What is wrong with pink?

(81 Posts)
strawberriesandmelon Sun 04-Mar-12 23:53:04

Of course, I know what is wrong with pink-itis... but how do I explain it to my 4 year old? Needless to say, all girls in her nursery wear almost exclusively pink and all toys in the girls section are pink. I don't want to be authoritarian and just ban the pink, so I thought it would be a good idea to explain to her, in a way she could understand, what is wrong with it. Any suggestions?

milkysmum Mon 19-Mar-12 16:16:01

kris- doner maybe? you sure your not trying to be a wind up!?

Devora Mon 19-Mar-12 16:28:28

Kris - tell you what, you go away and have a think about all the different ways lesbians can have children together (we've done it two different ways!) then come back. If you get it right there's a prize smile

rubmeup Mon 19-Mar-12 16:29:31

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JiroGym Mon 19-Mar-12 16:32:55

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ScarlettAlexandra Mon 19-Mar-12 16:35:31

it is annoying as there is very little choice other than pink for girls. i love green and grey but its almost impossible to find.

Just t6ell you dont think it's a very nice colour.

tethersend Mon 19-Mar-12 16:38:37

But you can't make a colour the villain of the piece, ABF- that makes no sense. There is nothing inherently wrong with pink, and I think it weakens the argument to suggest that there is.

outofthelight Mon 19-Mar-12 16:39:10

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rubmeup Mon 19-Mar-12 16:42:04

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I'm not saying to make it like a villain. But when her DD says "ooh can I have it in pink please mummy?" just say "I think the other colour is much nicer than the pink one"

Her DD is nursery age she doesnt want nor would she benefit from a full explaination of why her mother doesnt like the connections made with the colour pink.
If the OP feels so strongly about her DD wearing so much pink or yammering on for the pink versions of toys then the best way to do it is paint the idea of a different colour being nicer.

rubmeup Mon 19-Mar-12 16:46:37

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Or fuschia maybe? grin

JiroGym Mon 19-Mar-12 16:48:51

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tethersend Mon 19-Mar-12 17:00:19

"Her DD is nursery age she doesnt want nor would she benefit from a full explaination of why her mother doesnt like the connections made with the colour pink."

This I agree with wholeheartedly- but I think her mother is wrong; rather than looking for ways to appropriately dissuade her DD from choosing pink, I think we should let her choose it and work on changing what it signifies IYSWIM.

ElephantsAreMadeOfElements Mon 19-Mar-12 17:00:39

Who made them want to buy the pink sparkly things, though, Jiro? It's not hard-wired into the female psyche. The "everything pink and sparkly" cultural expectation is a very recent one (I'd guess around 25 years or so). It's a view that has been insidiously forced on children, and I entirely agree with you that that's wrong. Exploring with your children that the views that have been forced on them by other people might not be entirely justified, however, seems quite reasonable.

Ahh I see we are in agreement then tethers I have no issue with the colour pink either and hate that it has been made "for girls only" I was just offering a suggestion to the OP on how to calm down the pink addiction.

FloweryRuna Mon 19-Mar-12 17:04:18

I never taught my dd to like pink (tbh pink wasn't ever my favourite colour, I liked orange and yellow as a kid). Still my dd was drawn so much to the colour pink since the beginning and wants something pink, even cats that are pink! She can only have pink cuddly toy animals.

It must be the candy shade? I have this condition (not sure if DD has it too) that I can add colours with a flavour.

ElephantsAreMadeOfElements Mon 19-Mar-12 17:18:02

You didn't, FloweryRune, but that doesn't mean that no one did. Pregnant women are asked "pink or blue"? People buy pink or blue clothing as gifts for a newborn baby. Babies who aren't wearing pink are assumed to be boys. Boy babies are never dressed in pink. If a product's packaging shows girls playing with or using something, nine times out of ten it will be pink. Children very very quckly pick up the "pink is for girls, and girls like pink" message without their parents ever having to sit down and teach it to them. Because that pressure wasn't around (or not to nearly the same degree) when we were children, it's easy to miss it and assume that our daughters "just arrive at" a favourite colour the same way that we did, and that it's just some bizarre statistical blip that so many of them come up with pink, rather than a carefully planned marketing message.

MrsArchieTheInventor Tue 20-Mar-12 11:17:11

Really chaps?! Haven't you got more pressing matters to attend to? Like making premature travel arrangments for the semi-final?! confused

You have been ratted, naughty boys! Now go away and play nicely! grin

RowanMumsnet (MNHQ) Tue 20-Mar-12 14:26:16

Hello

Can I just say how very much I admire the esteemed MNers on this thread?

For reasons that I hope will be obvious wink

MNHQ xx

Ponders Tue 20-Mar-12 14:30:10

blimey, this is a contentious thread shock

SardineQueen Tue 20-Mar-12 14:38:22

Oooh where were they all from then? Do MNHQ know?

dollymixtures Tue 20-Mar-12 16:51:13

What about the sterling work on the other thread about all the nasty female abusers? Where did that go btw, I wanted to tell everyone about the amaaaaazing chocolate cheesecake that I had at lunchtime?

Honeydragon Tue 20-Mar-12 23:50:49

I love the fact that due to the good behaviour of genuine posters the deletions make no difference to reading the thread grin, if still flows perfectly.

somewheresomehow Fri 22-Jun-12 21:45:52

grow up its a feckin colour
if you want to be a pain whats the 'problem' with putting boys in blue

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