Goodbye to Mumsnet

(119 Posts)
dittany Thu 15-Sep-11 13:11:27

(Yet another great thing about Mumsnet is that there is actually a section especially devoted for flouncing off).

I didn't want to go without saying goodbye properly.

I just wanted to say what an amazing place Mumnset is and how much I've enjoyed posting and reading here and being part of it. I think it's a wonderful space for women to talk to one another and to support each other and just generally be able to be ourselves. The posters here are great and I think it's probably the best mainstream site there is by far. I've always felt like I know about a special secret coming to Mumnset because there are people (sexist people) who are bit sneery and superior at the name, and have no idea of the intelligent, witty and interesting conversations that go on here. More fool them of course. smile

And of course the Feminism Section. It says so much for Mumsnet that they were happy to give us a feminist section, which has turned into a place where feminism and radical feminism are addressed seriously and where posters have become active in real life and where real feminism is happening every day. It says so much for Mumsnet posters that so many of them are feminists, or were interested in feminism and want to engage. If Mumsnet is the best mainstream site, the Feminist section is probably the best public feminist forum there is (it's why we're getting trolled!). Standing up for women and girls is such an important thing to do. So of course Mumsnetters would do it.

I realise this reads like a bit of a speech (uber-flounce) but being part of Mumsnet has meant a lot to me (I spent enough time here to prove that) and I wanted to say why.

So so long, goodbye - I'll miss a lot of the posters here, I'll miss the feminist section, but it feels like the time is right to move on.

FootballFriend Thu 15-Sep-11 13:18:35

I don't quite get why you're going, but goodbye and you know where we are smile I hope to see you around again.

That's a shame. I always read the feminism section and you have really educated me about a lot of things.

It will be a shame not to have such a strong feminist voice about.

OmicronPersei8 Thu 15-Sep-11 13:22:10

Dittany, sorry to see you go. I've lurked on the feminism section (although not recently) and always found your posts thought-provoking and challenging, in the best possible way. Thank you for helping me re-awaken my brain. I don't know why you are leaving (I thought you'd only just come back!) but wish you all the best.

VelvetSnow Thu 15-Sep-11 13:22:37

are you going because of the thread police grin

allhailtheaubergine Thu 15-Sep-11 13:24:01

Sorry you're leaving. I liked your posts and learnt a lot. Mumsnet will be poorer without you.

DontCallMeFrothyDragon Thu 15-Sep-11 13:24:56

I will miss you. Feel free to drop in from time to time, and we'll keep up the fight.

In the meantime, don't let the eejits keep you down.

Take care x

I'm wishing you all the best - take care, and I hope you won't be gone forever. Thank you so much for all the advice - especially on my recent computer thread. I hope you know how helpful and supportive I found your comments. And thanks for all the interesting discussion (the mental health thread was amazing and fascinating). Best of luck!

rushofbloodtothefeet Thu 15-Sep-11 13:26:20

Dittany, I've always admired your forthright voice, even if I haven't always agreed with it. MN will be a poorer place with out you.

parentfailure Thu 15-Sep-11 13:27:02

Dittany!

I have no clue why you are going and I know you won't recognise my name, but you have helped me SOOO much in the past.

You have alot of wise words. x

nickschick Thu 15-Sep-11 13:27:40

Why are you going then??

Quintessentialist Thu 15-Sep-11 13:30:44

oh boy.

I will be sorry to see you go, Dittany. I never read the feminist section. But I enjoy reading your posts in Relationship. You are sometimes very wise.

adamschic Thu 15-Sep-11 13:32:13

Sorry you are going but I think I understand why. I agree with you about the special secret. Such a shame your favourite section was trolled. Hope you find a new home somewhere on the internet.

Tyr Thu 15-Sep-11 13:33:46

Dittany,

Speaking as someone who has had a number of spats with you, I hope you reconsider for two main reasons:
(1) While I consider some of your views to be misguided (just my opinion) I think they need to be heard and debated.
(2) I think you genuinely care for others, such as the teenage girl with the dummy.
Strange as it may sound coming from me, I hope you stick around; if you don't, I wish you all the best for the future.

JeremyVile Thu 15-Sep-11 13:33:46

I don't contribute much to the feminism section, there are others far more eloquent than me and I enjoy reading their posts.

I am really gutted you are going Dittany, without overstating it, you are one of the very best things about mn. Truly, I find you very inspirational, very interesting and it makes me a bit happier knowing that there are people like you about.

I used to always jump in when I felt someone was being picked on but I tend not to do that now for my own sanity, also im here infrequently and often avoid threads that may irritate me so probably miss the majority of it but if you change your mind I, for one, promise to stand up for you when these knob-heads are having their little games (for what it's worth!)

Beachcomber Thu 15-Sep-11 13:34:37

I really really wish that you wouldn't go dittany.

I know that it isn't your responsibility to stay just because the FeMNists want you to, but I wish you would.

I'm feeling pretty disappointed with MN as a whole frankly that it has come to this. We were lucky to have you for as long as we did I guess.

Don't go.

WakeMeUpWhenSeptemberEnds Thu 15-Sep-11 13:36:20

I will tell you what I tell my teenage daughter - stop hearing ONLY the negative comments. I can see exactly what you are saying about being targetted, singled out and attracting disproportionate negative attention. (would it be inappropriate to say something like 'just because people think you are paranoid doesn't mean they dont hate you anyway - bleurgh crap at online humour. I bet that comes across wrong).

Anyhoo

From where I sit, you also attract a helluvalorra positive attention and support. And that's without the lurking contingent.

Best wishes you to always and in everything you do x

adamschic Thu 15-Sep-11 13:37:54

Thinking about it if you do go then the trolls have won which is a real shame. I only lurk on the feminist section and was forgetting about your contributions to relationship section. Don't go.

I don't think that's a fair thing to say, adamschic. I know you don't mean it badly, but it's not fair on dittany to make her feel it's her job to engage with the trolls or magic them away. It's HQs job, and they haven't done it.

Blackduck Thu 15-Sep-11 13:39:45

Hi Dittany, it's a sad day when people like you who are strong and confident feel hounded off of a board. I haven't always agreed with what you have said, but you have certainly made me (and others) think. The feminist section will be a poorer place without you.

ColdTruth Thu 15-Sep-11 13:40:14

ciao

edd1337 Thu 15-Sep-11 13:40:43

LRD. Trolls that were on there yesterday were dealt with. They are doing their job

ColdSancerre Thu 15-Sep-11 13:41:01

I'm very sorry you're leaving dittany and think it is awful if it's because of the trolling.

dittany Thu 15-Sep-11 13:50:45

"just because people think you are paranoid doesn't mean they dont hate you anyway"

hahahahaha, brilliant

Thanks all for being so nice. I do think it's the right time for me to go. I'm so happy if stuff I said was useful to people. My basic approach has always to be to say the stuff that I wanted to hear, but no-one else was saying. It seems to create fireworks some of the time!

But seriously bashing goes with the territory I've been in, and even with the support, or being part of a group of people agreeing, the bashing has just got too much. Also I reckon I've been a bit of a lightening rod, for various reasons, and I don't think that's always necessarily useful. I don't think it is now for the Feminist Section. It shouldn't be dominated by personalities or what look like personalities, or complaints about certain personalities and defenses of the same. That's just tiresome for everybody.

RumourOfAHurricane Thu 15-Sep-11 13:55:24

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