accused of it a few times when nothing of the sort was happening makes me dubious.

Perhaps if people would call it when it happens rather tapping their nose and muttering darkly on other threads

threesocksmorgan Fri 31-Aug-12 10:22:57

oh try doing that Pag, and then they would turn on you.
I can't see you ever being a mean girl

SuperB0F Fri 31-Aug-12 10:24:21

I agree with you Pag. Somebody posted a list upthread of the people who took a similar view to mine: I can safely say I don't know any of them well. Yet there are mutterings about cliques, being able to predict exactly who would queue up to have a pop etc etc. I am baffled. I've never had an issue with usual, why would I? Yet I'm getting the feeling there is something going on here that I'm being mushroomed over: being kept in the dark and thrown shit at. I think I'll take a bit of a break myself- I don't post so much any more as it is, but it's obviously not seldom enough to stay out of trouble confused.

Maryz Fri 31-Aug-12 10:24:45

Am I in it threesocks? Because I've been accused of being in the incrowd a lot, but I don't think I hound and bully people.

If you think I do, feel free to point out where and i will stop [baffled]. In fact, if anyone feels I'm bullying on a thread, I would welcome having it pointed out. No-one has ever accused me on an actual thread where I'm meant to be bullying, only in pm's hmm and in veiled accusations on other threads. Which is a little frustrating.

Maryz Fri 31-Aug-12 10:25:46

And what BOF said, everything. And paggy. Though probably we will now be accused of being a clique.

Ah, fuckit, I try to be nice, I might just stop.

Pagwatch Fri 31-Aug-12 10:28:04

<<scratches head>>

I don't know. Maybe I am thick. Maybe I don't pay enough attention to who is posting. I call people on shitty posts and I report shitty posts. I don't ignore a nasty post because I know the poster. I also don't see ganging up. I notice wading in where a oupleof people post a negativevopinion and others one out of the woodwork to out nasty each other. I don't think that is usually the same bunch of regulars.

I will accept that I am thick as a valid reason

Hullygully Fri 31-Aug-12 10:28:07

<hounds and bullies>

sheeps and lambs

Pinot Fri 31-Aug-12 10:28:29

Maryz you are too sweet to be in it <snuggles>

Pinot Fri 31-Aug-12 10:28:50

Hello Hully. How do?

threesocksmorgan Fri 31-Aug-12 10:29:25

Maryz your not in my one, I assume that everyone has there idea of who is in and who isn't I just go by what I have seem.

Maryz Fri 31-Aug-12 10:29:28

<snuggles Pinot back>

<grabs slanket and sits in corner, rocking>