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Challenge from my Psychologist. Write down 3 positive things a day. Join me?

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fuzzpig Thu 05-Sep-13 20:10:16

Background in brief - history of abuse and lengthy depression, self harm, lots of therapy in teens inc psych ward stay. Now suffering from CFS (also known as ME) and having CBT as part of the treatment.

So, we were talking about low self esteem, negative inner voice etc, and she suggested doing this to gradually build up evidence against these thoughts. I've done similar briefly in the past but having done a lot of psychological 'inner work' this year I feel ready to make it stick and I thought doing a thread on it would make me more likely to bother!

I'm off to watch telly with DH in a mo (Big Bang Theory 6 arrived yesterday grin) so won't be back til tomorrow but if anyone wants to do this with me then jump in! Could be stuff you've achieved, nice things that have happened etc.

Mine are:

- Had my consultation over the phone for the first time - was worried it'd feel weird but I stuck with it and found it really helpful.

- Contacted a friend to arrange a meet up while he's visiting home (I hardly ever initiate anything like that)

- Wrote in my treatment journal the same day as my session, instead of leaving it for weeks!


LoganMummy Thu 05-Sep-13 20:12:57

Went for a lovely picnic with DC which didn't end in us going home early.

Found a toy I'd been looking for for ages.

Got a lovely text from a friend.

98percentchocolate Thu 05-Sep-13 20:17:02

A package I'd been waiting for for ages finally turned up today and dd loves it (was a new toy for her)

Didn't cry today.

DD was in a very cuddly mood today which was lovely.

gintastic Thu 05-Sep-13 20:18:57

DH had a job interview that went well.

He got home early so we had lunch together with no DC's and it was great :-)

Arranged to have coffee tomorrow with a good friend I haven't seen all summer for no good reason.

spanky2 Thu 05-Sep-13 20:35:23

My bathroom and car look shiny because I cleaned them.
The sun felt warm on my face .
I avoided the urge to eat compulsively when explaining to my mum's hairdresser that I can'tsee her anymore because I can't bear to see her and not my mum . We've had a permanent falling out . Realised my mum is a narcissist . Thank you for thread.

KellyGarcia Thu 05-Sep-13 20:42:41

What a fab thread - I am rubbish at following through with the stuff they used to give me to do after counselling.

1. Phoned back my best friend and had a brilliant chat n she really cheered me up and she says I cheered her up too when I would normally make an excuse to end the call and not call back.
2. Really spent some proper quality time with DS2 while DS1 was at school.
3. Headed off for an evening of Big Bang Theory thanks to you!!!! :D

HoopHopes Fri 06-Sep-13 00:11:37

1. Did some housework that needed doing.
2. Managed to say no to something too stressful on me which would call me stress.
3. Spent time in the sun with a walk, which is good for me!

BeaWheesht Fri 06-Sep-13 00:14:57

Oh yes ill join you..

1/ I've finally cleared the toys out from downstairs and organised them all.

2/ dd (3) is starting to make her own proper wee friends

3/ a parcel I've been waiting for arrived.

Are they the right sort of things?

ecofreckle Fri 06-Sep-13 00:16:47

Hats off fuzz for starting your journal and for this cheerful thread.
I started my Christmas shopping as maternity pay ends next month, it feels good to be organised.
I enjoyed a long walk with Eco baby through balmy country lanes and didn't meltdown when buggy got a puncture.
I started a piece of work I'd been putting off.
I'll be back tomorrow!

ecofreckle Fri 06-Sep-13 20:14:51

Fuzz what are your three things today? Mine are that I survived another day of baby induced sleep deprivation and am a day closes to sleeping through, that I didn't let the rain stop us having a walk and that the doctor took action on an issue we're having with Dd. And, it's Friday!

fuzzpig Fri 06-Sep-13 20:27:01

Thanks for reminding me eco grin glad people are joining in!

- had a great home visit from ds' teacher (he starts yrR on mon)

- made time to play piano for a bit

- was brave and POAS (bfn, which is a big relief... mostly)


LoganMummy Fri 06-Sep-13 22:31:01

Got sent a lovely new outfit for DD.

Had a great afternoon with DS and DD at the park.

Had a catch up with a friend.

MajesticWhine Fri 06-Sep-13 22:43:02

- Caught up with friends for a coffee
- Managed to fit in a brief 20 min workout this morning
- DD2 seems happier with her new school and we had a good old chat about how it's going.

BeaWheesht Fri 06-Sep-13 22:50:39

- got dd a birthday present which I think she will adore (is 3 soon)

- ds has been mostly lovely today

- had a good chat with my mum

spanky2 Sat 07-Sep-13 17:21:39

Forgot yesterday .
Did all the the food shopping and put it away .
Enjoyed talking to dcs about their day.
Took eldest ds to riding lesson and it had stopped raining .

ecofreckle Sat 07-Sep-13 19:35:42

Today we walked for four hours in total into city and Back to collect dh's birthday present, and it was a bargain.
I'm looking forward to toad in the hole and strictly this evening.
My dd has had her first cheerful day since this blasted wonder week started.
Your turn fuzz!

BeaWheesht Sat 07-Sep-13 20:42:50

I had a lie in until 930am

I re-read some of Matilda

The dc have been pretty adorable

LoganMummy Sat 07-Sep-13 21:16:18

Had a great afternoon out with DC.

Utilities bill is decreasing at end of month.

Early night tonight.

Your turn!

Millie2013 Sat 07-Sep-13 21:57:41

What a fab idea, thank you OP and thank you everyone else for sharing smile

1. I adore my baby, she is a complete live wire, but she seems to cheer up everyone she meets, me included!
2. I had a lovely surprise through the post
3. I've got a few things planned next week, to give it a bit of structure

Who's next? smile

fuzzpig Sat 07-Sep-13 22:29:17

- Managed a trip to Tesco - not that exciting but part of my goals from occupational therapy is to try and do something vaguely active on days off.

- finally got myself a new coat to replace my threadbare old thing.

- rediscovered chronic pain support thread and am reading it through to catch up with everyone smile

ecofreckle Sun 08-Sep-13 20:19:09

What's your coat like fuzz?
Today I started clearing out the garage. A long overdue job started!
I had a successful trip to car boot to get dd some new toys and a door bouncer.
I found a letter from my mum and didn't cry. She died nearly two years ago and she was my absolute role model for a good mother and general good person.
It's nice to focus on the positive fuzz, let's keep going!

Went for a run
Took dc to the park and saw ds2 is getting better on his bike.
A friend texted to find out how my new job is going.

Great idea - I'm also supposed to be doing this!

1 helped dh make 2 benches for kids treehouse.

2 had a good sing in Church this morning.

3. Had a nice chat with a mum I haven't really spoken to much before.

MajesticWhine Sun 08-Sep-13 20:56:25

- Went camping (in the rain) with family and whilst it wasn't a riproaring success, nobody killed each other grin
- Just booked a hotel for a family trip to Christmas market.
- Um, scratching around for a third. I put quite a lot of washing on this afternoon. Will that do?

MacaYoniandCheese Sun 08-Sep-13 20:57:17

I should be doing this. I feel a bit bogged down by it all ATM.

-It's a gorgeous, golden September day.

-I have cold wine in the fridge.

-I have half a season of House of Cards left to watch on Netflix.

ep1977 Sun 08-Sep-13 21:45:52

Enjoyed listening a watching dd making a witches potion in the garden with mud, leaves flowers etc!!

Cooked a full sunday roast.. 1st time in ages (on a sunday)

Read a few chapters of my library book and looking forward to going to bed in a mo to finish it!!

Wow I like this thread.. makes you think about what u have done,, a good day x

BeaWheesht Sun 08-Sep-13 21:49:03

I am not feeling great today but am going to keep doing this:

Found out today that dd (3) is entitled to flu vaccine this winter so that's us all going to be vaccinated (am anxious about flu after a horrendous experience with swine flu and ds ending up with pneumonia)

Bought myself 3 books and a booklight for £6 in tesco and the book ive started on is actually quite good!

Spoke to my best friend on the phone

mumofthemonsters808 Sun 08-Sep-13 21:50:41

Went for a lovely walk with the dog in the September sunshine.

Started a fabulous book that I can't put down.

Went food shopping and now my cupboards are bulging with lots of treats (for how long I do not know).

fuzzpig Sun 08-Sep-13 22:37:02

Ooops nearly forgot again!

Coat is just a £40 black tesco one but nice and long, quite thick, zip up and does up around the neck so should keep me much warmer than my previous one. smile

Quite hard to think of stuff today as it has actually been a really rubbish day.

- managed to label some of DCs' school stuff

- DH brought home some of my current favourite chocolate grin

- feeling quite festive as have been thinking about Xmas stuff.

fuzzpig Sun 08-Sep-13 22:38:17

Sorry you have had a bad day too bea. I feel really grumpy and have been snappy with the DCs. Hopefully today will be better!

Weegiemum Sun 08-Sep-13 22:45:05

I try to do this, have long term depression (but currently managing unmediated!) and a relatively recent very limiting neurological physicat disability as well.

My 3 for today are

- played a game of monopoly and baked with children.
- made (pretty easy) Sunday lunch
- cuddled my guinea pigs!!

Millie2013 Mon 09-Sep-13 07:07:37

Mine for yesterday

(It started off bad, but I managed to pick myself up)

- I spent some time with my horses and took my ancient pony for a walk (well she took me for a walk, she might be ancient, but she's very strong)

-nice chat with the yard owner and a fellow livery

- nice family meal last night and baby sat in her highchair and joined us smile

kerstina Mon 09-Sep-13 09:34:20

Lovely idea can I join too ? Mine for yesterday. I was feeling rough with stomach cramps and very heavy period but
1) Managed to get DS off xbox to meet some of his friends and a couple of my friends in the park, so we nattered while they played football in the autumn sun for a couple of hours.
2) DP cooked us a lovely roast dinner.
3)Started to read some glossy mags that my friend had passed on to me.

spanky2 Mon 09-Sep-13 10:29:00

For yesterday,
Had a cuddle with my old cat who nearly died afew months ago.
Did some more crochet on the blanket I am making .
Spent time sitting down with dcs just watching tv.

The sun came out this afternoon
Ds2 said 'I love you so much Mummy' when I picked him up from nursery.
Despite having said childcare is for me to sort for the last x years, DP is really doing his best to do drop offs and pick ups now we are nanny-less.

Harder today tho middle of day was ok

1 read mindfulness book and practised and felt better for it

2 washed stair wall and banisters and they look a lot better for it

3 spoke to new mum at school

MajesticWhine Mon 09-Sep-13 22:03:33

Hi ColouringInQueen - which Mindfulness book do you have? I have got "The Mindful Way Through Depression" - but haven't been mindful enough to read much of it yet.

kerstina Mon 09-Sep-13 22:37:40

Was pleased DS had a good day at his new senior school and has made a friend who lives in our road who is in his class . Sat in the sun for a short while as I love the autumn light. Really enjoyed CBB it made me laugh and cry !

Hi Majestic I have Mindfulness - finding peace in a frantic world, which I have started... if you fancy joining me I'm planning to start working through the exercises next week - and have started a thread in mh if anyone's interested...

ShesADreamer Mon 09-Sep-13 23:55:03

Lovely idea!
DD adored her first day of nursery at proper school (and looked so grown up in her uniform)
Sibling rivalry issues have improved hugely and everyone seems happier for it.
It feels properly like autumn today - my favourite time of year.

fuzzpig Tue 10-Sep-13 06:31:42

Hello all, I'm really glad so many people are joining in smile

I didn't make it online last night - I work late on Mondays and usually feel very sore and tired when I get in. Mine for yesterday:

- managed a brief shower before work (yes, I am that slovenly that it's an achievement blush

- DS had his first couple of hours in reception, and looked completely adorable in his uniform, and despite being so very young (4 on Aug 30!) ran into class happily and had a great time.

- skipped mcD on the way home (normally pick up fries on the way home on Mondays with a colleague who goes to the same bus stop, but he was off yesterday) - admittedly only because I was in a lot of pain by that point and just wanted to get to the bus stop and sit down, but it did mean I had proper food when I got in, which is rare for Mondays and something my psychologist suggested working on.

Millie2013 Tue 10-Sep-13 08:12:38

I wish there were a "like" button on here :D

Mine for yesterday:
1. I spent some more time with the horses, they had their pony pedicures done
2. Made it to see my psychiatrist for psychotherapy and it went ok, I wouldn't say it was progress, but I survived!
3. I cooked an amazing (according to OH) spag Bol for dinner

ecofreckle Tue 10-Sep-13 09:14:07

good work you mummies with los going to school for first time!
so, for yesterday.....
- i made the effort and went dancing and asked men to dance rather than waiting to be asked - good end to the day
- i got myself out of bed early as soon as dd had fed, bundled her into her into her pram and wrapped her up for a walk whilst dh jogged - good start to the day
- i didn't run around like a maniac trying to do loads of jobs

hurryup Tue 10-Sep-13 09:26:57

What a brilliant idea, I remember doing this during cbt but stopped when my sessions ended for some daft reason. So mine from yesterday are

1 - had a fabulous riding lesson
2 - did 15 minutes of yoga
3 - finally managed to Hoover

Ill be back later with today's, hope you are all finding positive things in your day.

I have a blog where I try to find one positive thing every day. Sadly I have failed to post on it regularly for over a month now.

But, I will try here:

1 - I did make myself go to the gym today (the fitness suite was shut for reconfiguration, but at least I managed to motivate myself to get there).

2 - I enjoyed choir last night a lot more than I did last week.

3 - I have an Emma Bridgewater catalogue that I hadn't realised had arrived in the post.

spanky2 Tue 10-Sep-13 11:26:45

Yesterday .
I didn't have a takeaway even though I wanted one.
Kept my temper with ds2 even though he is being very naughty .
Did lots of cleaning . Shiny house .
This thread is so good .I like reading everyone else's too.

1 sorted bedroom redec thought and made decision

2 did 20 mins yoga

3 took ds to park after school and he had fun playing with a classmate.

spanky I like reading the others too!

fuzzpig Tue 10-Sep-13 19:25:45

- had the living room to myself this morning and instead of just sticking one of my usual DVDs on and/or MNing the whole time I watched the rest of a movie I've been meaning to finish for weeks (être et avoir - very sweet)

- spontaneously took the DCs to the park after school despite the fear of that sort of thing (energy/pain wise)

- managed small talk with another mum while at said park


XBenedict Tue 10-Sep-13 19:30:21

What a fab thread!

1. Found and commented on this thread.
2. Bought colourful winter plants to replant in my hanging baskets.
3. Struggling with a third - finished the ironing?

hurryup Tue 10-Sep-13 21:33:24

Hmm, well riding lesson was rubbish but I guess at least I now know I am rubbish rather than thinking I am expert already hmm Also bought chips for tea from van in the village so no need for cooking and also finally got round to sewing house colours on dd blazer (only 1 week late).

Hope you've all found something positive about today.

MajesticWhine Tue 10-Sep-13 21:59:45

Here are mine for today.

- Had loads of incidental exercise by cycling everywhere today.
- 3 x DC all seem to be happy at school.
- Cooked the same evening meal for everyone in the family (rather than 2 or 3 different things) - a bit of a goal of mine but rarely seem to achieve it.

BeaWheesht Tue 10-Sep-13 22:03:43

1/ got ds a bargainous Christmas present
2/ Dh got a better than expected work bonus
3/ the cat is currently sitting on my lap purring

ecofreckle Tue 10-Sep-13 22:51:34

Fuzz I loved etre et avoir!
Going to bed more thrilling now autumn is In the air: I want cuddles and I love listening to the wind howl.
Dd had an epic nap so I got more work than anticipated done.
PRe bed play time and bath were full of smiles not tears tonight.
Three positive things and it was chucking down with rain all day!

Empross76 Tue 10-Sep-13 22:57:05

Great idea. I'm doing CBT at the moment too. And I recognise some names here from other threads.

Okay, ignoring all the not-so-good things today, my positives are:

Managed the school run.

Met my friend and had a lovely catch up.

Did a couple of household chores that needed doing.

Yay! - go me!!!

Three things for the last day:

1 - I motivated myself to go to the gym. It was shut, but still...

2 - I have got on with my knitting.

3 - Two days on the trot, I have got up before 8.30am.

spanky2 Wed 11-Sep-13 12:03:17

Yesterday .
I avoided treading on the lavish spread of dog poo on the pavement on school run .
I did all the ironing and put it away .
Found out that all the extra work ds1has done with me after school has made a difference rather than being 3 years behind is now reading at his age!

1 Went for a walk with lovely friend
2 DD went in to school perfectly, no upset for the first time in over a year !!!!!!!
3 picked up a bargain tent for my dbro

fuzzpig Wed 11-Sep-13 20:45:24

It's so lovely reading everyone's positive events and achievements! Well done to all smile

Mine are:

- managed to talk to my friend at work about the above mentioned disappointing BFN, it was nice to say all of it out loud and have a hug

- asked DH to meet me from work and we had milkshakes before getting the bus home in time for DH to pick up the DCs

- we decided to go tv-free mon-thurs once term started, and DD has whined about it, but didn't today - we all played a board game together after dinner, it was perfect and exactly what I wanted our evening to be like smile

Empross76 Wed 11-Sep-13 22:25:21

Quiet today - where is everybody?!

Not had the best day all in all, so wracking my brains a bit to come up with three, but...

Had good CBT session, all felt v useful.

Kids were lovely today, no tantrums or bad behaviour.

Got a few little jobs done.

BeaWheesht Wed 11-Sep-13 23:11:21

Hi all. Fuzz pig I'm massively impressed by no TV!

I 'won' a little thing for dd's birthday on eBay.

My mum loved the photos I sent her of the kids.

We booked our holiday for next year.

whodunnit Wed 11-Sep-13 23:15:55

cooked a lovely healthy meal for the kids in 40 mins and they loved it.

cycled home in the dark in the rain with my daughter

saw the Red Arrows fly over our town

ecofreckle Thu 12-Sep-13 00:55:22

I too like the tv free idea fuzz!
I did seven hours of work in threelocations with baby in tow.
Some of my Christmas bargains arrived <waves magpie mug at Bea>
Didn't mind that it was dark when put dd to bed. Well, not too much anyway!

Took stairs up at work - 5th floor
Got.a complimented on my hair style - 2nd time this week
Colleagues at work said they would help me later when I was looking confused during training for some software.

Doesn't sound like much but am just regaining my faith in how lovely people can be.

ecofreckle Thu 12-Sep-13 19:39:53

Sounds like lots of good Herbert!
I solved a DIY problem.
I kept my cool during frustrating conversation with my dad.
I have already packed mine and Dd's bags for tomorrow.
You about fuzz?

fuzzpig Thu 12-Sep-13 19:40:47

I have had a really lovely day today smile

- took a quick peep at a charity table sale before my OT appt at St Barts - there was virtually nothing there but I found a perfect stocking filler for my DS - a Thunderbirds mug grin so happy to find it I even phoned DH blush

- had a really fruitful appt with my OT, talking about the next 10 weeks which are scarily hectic. I feel quite positive and also was reminded how far I have come since this time last year (when DH had major surgery) smile

- met mum after the appt and she showed me some of her old haunts, we also saw some awesome views from the new mall by St Pauls and a restaurant in the Shard. Feel totally spoiled I may have also visited Hotel Chocolat grin

fuzzpig Thu 12-Sep-13 19:49:05

BTW thanks for the comments about the TV thing. I have been umming and ahhing about it for a while but finally agreed that the new term was a good time to make the change. It isn't TV exactly but DVDs, they are our major weakness and there was usually something on all evening and lots at weekends too. It is amazing how quickly they have adapted to not having it mon-thurs - I expected a lot more complaints. Seem to be spending a lot more time scrabbling around for board game pieces though grin

grin Hotel Chocolat. Haven't been there in ages... need to find an excuse to go to certain shopping centre...

1 Started work on redec the bedroom despite feeling a bit headachy and throaty

2 got all wall washing, sanding and filling done so have 2 full days to paint

3 did dcs bedtime and only got a bit cross wink progress for me!

Empross76 Thu 12-Sep-13 22:50:47

Not the best day again, but:

Made plans to see a friend tomorrow.

Watched a film I've been meaning to watch for ages.

Can't think of a third. hmm

BeaWheesht Thu 12-Sep-13 23:37:40

Got some presents wrapped up for dd

Had coffee with friends

Ds got a prize at school

I was organised today, and cooked the bolognese for tonight's supper this morning.

I've done some knitting today.

Sorry - I can't think of a third. sad

flossymuldoon Fri 13-Sep-13 08:21:12

What a lovely idea!

Feeling a little better about everything as I have been to the drs and taken the first step

I have booked an appointment with counseller

Today I get to spend the afternoon at the park with my lovely DS

Got more painting done

Let kids help without me getting irritable

Dh home after a positive day

fuzzpig Fri 13-Sep-13 20:29:51

Empross and SDTG- your third could be "came to post on this thread despite not having a third thing" <paradoxical> grin

mine are:

- managed both school runs with a bit of jigging around - find it pretty hard physically so always fills me with dread!

- talked to my friend at work and suggested a future lunch date (never seen her outside work before so a big deal for me to take the step of asking) smile

- finally got around to retyping all my old poems so I can print them out (a friend asked if she could read them... eeeeek!)

fuzzpig Fri 13-Sep-13 20:31:18

(seriously though... if you can't think of a third, if it's been a rough day - I think just 'I got through the day' can be pretty darn positive! smile)

BushCricket Fri 13-Sep-13 20:42:03

Tidied kitchen, cooked nice dinner
Went to DD's assembly (work was cancelled) and she was so pleased
Wrote a letter I needed to do

MajesticWhine Fri 13-Sep-13 20:56:22

Here are my 3 for today.

- Did a short run and workout (better than nothing)
- DD1 and DD2 both very happy that they got onto the teams they wanted to at school.
- Feeling calm, even though it's my evil pre-menstrual time of the month

spanky2 Fri 13-Sep-13 20:56:55

Boy I tutored got the grade he needed for a levels .
My migraine has started to go away .
My dcs were better behaved today .

BeaWheesht Fri 13-Sep-13 21:10:41

Met ds's new teacher today and she said she couldn't hope for a better behaved and more focused pupil.

Dd said 'mummy I love you soooooo much'

Ds tried really really hard with his homework. Am just so proud of him he has various issues and what his teacher said today really touched me and have wee tear in my eye now.!

Empross76 Fri 13-Sep-13 23:14:33

Thanks Fuzzpig. Better day today:

Awake and conscious all day rather than hiding in bed.

Saw friends.

Did some shopping.

Yes, definitely a better day.

kerstina Fri 13-Sep-13 23:40:26

Not had brill couple of days but better day today.booked to see James blunt in April something to look forward to . Cleaned out fridge something I had been putting off . Went for tea at mom and dads with DS . Had lovely time .

everydayineveryway Sat 14-Sep-13 00:02:46

Have not read the whole thread - will come back to it - but would love to join in please.

Had lunch and lots of laughs with mum friends
Met some lovely teenagers
My dc were happy and the dog is cuddly

madas Sat 14-Sep-13 15:35:47

Had a good morning at work for a change
got tonights suprise film and pizza ready for when dw gets home
realised just how much i love and adore said dw

1 worked out a plan to deal with the fact that I don't like the colour of the paint I started putting on this morning

2 entertained the kids for a whole day unexpectedly with no dh

3 made a cake with dd

fuzzpig Sat 14-Sep-13 20:31:17

For the first time since starting this thread I am really, really struggling sad feel horrible today after work made me really anxious, now snappy as hell and want to hide away.

Thinking hard for my 3 things:

- had some nice bonding time with my teen DSD watching Big Bang Theory related stuff on youtube. Including unaired pilot which is both disturbing and hilarious.

- actually made dinner which is a big achievement as I have trouble standing

- managed to get up and showered in decent time so I wasn't in a rush and I could get the same bus as DH

...still feel pretty rubbish but this 3 things rule is helping I think. Dr said after a while it should become automatic and I will be much more able to counteract negative thoughts. Here's hoping it works for us all smile

((((hugs))) fuzzpig sorry to hear you're having a tough time. Hang in there.

Oh what a wonderful thread!

I'm so glad that there are things that are positive |(sorry, only read 1st page blush ) - helps me believe that there is an end to all the shit

fuxxpig you're doing brilliantly - hang in there love x

of fuck - fuzzpig - sorry smile

BeaWheesht Sat 14-Sep-13 21:18:46

Fuzz pig flowers hang in there

My 3

Had a lovely lunch out with just Dh
Kids played with their friends nicely in the sunshine and someone told me Ds and dd are lovely and always well behaved hmm
We had a picnic with dc in the garden (well they picnicked we had drinks because of aforementioned lovely lunch! )

Empross76 Sat 14-Sep-13 22:38:10

Chin up, Fuzzpig.

Ordered some nighties for DD.

Friends over for sleepover.

When DD fell and hurt her chin quite badly, I stayed calm, didn't go to pieces and, most importantly, accepted that accidents happen instead of blaming myself. This is big for me as, according to CBT, I take things too personally and blame myself too much.

everydayineveryway Sat 14-Sep-13 22:51:56

Thanks for the thread, fuzzpig. thanks

Dd was happy
Ds was happy
Looked at lots of holiday pix including lovely ones of the dc


whodunnit Sun 15-Sep-13 01:04:04

Had a lovely walk to town with littlest daughter and she remembered our holiday and all the funfair rides she has ever been on.

Dropped in on I haven't friends seen for a couple of months

Watched the full monty with the kids and laughed a lot

kerstina Sun 15-Sep-13 09:22:38

Hope you have a better day today fuzz pig.

Fuzzpig - perhaps one of your things could be 'Came on the internet and said very wise thing that really helped Empross and SDTG.

Mine for the last day:

1 - yesterday afternoon I made a delicious chicken, bacon and red wine casserole for supper - and peeled the potatoes for the mash to go with (and enough over for roasties today), so I could then spend the afternoon in front of the tv, resting.

2 - got to shaping the second armhole for my cardigan that I am knitting.

3 - found a pattern for a top and skirt that is really pretty and in my size.

I'm going to join you all, after being pointed in the direction of the thread by fuzzpig smile

So, mine for yesterday are:
1. Went ice skating, and had a really good practice ready for my lesson next week.
2. Got home, by bus, in enough time to go and visit my granddad in hospital, with my gran.
3. Was brave and went to said hospital, even though I really dislike them. Was also calm and didn't show any signs of worry when I saw how old my granddad looks now. Also didn't cry when he said that a surgeon was coming to see him on Monday, because there's "something" in his left lung. That's very good for me smile

Earthymama Sun 15-Sep-13 12:31:35

Can I join in please?

I am struggling with some undiagnosed fatigue thing as well as chronic sinusitis and psioritic Arthritis so I get quite down at heart despite all my blessings

So this will be good for me

I tidied a HUGE cupboard

I rested and rested and rested smile

I went to the theatre and saw a wonderful play by my friend Patrick Jones, Dandelions. It's about a group of elders in a hospice/nursing home and is really touching and heartwarming, full of laughs and prompting many tears and thoughts of my Mam who passed 4 years ago this month.

fuzzpig Sun 15-Sep-13 13:15:27

Welcome earthy and lollipop!

Those are some great achievements smile

Earthy, sorry I'm crap with names but if you haven't already do pop over to the Spoons thread (on general health board) as there are loads of us with fatigue/pain issues.

Lollipop I hope your grandad is doing ok. I don't like hospitals either. Lost my nan (to lymphoma) in July. It's ok to cry though, if you need to thanks

1 stayed calm despite us locking ourselves out the house this morning

2 asked my bro for advice about a hol

3 had a nice time at a family get together

Empross76 Sun 15-Sep-13 22:18:14

Hello all!

Today's three things:

Had some LOVELY cuddles with DS.

Fixed DD's lunchbox.

Did a little prep for a meeting with my employer & HR tomorrow (I've been off work with anxiety since April).

I've had more bad things than good things today but it does help to at least identify some positives.

Today's things:

1 - did more knitting - cardigan is really coming on now.

2 - made cupcakes.

3 - didn't lie in bed half the morning - got up at a reasonable time.

Kendra78 Sun 15-Sep-13 22:22:19

I will defiantly give it ago
1- had a lovely day in today with my three year old daughter
2- did not get that upset with being single!!!!!
3- in bed early
Will that do xx

BeaWheesht Sun 15-Sep-13 22:46:06

Ok here goes:

Ds did his homework nicely with no moaning
We all watched a DVD together
I had some time to myself

For yesterday:

1. Had a good night out at the ice hockey, and our team won smile
2. Saw some relatives who live at the other end of the country - they called in before going to see my granddad.
3. Helped my gran out by doing a food shop (well, as much of it as I could carry home - but it meant she only had a little shop to do, not a big one)

fuzzpig Mon 16-Sep-13 08:26:02

Struggling again for yesterday but here they are:

- helped DSD (15) with lots of homework

- remembered to make a little salad to go with my pasta for dinner (keep meaning to but usually can't be bothered)

- went to bed properly after falling asleep on sofa with DH (usually end up staying downstairs which is not too sensible) and had a better night's sleep because of it.

Millie2013 Mon 16-Sep-13 20:36:36

Fuzz, I'm a huge BBT fan, I'm going to check out you tube, thank you smile

Mine for today

- I managed to do a few household things I've been struggling with
- I had quite a productive psych appt
- I spent a lovely hour with the horses and followed oldie around the field while she grazed. She looked a bit confused by my presence, bless her smile

fuzzpig Mon 16-Sep-13 21:20:10

Yay a fellow BBT fan grin I only really got into it last year but I am somewhat obsessed now...

Mine for today (much better overall!):

- Went to the walk in clinic and was seen within half an hour <falls over in shock> (normally it is a couple of hours)

- Thanks to being seen so fast, DH and I had time to get the train to a nearby lovely town where we browsed a few shops and had a quiet pub lunch. Bliss! It is a real novelty having the odd day together now the DCs are in school.

- Was in agony after work again - always am on Mondays - but instead of collapsing on the sofa when I got in I forced myself to run a hot bath with dead sea salts, and lazed in it reading for an hour. I really need to make that part of my weekly routine as hopefully it will help prevent my regular mini-crash on Tuesdays.

Queenofknickers Mon 16-Sep-13 21:30:04

Hmmm hard day so am determined to do this!
1. DH was nice to me and listened to my shitty day at work
2. DS had better day at school after wobbles last week
3. Next door neighbour said I looked glam today (female so it counts!!)

Hard today

1 finished emulsion

2 had nice little chat with a friend

3 enjoyed his first swimming lesson

Empross76 Mon 16-Sep-13 21:45:33

Finally, a good day today. Great, actually!

Got a bargain on Gumtree.

Phoned mortgage company and got news I was hoping for.

Had lots of texts from friends re my meeting with my boss and HR. Feel v lucky to have such fab friends.

Hope everyone else had a good day too.

Mine are:

1. Had a really good review with my boss at work
2. Went to the gym before work, and had a good workout
3. Had a stroppy customer on the phone, and it didn't upset me smile

BeaWheesht Mon 16-Sep-13 22:44:40

1. Got in touch with an old friend
2. Ds stood up and did show and tell, he'd never have done that a year ago
3. I worked something out that's been troubling me

everydayineveryway Tue 17-Sep-13 01:19:43

Managed to buy clothes for ds
Dd in a good mood
Had a long cuddle with dog

There was a huge rainstorm this afternoon that totally cleared the air
The dog's tummy bug has cleared up and tests today confirmed that
The dcs took the bus to and from the new school today so I'm no longer spending 3 hours a day in gridlocked traffic

I like this thread. I spend too much time focusing on what doesn't go right. Doesn't have to be an achievement, even something beyond your control that you are grateful for.

fuzzpig Tue 17-Sep-13 08:22:52

Exactly butterflies - before when I've tried this I've felt like a fraud if I put things that weren't actual achievements, but actually it is really helpful to write down nice things that happen as it reminds me I don't have the worst luck in the world!

MajesticWhine Tue 17-Sep-13 10:30:55

They don't have to be achievements. They need to be something that reverses your negative affirmations. So ideally, from each positive thing, you can derive a positive self belief. We are so used to negative self-talk, and develop harsh negative beliefs about ourselves, so this is meant to provide some balance.

So using various examples
1. Chatted with DD after school (I am a good mother)
2. Saw an old friend for coffee (I am friendly and sociable)
3. Someone was rude to me but I didn't lose the plot (I am calm)
4. The traffic was better today (Things are going well for me)

fuzzpig Tue 17-Sep-13 11:02:07

Yes I tend to be very pessimistic, like with the walk in centre yesterday - I know I have been treated very well there, but I tend to dwell on those times where I've waited hours, and then the appointment has been pointless (eg told my wheeze/inability to fecking breathe(!) is viral and they can't do anything) so I really dread going as I think "oh what's the point, I will just wait ages and then come away feeling worse - but thanks to yesterday where I got seen quickly, and although I didn't really get any firm answers (that's fine as I'm seeing my usual GP on Thursday) I can bank it as evidence that it often IS worthwhile going and, from a self worth point of view, it helps me remember that I AM worth treating/taking care of, health wise.

DuelingFanjo Tue 17-Sep-13 11:27:34

This is what I did yesterday:

Collected DS from nursery and took him to hunt for puddles

Watched Dexter on the sofa with my husband with a glass of wine

Snuggled up in bed by 10 pm

ssd Tue 17-Sep-13 13:05:20

I find it very hard to break away from negative thoughts and they can overwhelm me

can anyone give me any advice?

mum died a year ago and I feel so lost and alone, I try to be positive but cant see a way of turning anything around

ssd Tue 17-Sep-13 13:06:16

sorry to bring a negative vibe to the thread

MajesticWhine Tue 17-Sep-13 16:08:43

sorry for your loss ssd. I am not sure what to advise, without knowing more about your situation. It can take a long time to overcome the loss of a loved one. CBT (like the kind of positive thinking ideas on this thread) is not necessarily helpful with grief, although it can be. Do you have any support in real life? Would a support group help, or having some counselling?

fuzzpig Tue 17-Sep-13 16:33:26

Please don't apologise ssd, it's good to share. I'm really sorry about your mum thanks

Have you ever looked at mindfulness? I wonder if that would be a good approach since it is about accepting your feelings rather than battling against them, and of course what you're feeling is a natural response.

BeaWheesht Tue 17-Sep-13 16:43:56

Ssd sad I wish I could make you feel better. Mindfulness might be a good idea though like pp suggested?

ssd Tue 17-Sep-13 16:58:58

I haven't heard of mindfulness, I'll google it to see what it means.

I'm waiting for counselling from cruse, but they are extremely busy, have been waiting for months.

spanky2 Tue 17-Sep-13 20:25:22

Ssd mindfulness is part of cbt I think and I found it really helpful .
I got referred for cbt quite quickly . Ask your doctor . thanks

fuzzpig Tue 17-Sep-13 20:57:51

Bizarrely spanky our group leader said that CBT is in a way the opposite of mindfulness/acceptance therapy, because in CBT you are specifically aiming to change thoughts/behaviour, whereas with mindfulness you learn to observe them and 'be with them' rather than fighting against them. I am finding elements of both useful though!

fuzzpig Tue 17-Sep-13 21:05:33

Mine for today:

- had a productive morning with DH as we agreed to fill a binbag of stuff to throw out (I am on a decluttering mission but progress is slow lately)

- managed the school run this afternoon without any stropping and not too much pain

- feel like a good mum as I did a fun kitchen experiment with DCs and read secret seven to DD (have been barely able to speak the last few evenings so sadly relinquished it to DH

fuzzpig that's interesting re: cbt and mindfulness - I am trying to combine both and have become aware of that difference but hope to take the best from each.

not a great day, but

collected loads of online orders from various shops etc
dd was chatty in car after school
ordered wallpaper

BeaWheesht Tue 17-Sep-13 22:32:37

Have had a hellish day but here goes:

Got dd's party bags sorted
Posted a couple of parcels that have been sitting on my kitchen table for weeks
Good tv on tonight

They're not the best but they're something right?

spanky2 Wed 18-Sep-13 09:24:32

Thank you fuzzpig I didn't know that but did it with cbt . I wonder why?
Got a complement about a pupil of mine.
Ds2 is being much better behaved .
Felt less stressed than usual .

spanky2 Wed 18-Sep-13 09:26:15

I cleared out my wardrobe and Ds2 's wardrobe which I had been putting off. Four !grin

ok one early thing

famous people are filming in the town where I live!! (Am v excited and trying to resist urge to sit on pavement all day wink)

MajesticWhine Wed 18-Sep-13 16:02:34

Many cbt therapists will do mindfulness work with clients too. They are allies not opposites, but have a different approach to dealing with thoughts. They both are concerned with noticing thoughts so they have that in common.

fuzzpig Wed 18-Sep-13 19:01:13

I think they are very complimentary despite having different approaches. It's also quite nice to use mindfulness to observe the effects of the CBT and vice versa. CBT is about changing thoughts/behaviours etc but it's really useful to use mindfulness as a step to break the cycle of thought/behaviour too, by accepting that thought, rather than trying to change it.

For example I spoke with my therapist about the anxiety I get on the bus a lot if I'm sitting in one of the disabled spaces because I don't iook disabled, and I run through CBT techniques quickly (I do this automatically) like reassuring myself that I am there for a reason etc, BUT in that situation I tend to overdo it and my mind just races. So during my session recently we put in 'use mindfulness' in the diagram so that I actually just make a big effort to observe the anxiety instead and just let it happen, rather than getting myself in a tizz by trying and failing to combat it.

Sorry that was somewhat garbled, hope it made sense.

Mine for today:

- had a great time at a drop in art class that I've been wondering about for ages. Talked to people and everything! My OT will be very pleased that I made that step.

- got home to find DH had done absolutely loads of decluttering and he even told me what he'd thrown away so I didn't get too anxious.

- remembered to take in my poems for my friend

BeaWheesht Wed 18-Sep-13 19:49:56

Ok mine

Dd's test results came back from docs and they're fine.

Ds did all his homework straight away so don't have to worry about it at weekend.

Bought myself some new clothes

BeaWheesht Wed 18-Sep-13 19:51:21

Fuzzpig - sounds like you've had a fab day, well done and send your Dh round here, plenty of decluttering to be done!

Hmmm, struggling at the moment, have had a sledgehammer taken to my world and it's not easy holding myself together.


1. I told work about my current situation, and they're being fab
2. I'm starting to get my support network in place for what will be a hard few months
3. I'm going ice skating tomorrow morning smile

Weegiemum Wed 18-Sep-13 20:04:41

N today I made my dc lunches.

Made all 3 dc do music practice,

Dd2 cooked Brownies and we ate them


fuzzpig Wed 18-Sep-13 20:16:42

Haha bea sorry I still need him here, lots more to be done <cracks whip> grin

Lollipop, sorry things aren't going well. You are doing brilliantly still posting here though and it's great you are being proactive organising stuff.

This thread is nearly 2 weeks old already shock I've got my next phone session with my psychologist tomorrow and I can't wait to tell her that I've done what she suggested and that you have all joined me.

I think if I'd just done this in my head or even on paper/my phone memo pad, I would've stopped after a few days. Doing it in a group is fab and so motivating, so thank you all thanks

Also just wanted to say, as much for myself as anyone, don't worry if you don't do it every day. I tend to be "all or nothing" so in the past have often thought "oh well I missed a bit so there's no point continuing" as the inconsistency/imperfect nature of it hits right at the heart of my anxiety. This is something I'm really trying to change.

In fact that's another reason why I'm proud I went to that art club - I conquered my anxiety over the fact I'd missed some and therefore wouldn't be doing the whole 'course'!

fuzzpig great about the art club grin and pleased you can hold your head high tomorrow with psychologist. I've tried to do this in a notebook before and it's petered off. This is so much better - thanks.

I've had a good day. Without "outing" myself.

1 waved at famous actor and he waved back whilst on set filming. vvvv exciting grin

2 spent nice time with my dad

3 first coat of paint on woodwork looks lovely and bright and white

Millie2013 Wed 18-Sep-13 21:01:34

Hugs, SSD xx

I've had another ok day smile
-took my LO to see the horses this morning, she loves them!
-took MIL out and didn't strangle her (result!!)
-some funny texts back and fro with my friend smile

MajesticWhine Wed 18-Sep-13 21:49:59

I had a pretty bad day. Ah well, try to focus on the positives.

- Work went quite well and am getting on ok with new supervisor
- I have a quiet day tomorrow and will have some time to catch up with my studying.
- I was really tempted to drink wine tonight, due to a tough day, but didn't, keeping to my nights out or weekends only rule.

BeaWheesht Thu 19-Sep-13 00:08:42

Sorry some of you have had a bad day. Yesterday was a very scary day here but today was fine smile

Lollipop - hope you're ok

Fuzzpig- thanks for the thread - I know just what you mean about all or nothing I am like that about everything in life, I can't just tidy the kitchen for example, I have to make it perfect and if I can't then why bother? I can't do a normal diet I have to practically Starve myself and I can't so I never lose weight, I can't make a normal cake for my dd's birthday it has to be professional looking even though I've never made anything like it before, arghhhhh it drives me mad!!! Sorry wee rant!

namechangeforareasonablereason Thu 19-Sep-13 00:10:51

3 is hard
I am practising - what did you do today that was lovely and thats enough

I have beaitufl DCs and I played with them
i had a cuddle with DD
I bought christmas things


I went ice skating and had a really good lesson with my coach
I am playing around with my website this afternoon
My mum has agreed to give me money for my birthday, so I can use it to help me get home from ice show rehearsals over the next few months.

fuzzpig Thu 19-Sep-13 16:29:46

Ooh namechange what xmas stuff did you get?

Mine for today:

- saw my GP, she took my issues seriously and without me even asking gave me the referral I was hoping for (ultrasound)

- had a great session by phone with psychologist, she was very impressed about the fact I started this thread (I didn't specify MN, just said it was an online group) and that loads of us are encouraging each other smile she is also impressed with the 'inner work' I am doing and said I am very insightful smile

- I keep looking at the printing plates I made at the art group (we will use them next time), I am proud of them and it makes me happy.

fuzzpig Thu 19-Sep-13 16:30:32

I am impressed by your ice skating lollipop!

namechangeforareasonablereason Thu 19-Sep-13 17:44:00

Ice skating sounds great as does art plates

Thanks for sharing that about the psychologist - I've strarted "tell me something lovely you did today" around the dinner table - nice to know it's a good thing to do.

I got advent calendars and Christmas duvets. smile

Today I had a lovely bath with dd
I'm laying on the bed with my baby
Stuck on 3 - had lovely cuddles after school from ds

Fuzzpig this is def helping - thank you.

Finished painting my bedroom grin

Beautiful sunny evening after a miserable day

Had a very open chat with another mum who hadn't known all that had been going on here over the last year.

For yesterday -
Went back to work after day off with sick child and boss was lovely and asked how he was
Got given name of a cleaner, phoned and she is coming round next week for a chat
Ordered 1/2 size guitar online for ds and am considering keeping 3/4 one that is too big for him for myself so we can learn together

spanky2 Fri 20-Sep-13 13:13:29

Yesterday .
Made bread and casserole for tea.
Got to a doctors appointment on time .
Got to boys music lesson on time .
Feel bad a I had short patience as I am not feeling brilliant .

spanky2 Fri 20-Sep-13 13:17:42

You are right . I feel because it is part of this group I have to do it and it is so useful to keep me positive .

Ok away for a few days so here's today's

Had brief chat with nice friend who complimented me on my paintings

Made a good start on the packing

Weather improving

Millie2013 Fri 20-Sep-13 17:59:54

Mine for today:

Spent some time with the horses v early this morning and it was lovely and peaceful!
Took LO out for a few hours, only to do a bit of shopping, but we enjoyed it and sang all the way home in the car
We've finally got hot water after not having any for a few days, so I'm going to chill in the bath, with a cheeky glass of wine

I hope you all have a lovely weekend smile

MajesticWhine Fri 20-Sep-13 22:08:15

Ok, not very exciting, but here are my 3 for today.

- took DD3 to soft play and met up with friends
- had nice prawn stir fry for dinner
- DD2, (whilst being utterly vile to me) seems to be a bit happier with new school

BeaWheesht Fri 20-Sep-13 23:20:16

I made dd's birthday cake - I've never made anything other than a 'normal' cake before so am quite proud of myself.

Kids were well behaved.

I helped a friend out.

namechangeforareasonablereason Sat 21-Sep-13 00:17:16

I am struggling to think of 3 things other than cuddled children (I have 3 so that's 3 things).

I tidied one bedroom
DH made me a lovely GnT somehow he always gets them just right
It's the weekend and I much prefer it when DCs are home

fuzzpig Sat 21-Sep-13 08:32:33

Fell asleep really early last night so didn't get back here to post!

For yesterday:

- spoke to DD's teacher about an issue (a boy being mean to her) and she invited me in straight away to talk about it properly, and she took it seriously and suggested lots of ideas to combat it.

- took DCs to the park after school which is brave for me, they had a great time and DS actually held my hand near the roads as I asked him to.

- managed to cook dinner despite the fact that DH was home by then (which normally automatically means he does it) - and the DCs actually ate loads of it (noodle/veg stir fry with leftover beef) despite complaints beforehand. And as DH had cut up the remains of the roast the day before it was much quicker, so he said he will always do that for me in the future.

Mine for yesterday -

- boss agreed to week off
- got some lovely flowers from DP
- Had a nice walk back from the station and bought some fresh coconuts

No-one around today?

Some for today
- laughed at a sign saying 'stressed is just desserts spelt backwards'
- Had a nice trip too own with ds1
- Went for a run this morning

ipanemagirl16 Sat 21-Sep-13 19:54:39

This is such a good idea! Thank you for sharing it Fuzzpig.
1. Read lots of a book from the library that I'm really enjoying (Kings of Cool)
2. Wrote a long letter to a good friend who has been having a tough time lately.
3. Got together with my brother & his children & had a fun time at the park with them & my children.

run4it Sat 21-Sep-13 20:03:03

Made really nice tea ( veggie Mexican wraps)
Had lovely walk in the park
He a lie in!

fuzzpig Sat 21-Sep-13 20:32:32

Argh really struggling today. Had to cry off a family day out as my legs are agony (am paying for my busy day yesterday I guess) so have been mooching at home and not managed to get out at all.

Still. Must find 3 things!

- DCs had a brilliant time at the event (DH still took them which gave me a rest) and came back raving about it. It was an open day at a bus depot (!) - they even went through a bus wash! I put a message straight on the company's FB page too, to say how great it was. And apparently they behaved beautifully all day too (the DCs, not the buses grin)

- can't believe I keep forgetting this (guess it hasn't really sunk in yet) - the best thing of the day was, I got my DLA letter and they've actually awarded me it. It's going to take a huge pressure off financially (needless to say I'd rather be healthy and able to work more again but still - at least this money helps make up the shortfall since I reduced my hours) - and I've already started looking into other things it helps me access, like a bus pass, so I've been proactive basically by googling stuff but it still counts right?

- I've written a load more things in the diary for the rest of 2013. Stuff like paydays to help us be a bit more organised financially, and also the release dates of all the movies we are looking forward to so we can plan cinema trips! (particularly Disney's Frozen, which is going to be the subject of our new tradition, as of last year - a whole family movie then Pizza Hut buffet). It's really nice to have lots of stuff to look forward to, and I also really like the fact that we've got so much better at being organised generally this year. It's the first year we've ever managed to keep a diary past, um, the second week in January!

fuzzpig Sat 21-Sep-13 20:36:01

Gosh I really do waffle on don't I sorry blush

I actually do feel a bit happier for having written it though! Counting my blessings and all that smile

Reminds me of a lovely line from a song in the film White Christmas: "If you're worried, and you can't sleep, just count your blessings instead of sheep" grin

ipanemagirl16 Sat 21-Sep-13 21:16:01

This is such a good idea! Thank you for sharing it Fuzzpig.
1. Read lots of a book from the library that I'm really enjoying (Kings of Cool)
2. Wrote a long letter to a good friend who has been having a tough time lately.
3. Got together with my brother & his children.

namechangeforareasonablereason Sat 21-Sep-13 21:42:47

I dont htink you waffle I think its lovely

I finally bit the bullet and offered on a house in a new area to get a new start and it has been accepted
We went to visit some friends
I am beginning to be able to spend time away from laptop and with phone off (I watched a whole episode of TV without checking I have a real internet problem developed from a year of not leaving house without DH so that was a breakthrough)

BeaWheesht Sat 21-Sep-13 22:00:27

Hi everyone.

Mine for today:

Dd had a lovely party
Got a couple of bargains
There were 20 kids at the party and it made me feel happy because we aren't from here and dd isn't in nursery so it's mainly my acquaintances / friends

MajesticWhine Sat 21-Sep-13 22:09:40

Here's mine for today

- Pleasant evening spent eating, drinking and chatting with family.
- Took DDs out for a shopping trip and everyone seemed to have a good time.
- Saw a coat in Banana Republic about a week ago that I quite liked. Saw it again today for 1/2 price and bought it smile

spanky2 Sun 22-Sep-13 17:03:15

Yesterday was a very bad day. Narcisstic mum sent postcard to my dcs and it was upsetting to be reminded that her and father don't love me.
had a sleep then able to function for early evening.
used skin care products on my face . looking after myself .
didn't over eat as I was upset .

BeaWheesht Sun 22-Sep-13 22:25:50

Spanky - that sounds horrible well done for keeping going

My 3

It was a lovely day weather wise.
Had a day out with family and kids had a fab time.
Dh and I had some time to ourselves without rushing round like mad things after kids in bed.

Tiler did a good job
Had a good tidy and clean of dcs room - looks nice
dcs went to bed well

fuzzpig Mon 23-Sep-13 22:15:04

Oooops mine for yesterday (bit of a struggle as a rough day overall):

- had fantastic dinner cooked by DH after DCs in bed - loads of veg, felt rather virtuous too

- went through my ridiculously huge amazon wishlists and culled loads, feel a bit lighter in my head thanks to the digital decluttering! Also feel a little clearer about what we will be getting as Xmas presents.

- wrote a funny thread that made people laugh smile

People are doing great. Spanky a huge well done for staying strong in the face of toxicity thanks

fuzzpig Mon 23-Sep-13 22:19:06

And mine for today:

- had a shower and actually shaves my legs for the first time in... erm... blush

- had a couple of compliments on my outfit. The top is actually just an old one of my mum's but it does look really good smile

- friend at work gave me my poems back and had written a card saying how much she liked them and felt their emotions, and that she was really pleased I'd shared them with her.

Bproud Mon 23-Sep-13 22:28:12

Fuzzpig this is a lovely idea, can I join in? I am having a lot of stress at the moment at home and work and I think this will really help me.
my 3 things are:
- I went to my yoga class and really enjoyed it
- I was brave and called someone out on a sexist comment on FB
- My boss allowed me to work from home tomorrow which will help a bit with the work stress I think

WafflyVersatile Mon 23-Sep-13 22:30:28

Gosh, I'd struggle with this.

made progress with some work

sat in the lovely late afternoon sun - timed my outing perfectly for it!

had a lovely lemon drizzle orange cake.

Please can I join in? Recovered from several years of depression so would be great to keep positive thoughts prevalent.

- Learnt something new - I knitted something for the first time ever (apart from 3inch square when I was 13)
- Sorted out a big pile of paperwork
- Had a lovely chat with my brilliant MIL

fuzzpig Mon 23-Sep-13 23:10:19

The more the merrier! smile welcome thanks

BeaWheesht Mon 23-Sep-13 23:27:11

Fuzz pig - lol @ shaving legs, mine only get done when I'm going swimming!

My 3

Ds has been so lovely today smile
Dh is off tmro
Made a delicious cake

EBearhug Mon 23-Sep-13 23:29:33

Went swimming before work.
Lovely Dutch director is over here, which almost makes up for being back at work after 3 weeks leave.
It was a beautiful sunset.

MajesticWhine Tue 24-Sep-13 09:38:14

3 for yesterday

Had a lovely chat on the phone with my mum, and although I should have called her she didn't seem miffed.

Had a good chat with DD about things that are troubling her.

Made a small amount of progress with a work problem

hello everyone

- Got lots of little odd things ticked off my to-do list

- Bought myself a new t shirt

- Decided to make an appt to speak to dd headteacher

BeaWheesht Tue 24-Sep-13 20:37:28

We've had a lovely day here for dd's birthday

- had a lovely breakfast out with Dh and dd
- ds was so lovey to dd
- had fun after school
- dd liked her presents
- good TV tonight!
- best friend visiting tomorrow

Ooh look 6!

run4it Tue 24-Sep-13 21:15:32

Positive feedback on some work I've done
Went for a lovely walk with kids after tea
Lovely hug from ds before he went to bed

Yesterday's three:

Big improvement on the knitting front
Spent a couple of hours relaxing in the morning
A lovely chat with some of the parents at DCs new school


- got out for a 45 min walk with my dad

- got my dad sorted at our docs after dog bite

- dd in a good mood after school this evening

mine for today - t

ok some shirts back that don't suit me
- Had an interesting chat with my boss about personality types
+Teacher at school impressed at Ds being on a proper bike ( no stabilisers )

Oh and the Big Issue seller outside work told me I had a lovely smile. Feel a bit bad as I never buy one from him as I get it from one in the town where I live, a lovely guy who asks how my new job is going.

fuzzpig Wed 25-Sep-13 21:03:56

OK thought I'd better come back tonight despite feeling crap (period) as otherwise I'd need to do three days' worth tomorrow!


- managed to walk home from school with the DCs.

- prepared salad veg for the DCs' dinner so it wasn't just pasta and cheese.

- DH's college tutor recognised his/our unusual surname and asked if he knew me grin he said I was really bright and had done well on the course I took with him a couple of years ago. Chuffed that he remembered me smile

fuzzpig Wed 25-Sep-13 21:12:18

And today's:

- DH did loads more tidying and moved the table into our kitchen as DD suggested recently. Our kitchen is tiny but it does fit (and we may be jigging things around a bit more soon to make more space) and we all sat down together for dinner for the first time in ages. And I took the opportunity to implement the daily "tell me the best thing about your day" idea from upthread, I can't remember who wrote that but thank you - it was lovely! Especially inviting DS to speak, he has a speech disorder and hearing him improve as he talks about his day is just wonderful.

- played a lovely family game after dinner (Animal Upon Animal - was recommended on here and Santa delivered it at Xmas grin) and was really impressed how well both DCs did with the patience and fine motor skills required.

- friend at work told me which of my poems were her favourites and we had a nice chat. She then told me about other poems she likes, and printed one out for me which I'll find and post here in a mo - it is really relevant.

fuzzpig Wed 25-Sep-13 21:16:00

Here it is:


This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

Jelaluddin Rumi
translation by Coleman Barks

As a recent newbie to mindfulness I find the above really relevant. It is important to be able to just be with our feelings, good or bad, rather than struggling against them in pursuit of perfection.

findingme Thu 26-Sep-13 10:01:40

Thanks for this thread. I have been feeling really low this week (came off AD's after 10 years a few months ago) and just can't shake it. At first I just sat there, eyes welling because I couldn't think of one positive thing. I have finally managed to think of 3 and my eyes are finally dry. I have enjoyed reading everyone else's positive things too so thank you all.

The poem has helped too. I feel like I am failing when I am feeling low, but feeling low is better than feeling nothing. I need to turn this feeling into a positive and use the sadness that I feel to identify things in my life that I can improve on.

-My lips are good today (I have a skin condition, sometimes they look and feel like they are covered in sores)
-DD's foot is getting better
-Sun is shining

MajesticWhine Thu 26-Sep-13 10:03:40

Interesting poem fuzzpig. I wish I could believe there was something good about dark thoughts and shame. I am beginning mindfulness classes next week. Do you find it difficult to find the time (or discipline) for daily practice?

Sorry I have missed this for a few days.

My three things at the moment -

Meeting up with some lovely MN friends for a knit and a blether on Monday.

Keeping the kitchen clean and tidy.

Making myself go to the gym on Tuesday (though I haven't managed to make myself go today).

Liquidambar Thu 26-Sep-13 15:31:58

What a wonderful thread. May I join you?

(this is hard)

- had a healthy salad for lunch
- finilised the structure of the report I'm working at the moment
- walked to work and the sun was shinning

ZingWantsCake Thu 26-Sep-13 15:52:22

I have to post tomorrow

spanky2 Thu 26-Sep-13 19:43:27

Tried and mainly didn't compulsively eat.
Met friends I hadn't seen for ages and they were pleased to see me.
Didn't smack the dcs even though they were naughty . I have decided not to smack as it's not nice .

- painted a good picture at college today
- cooked buns for coffee morning tomorrow
- friend popped in

fuzzpig Thu 26-Sep-13 22:13:29

Majestic with the mindfulness, no I don't do daily practise ATM. I am mainly using it in moments of anxiety (eg on the bus) as a way of stopping my mind running away with itself. I should try and do daily practise though.

Well I had a seriously terrible afternoon. Struggled getting DS back as he was so tired, had to carry him part of the way and collapsed in the hallway when I got home, in massive pain, narrowly avoiding a full blown panic attack. Really sore now. But still. Must find positives!

- watched another foreign film, and on the commercials found two more that I'm hoping to watch - one Scandinavian, one French and one Japanese. I've only recently realised how much great cinema there is, that I'd not given a chance because it was subtitled, but I'm loving it!

- wrote a thread about aforementioned school run and got lots of really lovely supportive replies and advice. Feeling less panicky about tomorrow now.

- managed to cook dinner once I'd recovered, spent time listening to music with DD while DS slept off his tantrum. We still sat round the table and did our 'best thing of the day' talk, and although DH now feels really guilty he wasn't here, I'm pleased I pulled it together.

Well done fuzzpig. Have not been since Monday. Tuesday was not great so I am going to pretend it didn't happen grin so
One of the DCs had a new friend from school over and made them a "perfect tea mummy".
Put a lot of thought into the wording of a message of support for a friend
Watched Great British Bake Off - love this series.

Lovely coffee with some friends
Thanked for the eloquence of my message and for the emotion behind it
Managed to solve an camping/walking equipment issue for DH.

May not be able to come on for a few days and DM&F are coming to stay so not sure if will be able to get on. But looking forward to seeing them.

BeaWheesht Fri 27-Sep-13 00:35:56

Ok mine for today:

Had coffee with friends and their dds same age as dd.

Made a scrummy cake

Ds has been sooooooo much better behaved this week, feel like I have my boy back!!! grin [teary emoticon]

BeaWheesht Fri 27-Sep-13 00:37:23

Oh and dd vomited and I didn't go to pieces

What film did you see fuzzpig ? Am always looking for interesting films.

Mine for yesterday
- made it to my yoga class for the first time in weeks
- Ds1 had a lovely time playing at a friend's house
- Read a really interesting article about Angela Merkel's style of leadership.

fuzzpig Fri 27-Sep-13 12:26:01

The film I watched was called The Hunt. Rather creepy. I think it's Danish but I might be wrong and have now returned it so can't read the box. Also recently watched a French film called In The House.

Have now requested a load of others from the library too smile

ZingWantsCake Fri 27-Sep-13 13:04:05

-finally managed to finish altering a dress for a friend. I've even dropped it off before lunch!

- lunch was delicious: ham & cream cheese bagels

- it's Friday! That's always good news! Happy Friday everyone!smile

findingme Fri 27-Sep-13 13:05:57

Stressful day but there must be positives - think!

- I still have a job (have managed to upset a client (through nothing I could control) and nearly flooded the kitchen, I started at 8 and still don't seem to have done any work!)
- Have had a very positive talk with DH about tackling our debt (nothing terrible, just the usual overdrafts and credit cards, but they have been getting me down).
- I just won a box of biscuits at the Macmillan coffee morning raffle!

I remembered to post on my One Positive Thing Every Day blog - I am supposed to post every day, but rarely manage that at the moment.

I made banana, walnut and date cake yesterday - two in fact - and they are delicious, though sinful.

The pasta sauce for supper is cooked, so all I have to do tonight is cook the pasta tonight.

Happy Friday to you too, Zing.

Oh - and I treated myself to a lie-in this morning, which was lovely.

Boofyh Fri 27-Sep-13 18:23:00

Hello I know I'm late but can I join? I'm on my second day of ADs and can't concentrate long enough to read the first chapter of my mindfulness book let alone do any excersises so this might be more doable.

I had a conversation with stbxh without a. Wanting to punch him. Or b. wanting crawl into a hole and die.

A colleagues dw dropped off a huge box of muffins for us, just because she felt like it.

When someone at work asked me to do something I was able to say "don't worry I've already taken care of it".

hurrah its Friday!

- my cakes were some of the first to sell out at the coffee morning grin
- got within 3 of completing Guardian quick crossword
- held it together at coffee morning when for a while I had no-one to talk to

Welcome, BoofyH - and well done on taking the first steps towards getting better!

fuzzpig Fri 27-Sep-13 21:01:29

Welcome Boofy! I hope you find this thread helpful, I am already finding it useful in maintaining optimism. Go easy on yourself while you're getting used to the ADs - side effects can be very distracting!

Mine for today:

- another mum approached me at school this morning and got my number so she can invite my DD to play with her DS.

- my colleague recommended loads of foreign films when I told her what I've seen recently, and requested some for me on the library catalogue - some will be available early next week so lots more to watch smile

- picked up my shiny new iPod touch. It is the first apple device I've ever bought (had a couple of hand me downs from a generous friend) - have been saving up most of this year for it - so to have the latest thing is a novelty, and it is soooo lovely and did I mention it is shiny - been playing my favourite game which I really missed since my ancient iPhone died. [geek emoticon]

teaandkittens Fri 27-Sep-13 21:30:25

I love this thread!

1. I am watching glee and puck is making me go weak at the knees
2. I got a delivery of lovely tupperware (well glass bowls with lids) so my lunches will be pretty now
3. I have stuck to a diet for 11 days and lost 10lbs!

spanky2 Fri 27-Sep-13 22:09:32

I made a fruit cake .
Met a friend and we talked about our dysfunctional families and laughed abit .
Boys had a nice time playing and I felt warm feelings .
I have had wine and I think it shows.grin

Catmint Fri 27-Sep-13 22:12:20

I had a lovely time cuddling and playing with my kitten.

I helped sort out a problem at work EVEN THOUGH I WASN'T EVEN THERE!

I connected with an old friend in a way I feel comfortable with.

Catmint Fri 27-Sep-13 22:12:36

I have had wine too

Queenofknickers Fri 27-Sep-13 22:17:25

Awful week... Worried depression is coming back, v bad week at work dealing with horrible people. Must do this
1. Didn't force myself to drive when in chronic pain but took painkillers and rested
2. My children are happy and healthy
3. I've heard about a mindfulness course I might do next year.

It's not hopeless, it's not hopeless

BeaWheesht Fri 27-Sep-13 23:19:00

Queenofknickers - poor you. Are you on medication? Do you have anyone to talk to?

My 3

Bought a lot of my Christmas shopping
Helped raised £500 for charity
Bedtime on my own with both kids went surprisingly well

I have three easily today - which is lovely to say

1) Do not need surgery on my foot (broke a bone 2 weeks ago)
2) Smiled and kissed DC & DH off on an activity weekend - I was supposed to be going to - but rather than feeling glum I felt good that we sorted it so they could still go and not miss out.
3) Have had a lovely time with my parents - sans DC, sans DH - really rather good to catch up for hours without interruptions. ( And they are being brilliant looking after me)

Can I add a few more please?
4) People are lovely (the odd grumpy clinic receptionist aside). I have come across (mostly) nothing but kindness, concern and helpfulness since hurting foot - from the chap helping carry stuff from the bakers to the car, to the parents and teachers at DCs school and the people at the hospital flowers
5)I am missing my DC and DH - odd that this is a positive - but for sometime I was emotionally quite "numb" and feeling stuff is a Good Thing.
6) Parents and I have planned a great day out (foot-friendly) for tomorrow - so will feel less like I am missing out on the activity weekend.

Have good weekends everyone x

Queenofknickers Sat 28-Sep-13 11:21:21

Feeling much brighter this morning - I take my meds at night and I wonder if that has an effect. thanks Bea smile

Mine for yesterday

- Had a lovely meal out with DP , first in months
- Had a really good chat with ds1's teacher who obviously loves him to bits and wants to help him with his difficulties. Convinced me getting Ed Psych in is the right thing to do.
- Convinced DP to meet with Ds1's teacher as well next week as he is very anti getting outside agencies involved.

Not so good today sad

- Got all my errands done
- Happily watched dd gymnastics and saw how much she has progressed
- waitrose dinner and wine follow soon...

Millie2013 Sat 28-Sep-13 20:57:34

Big hug, colouring

Ok ish day here

-nice time spent with the hosses this morning
-giggles with my 7 month old- everything is hilarious at the moment, apparently, I think I need to take a leaf out of her book and giggle more!
-currently sitting in bed with OH, eating cheese and crackers! Yum

Boofyh Sat 28-Sep-13 20:59:02

Thank you for the warm welcome yesterday, felt stupidly grateful.

Baked a birthday cake.

found a brilliant message from yesterday in dd's contact book.(she hasn't even started all day yet!)

Signed up to Netflix so my long winter evenings are filled.

Evening. Have had wine so a little today
1) Had a riot today using a mobility scooter round a country house garden (hoping this doesn't out me) .. Whizzed around like a nutter and laughed lots. (Broken foot so only way I could get around.) Enjoyed being a 40-odd year old kid again with my lovely Mum and Dad. Got some odd looks as I did donut circles in the scooter on the posh garden paths - and didn't care. was funny. Just nice to be silly and carefree (DCs away with DH).
2) Lovely meal out with DParents. Killer steak (nom).
3) Managed an hour long zzzzz this afternoon. Taken me years to allow myself to do this and not feel the need to constantly be doing stuff - so as well as refreshed from a nap I felt proud of having one.

Hugs if anyone is feeling a bit pants - know the feeling and it is rubbish. But well done for still posting (hope doesn't sound patronising cos not meant that way) - I just know for me on the bad days it is difficult to see past the crap to thing of one good thing, let alone three.

Also like to thank fuzzpig for starting this. I am (hopefully) close to the end on my immediate (though long) journey with depression - but this had really helped focus my thoughts positively the last few days. It is something I am thinking of even starting with DCs. flowers

fuzzpig Sun 29-Sep-13 07:01:54

No idea why I'm awake this early hmm so may as well post yesterday's things now!

- managed my shift at work despite very little sleep - had woken up at 4 for some reason and just couldn't sleep. But I got through it and it was fun.

- had been really panicky about DSD babysitting while I worked - NOT because she isn't capable (does it a couple of times a month) but because this was the first time she was taking them out rather than staying home, and DS can still be hard to handle sometimes. So I was nervous but had understanding/reassurance from other mums at work, and DSD kept me posted, and they had a great time meeting up at the park with other DSD and some of their friends - took some lovely photos too.

- persuaded myself that it was still worth eating round the table together despite it being reheated takeaway from Friday grin - remembered our 'favourite thing from today' ritual and DSD joined in too.

Feelingscrewedup Sun 29-Sep-13 14:20:35

Can I join?


My friend gave me a lovely coat.
I had cuddles with my favourite canine friend!
I bought some storage stuff which will hopefully help me sort out the sty in which I currently live.

spanky2 Sun 29-Sep-13 19:03:12

Had a migraine and was honest that I needed to sleep it off, rather than get up and carry on making myself feel worse .
Watching close encounters of the third kind with family and they have stopped bickering finally .
Only two it has been a difficult day.

Thanks millie
And hear hear to fishfingers

Bit better today

- Made family favourite lemon meringue pie for first time and it was yummy grin
- Allowed myself to have a lie in instrad of going to church
- had a fun ball game with dcs

- met up with friend and had a good chat.
- got the cleaning done
- nice day weather-wise

1)Another lovely day spent with DPs - both were really helpful with a couple of jobs am stuggling with due to broken foot.
2) Finally got round to contacting some cleaning companies to get some on-going help for the next few weeks
3) Lovely, wonderful, fabulous to see DH and DCs after their weekend away.

No hot water this morning, so no shower....and I didn't freak out! Big improvement well done me <pats self on the back>
Got back from the school run and decided as I was tired I would lie down for a bit - and slept for 2 hours. <another pat on the back - listen to your body as well as your list of chores>
Enjoyed making plans for a trip out with DD at the weekend. She and I are struggling at the moment so need a love-bomb-esque trip together to reconnect.

fuzzpig Mon 30-Sep-13 21:13:23

Aaaargh feel like shit today as a cold/sore throat has thoroughly set in sad just waiting for the inevitable chest infection now and I'm grumpy because of it!

Yesterday is tricky as I just mooched at home feeling sorry for myself:

- had a nice lie in after which I did feel a lot better

- DSD loved the idea of coming to a work event with me so I'm really looking forward to some bonding time (hopefully her twin sister will want to come too but haven't asked yet)

- DH washed and ironed all my work clothes as well as school uniform, and the laundry pile is significantly smaller grin

fuzzpig Mon 30-Sep-13 21:24:53

Today - actually much easier despite feeling so rough:

- had a great chat with my boss and my line manager, including my 6 monthly review. Got great praise for my achievement diary too and generally feel much more positive considering I was quite nervous about it when I woke up!

- got some internetty errands done with DH this morning.

- managed to shower and prepare a meal for myself before work.

Feelingscrewedup Mon 30-Sep-13 21:33:33

1. The moor was so peaceful today and the spider webs were beautiful.
2. I foraged a load of free food from hedgerows.
3. I got three free clothes hangers.

fuzzpig Mon 30-Sep-13 22:02:26

What food did you get, feeling?

I just wanted to post about another bit of homework I've got from my psychologist. Might be relevant to some of you if you're interested.

I have a lot of anxiety - but have only recently come to understand that anxiety is actually the main problem rather than depression if that makes sense. It stops me doing a lot and basically rules my life so my homework is that for a few days I need to write down every worry I have. That in itself is a scary prospect as I have so many and they go so quickly that I sometimes can't even understand them.

Anyway, what I have to do afterwards is write down what actually happened. So if the worry is unfounded, I write down why it was wrong. Or if the thing I was worried about did happen, I write down what I did and how I coped.

For example today I arrived at work and found that on the timetable I was scheduled to meet my manager. I immediately decided I must have done something wrong, but actually it was just a catch up chat and was a really useful time, so my worry was unfounded.

Much like the positives diary this is meant to help me build up a bank of evidence against my anxiety so that gradually I become able to combat the worries as they occur.

Orangeclouds Mon 30-Sep-13 22:43:55

That's a good idea about the worries.

I am sure my friend is disappointed in me because I said no to something we were going to do together - but I know because he has said that he's actually disappointed in himself for not doing something about it sooner.

BeaWheesht Mon 30-Sep-13 23:03:03

I need to do that with my worries fuzzpig, I worry all the time and I hate it, it is destroying me sad

My 3 for yesterday....
Ds did his homework nicely
I ordered myself something from the Internet
It was a lovely sunny day

Errrrrr struggling.
Ds has been really lovely today instead of being stroppy and angry like he has been a lot lately (he's 6 acts 16)
Got contacted by a photographer to see if I'd like a bargain photo shoot with dc
Last week before holidays

BeaWheesht Mon 30-Sep-13 23:06:13

Maybe tmi but does anyone find their anxiety is worse before their period? Mine goes through the roof. This last week I've really struggled and have cancelled seeing friends because I 'can't face it' and that isn't like me, usually I force myself and enjoy it once I'm there iyswim?

Argh this is all so frustrating I wish I could make Dh understand e just says 'relax' and my mum just tells me I need to grow up and show the dc a happy go lucky mummy. sad if only it were that easy, I swear the day I had dd, who is my gorgeous little light of my life, something switched in me and I'm just not the same person. I don't know how to pull myself together sad

Sorry to put a downer on things.

ZingWantsCake Mon 30-Sep-13 23:18:57


interesting thought, you might be onto something!
I get anxious/panicky quite infrequently and randomly (and I think it's mild compared to others) but lately I noticed that I get unreasonably on edge for a couple of days - then bamm, AF arrives.

ZingWantsCake Mon 30-Sep-13 23:26:53


something switched because you became a mother! worrying is part of what we do as parents - it is normal and narural.

I haven't read your other posts, just the most recent one - if you are struggling and haven't been to may I suggest counselling?

it was an enormous help for me. in fact I figured out that I had a big problem with poor time-management, which caused a lot of troubles.
I was amazed at that revelation, it was most unexpected.

I'd like to help you so if you want to talk pm me anytime

ZingWantsCake Mon 30-Sep-13 23:27:25

natural even wink

BeaWheesht Tue 01-Oct-13 06:21:46

Thanks zing. I was already a mum before I had dd though, she isn't my oldest, I just had a crappy birth and post birth experience and it seems to have really done something to me. I've had counselling but had to stop because I've nobody to watch the kids. Thanks for advice, I appreciate it.

fuzzpig Tue 01-Oct-13 08:11:50

Hugs Bea, that sounds very stressful and I empathise.

Most people are aware of PND, but post natal anxiety as a separate issue is not nearly so well known, even though it can be so severe that postnatal OCD is diagnosed.

I have a preliminary diagnosis of OCD by the way - still waiting to see someone locally (the psychologist I currently work with is at St Bart's and I see her for the CFS/ME rather than MH issues)

Hi all

- met a friend for lunch and had a good chat
- got some walking in
- booked haircut

Feelingscrewedup Tue 01-Oct-13 20:51:53

Fuzzpig - berries and wild apples, smile


1. Been struggling with eating for a while but have managed to increase calories today and not feel too awful about it.
2. Made some successful work related phone calls.
3. Sorted my clothes into colour order - it was very therapeutic!

I got through today without crying
I changed my phone wallpaper to a pic of me and my granddad - this makes me happy, as I remember the good times I had with him
It's the first meeting/rehearsal for our ice rink's Christmas show tomorrow

fuzzpig Tue 01-Oct-13 21:45:08

Hugs lollipop - you are dealing with this very well, go easy on yourself.

Mine for today:

- Heard DS, who has a speech disorder, 'reading' (ie reciting what he could remember) The Gruffalo to himself in bed. Absolutely, completely heart melting pride. DD chuffed too, and that makes me even more proud of my DCs that she loves her little brother so much.

- MN tester product (Cadbury pebbles) arrived and DH picked up a cake for me so we could decorate it for the feedback thread. Quite pleased with my attempt at a fish.

- inhaler seems to be having an effect as my chest hasn't felt so bad as it did when I woke up.

MajesticWhine Tue 01-Oct-13 22:32:32

Mine for today.

A couple of appointments at work went well.
I was completely exhausted when I got in tonight but still managed to ask DH about his day and also walk the dog.
Have started mindfulness course and very hopeful for what this can do for me.

BeaWheesht Tue 01-Oct-13 22:45:17

Mine today:

Ate healthier
House downstairs is presentable
Dd went really fast on her scooter for the first time today and afterwards said 'but my mummy it was going very fast for my little legs!' smile

spanky2 Wed 02-Oct-13 09:34:42

Was able to listen to dh talking about his stress.
Helped a boy understand what the numbers in times tables mean .
Both dcs did their homework without making a fuss.

Feelingscrewedup Wed 02-Oct-13 19:54:31

1. Again managed to eat a reasonable amount.
2. Watched Notting Hill smile
3. Did the washing up and hoovered which was an achievement for me!

hello all

- Had fun at a salvage yard with my dad and got a lovely butlers sink
- Made a tasty autumnal dinner
- DD happier going into school today

ZingWantsCake Wed 02-Oct-13 21:50:36

- did my excersice, and I did it better than yesterday

- kids are asleep so it's quiet now

- my DrMartens x2 arrived. not sure which pair I'll keep, red or black but I can keep both if I want as I've got more leftover money than I thought!

MajesticWhine Wed 02-Oct-13 22:35:19

Mine for today

I got some of my mountain of paperwork done
I had lots of exercise cycling to work
Ordered my baby niece's birthday present

musicposy Thu 03-Oct-13 00:18:23

I think it would be so good to do this, thank you!

Had a really good day teaching (teach piano) and lots of my exam entry pupils are coming on really well.

After a difficult day with DD2 (14) she gave me a really big hug this evening and seems to be trying really hard.

Managed to be persuaded to eat a bit of lunch even though I didn't want to, later ate a piece of birthday cake and a McDonalds meal. Struggling with eating right now but this was a good day smile

NoComet Thu 03-Oct-13 00:28:04

At long last I can post three things.
Clothes to charity shop - tick
Two hotels booked for different errands
And a boring form for school done
And DH has got 5/6 bulbs working in here smile

Pretty, but temperamental light fitting a constant source of irritation.

NoComet Thu 03-Oct-13 01:12:42

Clothes have been cluttering up our room for months.

Still more to do, still have primary uniform and DD2 is in Y8 blush

Feelingscrewedup Thu 03-Oct-13 16:16:53

1. Bought some Christmas presents (I always start early!).
2. Got some work done.
3. Have managed to eat okayish.

fuzzpig Thu 03-Oct-13 16:50:57

Ok I had a shit day yesterday, really really sad. But here goes.

- watched a film with DH. We have similar taste for comedies etc so we lounge in front of DVDs a lot, but our taste in movies is very different so it's rare for us to try something together (Side Effects - odd but quite good)

- managed a transvaginal scan without freaking out. Told the nurse I was nervous (I had to get diazepam for my smear test!) and she stayed with me instead of disappearing behind the curtain.

- finally got an answer as to whether I was pregnant. I had quietly and stupidly convinced myself I was. But obviously the scan (which wasn't related to pregnancy at all) showed otherwise. I am gutted even though it should be a relief and I went home and cried. BUT we have talked it through and a DC3 is not ruled out (just not right now!). And the fact that at least I know now is good, I can move on.

fuzzpig Thu 03-Oct-13 17:00:36


- in agony this morning and can't really put weight on my leg so my lovely dad drove up and picked the DCs up from school for me (DH normally does it but is working).

- found some lovely soundtrack music on iTunes that I'd not previously managed to find (prompted by watching another French film with my dad - Untouchable, it's lovely)

- DS has sung me lots of jolly phonics songs - I'm so proud of him and relieved because I'd been so worried due to his speech. And I forgot to include the other day, he actually wrote some letters really nicely - considering he would barely even scribble a couple of months back, this is huge! smile

Been a bit absent since Monday but they were still good days.

-Can get around a lot better on my new cast so life is easier
-The electrician fixed the thermostat so the heating now works at last
- Great British Bake Off night -what could be more brilliant

-Found a cleaning company to cllean whilst I cannot
-Decided with DH that we would continue to use cleaners even after broken foot mended (hurrah)
-Enjoyed an evening in without DH - so watched rubbish telly and drank wine

-DH was lovely to me this morning (he is normally lovely too - but a lovely present helps grin )
-Lovely morning spent with friends
-Introduced my DC to the delights if Blue Peter - and had many happy memories flood back of watching it my DSis as a child.

tough day

- got showered and washed hair
- helped dd with her homework without getting cross
- I think that's it today!

MajesticWhine Thu 03-Oct-13 22:40:43

sorry fuzzpig and ColouringInqueen that you've had a tough time. But you still found some positives which is great.
me today:
- Have booked to go on a conference which should help with my research
- Finally got started with a piece of work I have been avoiding.
- Had nice chat with DD1, trying to support her she's having a hard time at school

spanky2 Fri 04-Oct-13 08:19:56

After having to talk to someone who reminded me of my 'd'm I was able to calm my anxieties and negative feelings myself .
Got dcs to music lessons in plenty of time .
Encouraged dh to get both self help books .
We are both on antideppressants after a very difficult time with my parents sad .

iMe Fri 04-Oct-13 14:18:19

This thread is a great idea, may I please join?
1. Made cake for someone and it got lots of compliments. (Thanks to MN for the recipe)
2. DD managing better with homework that she really struggled with last week.
3. Motivated myself to bring DCs on a library trip which they loved.

iMe Fri 04-Oct-13 14:23:27

1. Spoiled myself with smoked salmon for yummy lunch.
2. DH got complimented for his work in his new job.
3. Friend picked DD up from school and offered to let her stay for a while to play so I can nurse my headache

MajesticWhine Fri 04-Oct-13 20:47:58

Hi iMe - which cake receipe was it?grin

iMe Fri 04-Oct-13 21:03:59

majestic, it's the one where you weigh the eggs & use same weight of sugar, butter and self raising flour. I also add a splash of milk & tsp vanilla.

iMe Sat 05-Oct-13 20:06:59

1. The sun shone all day here.
2. Bumped into a friend in town who said she'd plan a get-together soon.
3. Butcher gave us two free steaks!
4. DH helped me lots with housework & cooking

(Where is everyone? Hope I haven't scared you all away!)

kotinka Sat 05-Oct-13 20:09:55

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

fuzzpig Sat 05-Oct-13 22:15:35


- hip/leg felt fine when I woke up so seems to have been a temporary blip!

- finally got round to writing about a treatment session in my journal. Still got the latest session to write about but at least the penultimate one is done now.

- got a cab home from school. This isn't something I really want to do but due to chest infection I decided to face it. Thinking of trying to arrange it as a regular thing

fuzzpig Sat 05-Oct-13 22:24:24


- let the DCs do painting in the morning rather than avoiding it, also did an experimental print of the stamp I'd made in the art class last month - looks nice!

- nandos takeaway for dinner. Ate the halloumi on the way home. grin

- dad told me he is giving us £5k out of some money he's inherited. A significant amount to us, it'll roughly triple our savings. <falls over>

musicposy Sat 05-Oct-13 23:51:40

Wow 5k! It's great reading all these smile

Good day today.

-had a lovely day out with my sister shopping
-ate a really big meal at lunch time and it was lovely and even managed to have a snack at tea time
-picked DD2 up from her ballet rehearsal and she was really chatty and happy and we had a nice evening. She's 14 and things can be a bit turbulent between us but good today smile

iMe Do not fret - you have not scared us away grin

1) Had a really lazy morning-relaxed and read my book. (This is a real achievement for me, my depression/anxiety manifests itself as frantic activity, getting things done. So sitting down has been a struggle for years IYSWIM)
2) Did not freak out at the prospect of MIL (who is utterly lovely and wouldn't judge) popping in at short notice (as above - used to frantically clean/tidy before any guest and before a 20 minute "warning" would have sent me into a frenzy of anxious tidying. Instead I sat and finished the chapter, checked MN and then got cups out for tea.
3) Ordered 2 more books from Amazon - maybe after 7 years my reading mojo is coming back grin

And again flowers to fuzz This thread is brilliant.

Feelingscrewedup Sun 06-Oct-13 19:32:59

1. Managed to not panic in crowded train station.

2. Didn't purge despite v. Strong urge to confused

3. Rediscovered a song I loved but haven't heard in ages smile

iMe Sun 06-Oct-13 21:23:44

1. Had a nap this afternoon.
2. Relieved not to have scared everyone away from this thread.
3. DCs well behaved all day.

1) Got the walnut and eating apples "harvested" from the garden
2) DH mowed the lawn and I love the look of the garden post-mow
3)Had 2 hours of snuggles with DS (5) whilst watching a film this afternoon

BeaWheesht Sun 06-Oct-13 22:53:37

Havent been on here a while and away on holiday after today so good luck everyone....!

Mine for today:

1/ dd bought ds a present for no reason with her own birthday money
2/didnt have to go anywhere or do anything today
3/go on holiday tomorrow

iMe Mon 07-Oct-13 22:05:17

1. Survived the day looking after sick DC at home while feeling under the weather myself without exploding.
2. Tried a new recipe for dinner and I think everyone enjoyed it.
3. My four day monster of a headache is starting to ease.

Bea, Enjoy your holidaysmile

1. cleaned house, changed beds, got 2 loads washing in!!!
2. started looking at holidays for next year
3. nice bedtime with dcs

JohFlow Tue 08-Oct-13 15:16:07

Looking forward to my birthday tomorrow

Bought a cheap coffee that tastes like Douwe

Happy that my house is tidy and clean after yesterday's spree

fuzzpig Tue 08-Oct-13 22:10:46

Oops I have 3 days to catch up on!


- had some time to myself while DH took the DCs out for a walk in the woods

- chest infection clearing much faster than usual

- really restful lazy day


- had a great time at work, really laid back even though we all worked hard, great team building as we were all working to a shared goal rather than doing our own thing

- DS was over the moon that his school book bag finally arrived and enjoyed filling it with DH's wallet

- spent most of the evening playing with magnetic letters, DS was pointing out lots of letters and DD did some number work


- been watching scrubs, it's so funny smile

- DS' teacher told me he'd had a brilliant day, he was also wearing a sticker because he tidied up nicely

- collected DD from friend's house and had a nice chat with parent (something I really struggle with)

1. got invited out for coffee by lovely mum I haven't done that with before
2. did my meditation practice
3. bought camping gear for proposed trip in a fortnight!

shockers Tue 08-Oct-13 22:33:37

Hello, do you mind if I join you? I've been struggling a bit recently and reading all your positives feels... positive!

After an horrible night (very heavy period, clammy and sleepless), I didn't want to go to work, but I did and this morning was good. I adopted the role of relentlessly upbeat and it worked, despite the stomach pain.

This afternoon was really good. We took a few from the class to film their own nature documentary in a local beauty spot. The children were fantastic (and we all had ice lollies smile).

DD had an awful day at school (her escort witnessed some of it when she picked her up and was still shaky when they arrived home). I'm sad, cross and embarrassed by her behaviour, but I managed to stay very calm and convey my disappointment in the way she'd acted to her in a constructive way. I'm proud of myself because she was goading me to react by sneering and throwing stuff around... I didn't react and later she cried, which is flipping great for a girl who struggles with empathy and consequence.

So, from the bones of a potentially bad day, sprang a good one smile.

iMe Tue 08-Oct-13 23:02:47

A friend phoned this morning and came for lunch.

Made several phone calls I'd been putting off and got things sorted & cogs in motion & matters finalised & weights lifted off my shoulders.

Met somebody and passed a comment that i think got me one step onto the ladder of possibly potentially maybe perhaps one day going back to work. Eek!

musicposy Wed 09-Oct-13 00:30:32

-had a lovely morning working with DD2 (she's 14 - Year 10 - and home ed). She worked really hard and got a B on a practice Maths GCSE paper. Some questions she had just tried and tried until she got it right. It was all very smooth and happy.

-DD2 also gave me a huge hug tonight. Things are much better and calmer than last week.

-got my hair cut tonight and it looks really nice (given that I am quite an old bird grin)

1. went for a walk with my lovely friend and the sun shone
2. had a yummy cake from local bakers
3. got s few errands done this wine
4. dh opened some wine...

3. got a few errands done this pm blush

fuzzpig Thu 10-Oct-13 04:36:19

grin colouring what a great typo...

Am wide awake for some reason hmm so will do yesterday's now:

- another fun shift at work, we had music on while we moved stuff around so lots of singing along and laughing

- loads of snuggles with DCs in the afternoon

- remembered to take my medication at a reasonable time and fell asleep on the sofa before nine

fuzzpig Thu 10-Oct-13 04:36:52

And welcome to newbies! Love how busy the thread is smile

shockers Thu 10-Oct-13 16:05:15

Thanks Fuzzpig!

Had a great violin lesson.

Missed an appointment that I really needed to get to because I went to the wrong place, but had to drive past the services on the way back, so I nipped in and bought some mini macaroons from M&S.

Spent the afternoon nibbling mini macaroons grin.

shockers mmmmm macaroons.....any left?

Not sure when last updated but am not going to bring down my positivity by beating myself up for missing a couple of days. So todays.

1) DH has man-flu and it only irritated me once. A miracle - normally his huffing and puffing and "woe is me" body language makes me very, very stabby.
2) May have helped I went to the hairdresses to get my roots done so was not there tosee the "woe".
3) I have luffly shiny, swishy, blow-dried-straight hair. <shallow and tossing head in irritating manner emoticon>

not so easy today

1. did produce a good painting at college
2. got kids to school and me to college
3. good bolog for dinner

fuzzpig Thu 10-Oct-13 20:38:19

- I'm learning Spanish! There's a new free app called duolingo that I downloaded on a whim and it's really well structured with short quizzes. I am in no way ready to take on proper studying right now so it's nice to try something new with no pressure.

- DCs played so nicely after school doing lots of writing and lego and didn't even ask for their iPad time. Yesterday we broke our usual mon-thurs no telly after school rule as DSD was poorly and rested in front of TBBT, great as we all love it but DS and DD's behaviour was noticeably worse all afternoon. So while we will remain flexibility in case of illness etc we are more resolute in our quest for simplicity as we can see the difference it's making. smile

- tax rebate grin only a little one, but a few things are actually going well financially now after years of struggling - we are still very low earners but we reckon in the new year we can step up our efforts to save more than we'd previously thought smile

fuzzpig Thu 10-Oct-13 20:45:21

Forgot to say happy birthday for yesterday joh! Hope your day was lovely and full of positives smile (don't worry you don't have to write them all grin)

iMe Thu 10-Oct-13 21:12:52

started anti biotics so should start feeling better soon.

DD much better and able to go back to school.

cooked nice dinner and baked a cake.

shockers Thu 10-Oct-13 22:06:03

fishfingers, there were 12, now there are 3.

DS ate 1.

They were mini... very small indeed.

And really, really nice... my favourites were the vanilla ones grin.

musicposy Fri 11-Oct-13 17:05:59

I'll do yesterday's while we are on here.

-went in the evening to see an amateur dramatic production of Death of a Salesman which DD2 is doing for her Eng Lit IGCSE in a few week's time. It was brilliant and we had a lovely evening. Haven't been to live theatre in ages. It was cheap, too!

-met up with some friends in the morning and had a lovely chat.

-had a singing lesson which went well (I'm doing an Grade 6 in a few weeks -eeek!) but am getting on top of some quite tricky songs at last.

All in all good. OP I have duolingo too and am trying to learn French when I have the odd moment. I don't have a good language brain (was unbelievably rubbish at school) but am enjoying it!

musicposy Fri 11-Oct-13 17:06:55

Oops, while I am on here. I'm not posh enough for the Royal We blush

kotinka Fri 11-Oct-13 18:32:30

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

spanky2 Fri 11-Oct-13 19:29:53

I haven't wanted to think too hard the last few days .
Carried on and slept when I needed to as I have a migraine .
Didn't make myself eat too much to look normal to my family .

fuzzpig Fri 11-Oct-13 20:08:01

Musicposy glad to see someone else is enjoying the app too. I love it, did more today. I loved and did well at French at school but haven't done any language stuff since GCSE, and I'm enjoying using my brain in that way again. Hopefully if the app does well they'll add some more languages as I'd love to try some more.

My occupational therapist suggested doing some distance learning as part of my recovery, but I don't feel ready. I am an OU dropout as my degree went to hell when I got ME. I have, technically, half an open degree (mostly maths) and I do want to progress further one day, but I'll not be able to use the OU again (restricted status) so I'm trying to put it to the back of my mind and only do non-pressured learning for now - especially as I won't get any more funding and it will cost a lot more.

Anyway. Today's feel a bit easier, I've had quite a blah sort of day but feel surprisingly ok:

- had an awesome lie in. DH took the DCs to breakfast club before heading on to training so they must have left around 7.45... I vaguely recall seeing DD through bleary eyes at some point, but only properly woke up shortly after 9 shock felt really refreshed.

- DS was on the 'happy face' again at school - that's every day this week! Hopefully the teething problems at the start of term (lashing out/tantrums, so was on the 'sad face' a lot) have eased off now as he's realising it's much better to play nicely smile

- thought Fuck it and said yes to DD's request for a takeaway, enjoyed it and was assertive and chased them up when they left something out. They brought it eventually so now I have tiny chocolate coated ice cream bites for later grin

Have had a rubbish few weeks, but today:

1. Showed my mum and gran the poem I wrote about granddad. The reverend is going to read it for me at his funeral.
2. Had a frank talk with my bosses (was going to hand in my notice, but they've said to take a week's holiday and see how I feel). I didn't cry and got all my points across.
3. Yesterday, I saw my friend and her 2 year old DS for the first time in a couple of months, and kept making her DS laugh by tickling him, which made me smile because he has a very cute laugh smile

MajesticWhine Fri 11-Oct-13 22:09:28

Some positives for today:
- Had a nice day seeing friends and spending time with DD3.
- Got some exercise
- I met 3 new people who I really liked.

iMe Fri 11-Oct-13 23:01:45

1. Had a lovely autumn walk in the forest.
2. Got some peace in the kitchen to do some cooking and baking, all of which went down well.
3. Visited an elderly acquaintance in a nursing home, which hopefully did something to brighten their long lonely day.

spanky2 Sat 12-Oct-13 19:31:00

I got myself some anti nausea medicine. I wish I'd known about it before.
I sat about all afternoon because I feel rubbish. Usually I would have tried to carry on like normal.
My dsx2 came for a cuddle with me.

fuzzpig Sat 12-Oct-13 22:29:29

- had fun at work exploring the new layout and learning about the changes to our work procedures.

- narrowly escaped an embarrassing situation tomorrow - we are going to the MN movie screening and I got all confused thinking it was in the wrong place! But thanks to MNers' speedy responses I now know what I'm doing and am no longer panicking/risking 4 3 very disappointed girls tomorrow. AND I'm managing to laugh at myself rather than being devastated at my ineptitude smile now THAT is progress! smile

- about to go to bed properly, at a decent time. smile

iMe Sun 13-Oct-13 19:38:35

1. Lovely brunch out with family.
2. Cliff path walk.
3. Had so much to do when we got home again but I managed to do it all without getting stressed or shouty and didn't even have a headache afterwards!

hi all,

1. very proud of dd this morning
2. cooked good roast pork
3. getting sorted on DDs birthday plans

iMe Sun 13-Oct-13 20:55:01

A lovely day here:
1. DS birthday and he is just so cute and adorable. blush
2. He got lots of lovely presents from friends and family. He has no shortage of clothes now. Everyone was just so kind and generous.
3. Cooked a delicious roast dinner for family. Dessert was yum despite having to make adjustments to the recipe to suit dietary requirements. Birthday cake I made myself was highly praised by guests at the party.
4. Got through the busy day without getting stressed. Still no headache and managed not to get angry at certain people whose behaviour I find very annoying.

Hello All

1) Lovely visit with SIL in the morning
2) Lovely meal out and party with different SIL in the evening
3) A fab end to the night with DH (will not share TMI here wink

1) Gave into the hangover and mooched all day (normally try and carry on)
2) Had enough energy to make a lush macaroni cheese for us all for lunch - was a proper madewithlove nosh. A big cuddle for us all which was greeted with much enthusiasm - always good,
3)Had/having a lazy evening with trash television and MN as DH gone to bed early to recover.

spanky2 Mon 14-Oct-13 19:03:48

Got myself some stronger anti nausea medication from the doctors.
Didn't lose my rag with ds2 who was massively attention seeking.
Listened to my dh rather than think "I'm ill look at me!" There was abit of that but I was less seething after!
Ooh cliff top walk sounds nice.

1. Got the house cleaned and burned a few calories at the same time!
2. Bought myself a gilet
3. Watched the end of a film I recorded yesterday

iMe Mon 14-Oct-13 22:26:33

A not so good day todaysad . BUT:
1. There is money in the a/c to pay the bills.
2. had some me time in the bath.
3. the sun shone.

Speaking of gilets, I wore mine today for the first time in years. It must be about 10 years old and I am proud it still fits after 2 DC smile Enjoy yours, colouring.

This thread is really helping. Today was one of those days that I know I would have just sat down and cried because I would have focused on the negatives rather than looking for the positives. So thank you, fuzzpig. thanks

musicposy Mon 14-Oct-13 22:41:24


1.Watched DD2 who has a part in Swan Lake with English Youth Ballet. She's a swan so one of many but it was still amazing. In tears at the end (in a good way!)
2. Had a lovely chat to some of the other mums and dads whilst I was there waiting.
3. Ate a cake and then DD1 brought a doughnut home for me. I didn't want to eat the doughnut but gave in to please DD1, which is a good thing.

Today -

1.Picked DD1 up for lunch from college and had a nice coffee
2.Teaching in school went much better than I expected
3. Had a long hug with DH

Like iMe I would probably have been focusing on the negatives today so this thread is very helpful smile

iMe Tue 15-Oct-13 19:51:56

Another bad day here so trying hard to focus on positives.
1. Better from last week's infection but I feel like I'm coming down with something else now.
2. Another bright Autumn day here and the children played nicely together outside for a good part of the afternoon.
3. I lit the stove good and early so the house is toasty warm now.

fuzzpig Tue 15-Oct-13 20:33:12

It's so lovely to read all the positives and that it's helping people! I'm finding it becomes more automatic as I get more practise at finding the positives. Although I've been a bit lazy writing them blush


- great time at the MN screening of Cloudy 2 film - really funny, we all laughed loads

- Talked to one other mum there and felt proud I'd managed to, as opposed to the last time when instead I just felt annoyed at myself for not speaking to more people! See, the positive thinking is really taking effect!

- had a nice dinner at Westfield (was supposed to be lunch but had to wait ages!) which was a big treat for DSDs as they don't get to eat out much


- really nice time at work, it was our first day open after the refurbishment and it was lovely showing customers the changes and all mucking in together as we tried to muddle through any tricky bits.

- got a nasty comment from a regular, I was/am upset but didn't go to pieces and talked it through with a friend at the time. I know he's generally bitchy though so I'm just reminding myself that it says much more about him than it does me that he felt it appropriate. It was a comment on the fact I use a chair for things where everyone else stands - how dense do you have to be to not think maybe there's a reason for it hmm

- read more of my book (keep being lazy and not reading lately)

That's great fuzzpig grin

1. had some picture ideas grin sketched them out and still think they're ok
2. had nice chat and lunch with friend
3. had nice session with dd looking at some winter clothes

1) Managed a trip round Sainsburys and was nice to get some bits and browse
2)Found a top to go with a skirt that I have had for ages and struggled with what to put with it
3)Made some yummy cheese and egg muffins with the DCs

1) I went to the gym for the first time in weeks (due to broken foot). Managed a bit of a work out - though plastercast a tad restrictive grin
2) Wore new top with skirt and felt fab
3) Only 10 days til the plaster cast comes off (healing dependant).

musicposy Wed 16-Oct-13 00:29:11

Really bad day today - a very elderly man just drove straight into the back of us at a roundabout as if we weren't even there. However I think this thread is really helping me cope with stuff smile

1. After we were let out of A & E, DD1, DD2 and I went to Costa to cheer ourselves up. We had a toffee nut caramella coffee and an egg and mushroom muffin each and it was YUMMY

2. DD2 came and sat on my lap and gave me a hug and said she didn't care she was 14 and in public. I think she was still feeling very shaky but I just thought it was lovely and made us both feel better.

3. DD1 bought me a cherry cake as we were leaving Costa out of her own money and bought one for her sister too which I was really touched by. They were so supportive to each other today smile

I feel better already writing that. fuzzpig we're all quite keen to see Cloudy 2 so good to hear you enjoyed it!

iMe Wed 16-Oct-13 19:29:07

musicposy sorry to hear about yesterday, that sounded scary. Hope today has been much bettersmile .

1. Had a bit of an anti-procrastination day so got lots achieved eg. dentist appointments booked (overdue a checkup for over a year now) etc.
2. Started counting a BIG bottle of coppers, bagging them up for the bank, not finished yet, but so far have £23!
3. Nice phone call chat with a friend.


1. dad over today smile
2. decided about gilet and bought it smile
3. bedroom wallpaper is up and it looks v grown-up!

me again!

1. did an ok painting at college
2. nearly organised for a mammoth weekend
3. had a good chat with other painters

iMe Thu 17-Oct-13 22:46:02

1 Bright sunny day again so kids played nicely together outside for most of the afternoon.
2 Got house cleaned
3 Didn't get roped into doing something I didn't want to get involved with, phew!

fuzzpig Fri 18-Oct-13 22:16:29

The days are flying by this week!


- got round the school run problem by getting the bus into town with the DCs to meet DH and get gloves for school

- restful afternoon to myself watching scrubs!

- DD wanted to do some English work for fun - really glad she's started to enjoy stuff like that


- nice chat with friend at work

- went back to art club and had fun

- survived the shift despite feeling like crap


- made an awesome soup for lunch

- played some piano which the DCs enjoyed

- DCs didn't even ask for their iPad time so a screen free afternoon for them


- DD had a great time on her school trip and is full of enthusiasm for the current topic

- didn't go to pieces when I made a minor mistake at work - just feel better prepared for the future

- led a baby rhyme session at work, first time for ages but went well smile

fuzzpig Fri 18-Oct-13 22:22:08

And just caught up with recent posts OMG musicposy that sounds horrible - glad you coped so well and hope you are feeling ok. Your DDs' supportive behaviour is a real credit to you smile

Feelingscrewedup Sat 19-Oct-13 12:06:17

Made some herbal tinctures.

Got my children to tidy their rooms.

Feeling organised with work.

Toasting marshmallows on fire pit at lovely brothers

Successfully looked after twin nephews for 24 hrs

Enjoyed some autumn sunshine

iMe Sun 20-Oct-13 07:57:18

Had a nice time baking with DN.
First time making macaroons and they were a success.
Had a lovely bath and pampering session.

fuzzpig Sun 20-Oct-13 08:25:45

<bleary eyed>


- started a thread which got lots of replies (illegal food combinations grin)

- DD did some lovely cutting out to make a collage, I was surprised how neat it was as normally she is quite slapdash, and she was showing off her knowledge of the Titanic. smile

- DCs tidied up their train track really well after me asking once

1 helped make a good roast
2 managed to nap in the car
3 had nice cuddle with dd

iMe Sun 20-Oct-13 22:00:21

got a chance to lie in this morning while DH got up to look after DCs,

dh brought me breakfast in bedgrin

spent a lovely afternoon with friends.

PalmersHappiness Mon 21-Oct-13 14:21:19

What a great thread!!

I am currently in a very depressive state, I've suffered with depression at varying levels for at least 7 years. I have just been referred for CBT, which I'm pleased about because I can't go on in the spiral of negativity.

Anyway I having been lurking around this mental health forum recently and spotted this thread and thought it will help me a great deal.

Here's yesterdays;

- Had a lie in, DH got up with youngest DC, I could hear him laughing and giggling with them which was nice.

- Spent an hour watching motorcross on the beach DC and DH, even though it was raining it was strangely refreshing.

- Was asked to look after my friends DD for a hour on Tuesday morning, which means she doesn't think I'm useless.

I'll be back later with todays smile

Been several fab few days

Great morning with family
Great afternoon with friends
Was rather sloshed but stayed happy.

Spa day with friends. Lunch, massage, spending time with friends - home to lovely welcome from DH and DCs. Just a perfect day.

A good tidy up so house feels lovely
Sorted some banking stuff which has been preying on my mind - and was better than I thought
Fab reports at parents evening. DS needs to concentrate more and chat less - but he is only 5. They are both enjoying school so much I do not care too much about results just now. Happiness is what matters.


- got house cleaned super quick (being away for the weekend has its advantages)
- ordered curtain clips
- ate mostly healthily!

iMe Mon 21-Oct-13 22:22:18

Energy levels were higher than usual and I stayed motivated and got lots done today.
Enjoyed doing crafts with the DCs this afternoon.
DD was much better behaved and even wanted to cuddle me this afternoon, feels like our relationship is on the mend.

PalmersHappiness Tue 22-Oct-13 10:27:27

- Booked place at Zumba class for Wednesday
- Put name down to do voluntary conservation tasks at local nature reserve
- DS (nearly 5) refused to put pyjamas on, so I told him he wouldn't have a story if he didn't and left the room, a few minutes later he appeared at my bedroom door in his pyjamas. smile

iMe Tue 22-Oct-13 21:02:24

Got to the bottom of the ironing pile.
It didn't rain on me when I was in town.
Toddler slept so I was able to have a rest when feeling rough this afternoon.

fuzzpig Tue 22-Oct-13 22:16:54

Welcome Palmers smile conservation volunteering sounds great! Best of luck with the CBT too.


- went to town as a family and had a roast dinner out.

- DCs were a bit fidgety but I coped when we were out

- only had one DVD on during the day


- was brave and approached a lady representing a Wellbeing organisation funded by NHS, as my colleague persuaded me. Gave her my number to arrange a consultation and mentioned my MH difficulties as well as th CFS. Told colleague I was very grateful for her encouragement smile

- managed a load of decluttering in the morning

- box set of revenge arrived (did I order it first class so it arrived on the release date, um, yes I did grin) so watched the start of season 2!


- DH completed his training course two weeks early so he got back in time to pick up the DCs AND it makes the next couple of weeks so much easier

- DD had a lovely parents evening report and I got home easily thanks to the bus

- found a bit of music for an MNer, she was very pleased and I felt all proud grin

fuzzpig Wed 23-Oct-13 15:56:59

Oh my gosh I had to just nip on here and do today's despite the fact it's not even 4pm.

- managed a quick shower before work rather than crawling into my clothes at the last possible minute

- helped a customer really well and for the second time in a row remembered to write in my 'achievement diary' (something we all have to do for our performance reviews)

- my 4yo DS came home and WROTE HIS NAME. I am amazed - he's been writing individual letters since he started learning phonics at school, but we had no idea he could do his name - due to his speech delay he can't even say his name. I am ridiculously proud! grin

iMe Wed 23-Oct-13 16:42:00

Got manky sofa cleaned at last.
Parent teacher meeting went wellgrin
Did craft with DD and her friends after school and they loved it and were well behaved.


1. nice evening out with some mums from school
2. did a decent painting at college
3. didn't panic when childcare plans didn't pan out

iMe Fri 25-Oct-13 12:43:29

Met friend for coffee and chat.
No headache.
Playdate in the afternoon.

Feeling a bit glum today as need to keep my broken limb in a plaster cast for another three weeks. sad

So trying to think of some positives.

Lovely cuddles from DCs and DH when I got a bit teary about the cast
Appointed Parent Governor at school
Ummm...I have clean sheets to go to bed in tonight. Love clean sheets.

Beautiful sunshine this afternoon.
Got errands and admin done this morning
Felt a bit better than last few days.

iMe Sat 26-Oct-13 22:56:57

I've also been struggling to find positives the last few days.
1.There was a spell of sunshine this evening after all the heavy rain, meaning DCs could get outside to play a short while and burn some energy and reduce the cabin fever and claustrophobic feeling in the house.
2. DH cooked a yummy steak for dinner.
3. Had a nice pampering session in the bath after DCs went to sleep.

PalmersHappiness Sun 27-Oct-13 17:59:54

Struggling too at the moment sad

- arranged for DD friend to come and play tomorrow
- traded in some books through Amazon
- planing an early night.

shockers Sun 27-Oct-13 19:59:09

I've had a bit of a blip over the last week or so, but today the mists have cleared.

Went to rugby for DS's first game with a club (he usually only plays for school). It was a fantastic game, he played really well and I was really proud listening to comments about his ability and sportsmanship. It didn't rain, the sun shone and I met some lovely people smile.

I made the paprika chicken from the Hairy Bikers diet book for dinner and it was lovely.

I've lit the kitchen fire and the dog is snoring next to me, it's really relaxing... especially as I know I have tomorrow (and the next week) off.

1234512345 Mon 28-Oct-13 15:53:29

1. Came on mumsnet for some help so I do not feel so alone.
2. Deciding to be a better mum than my own, I promised myself to always do everything I can to help my DC through any difficult times.
3. Realizing the most important thing I can do is to manage my depression for me DCs sake.

iMe Mon 28-Oct-13 19:36:30

Welcome 1234512345! Some good decisions you've made, you're sounding strong.

1 had a babysitter this morning and met my best friend out for coffee and lunchsmile
2 got my eyes tested, discovered I need glasses which i've never needed before, so hoping this will cure my headaches.
3 chatted another friend on the phone.

iMe Mon 28-Oct-13 21:55:55

PS. No DC with me to steal the free flake chocolate that came with my lattegrin

1234512345 Tue 29-Oct-13 22:36:20

Thanks for the welcome ime

Todays achievments:

1. Had a shower
2. Let DD1 get her paints out!
3. Walked to the supermarket and bought myself some new cosy pjs

Hi all

Back on the wagon despite feeling I'm slipping backwards...

Ds said he enjoyed his mummy and him time
Dd enjoyed her dancing
Cooked a tasty dinner

iMe Wed 30-Oct-13 07:11:36

Yesterday was a very good daysmile :
1. Lovely day out.
2. Bought new scarf in the colours I had been looking for, it was love at first sight!!
3. Yummy m&s cheat's dinner.

iMe Wed 30-Oct-13 21:32:16

1. Got all my to do list done in record time this morn.
2. Friend came to visit.
3. Loving wearing my new scarf.


1. did an hours yoga
2. dcs had a good time and gparents
3. got some of the books I read as a child.

me again wink

got a good chunk of gardening done
got on ok with dh at home
had a nice shower this eve with a glass of wine

fuzzpig Thu 31-Oct-13 19:32:04

Have been absent for a while... blush

Made lots of funky Halloween food with/for DCs including some that I came up with myself (body part soup and eyeball cakes : o)

Was brave and took some to neighbour kids with DD

DCs really excited about Halloween smile

fuzzpig Thu 31-Oct-13 19:36:13

Welcome 12345!

Colouring I neeeeeed to know, what are these childhood books you've got? I'm considering some Roald Dahl/Enid Blytons for DD this Xmas, and some picture books for DS that I loved.

iMe Fri 01-Nov-13 07:21:23

1. DH off work for the day.
2. Had help to get an errand done that had been needing to get done for a very long time.
3. DH cooked delicious dinner.

NotYoMomma Fri 01-Nov-13 11:18:43

can I join? hello!

I have anxiety issues that are currently going into overdrive as I am 40+4 pregnant, very worried re health and have a severe needle phobia/ fear of a loss of control which birth can often bring!

my 3 things today are:

1) dh is finishing work early
2) my friend is getting married tomorrow and I am giving myself a much needed makeover today
3) I have taken the day to relax and rest up while dd1 is at Nursery and I am not in pain smile

hi notyo congrats and good luck...

todays are
1. Got a bit more gardening done
2. had a couple of hours to myself at shops
3. new boots arrived and they're fab!

NotYoMomma Sat 02-Nov-13 04:12:57

1) I am spending some time with my little family of 3 today before we become a family of 4
2) I am not in pain today(I do realise it is only 4am)
3) my lovely friend is getting married today and I am going to the nightime party (if baby doesnt show up!)

fuzzpig Sat 02-Nov-13 09:21:16

Hi NYM smile

Mine for yesterday:
Got ranted at by a customer about recent changes we've made (ie not something I'd done), kept my cool and my supervisor said I handled it perfectly.
Finally chose items/got DSDs to choose items for a craft party we are going to (had been procrastinating)
Went to bed at a decent time

iMe Sat 02-Nov-13 22:42:12

1 DH got some diy jobs done that I didn't even have to suggest, never mind nag him about. It looks well too.
2. cooked a dish I haven't made for years in preparation for tomorrow and now I can't wait to eat itgrin
3 had some me time in the bath and pampered myself a little.

iMe Sun 03-Nov-13 20:55:53

1. I got a rest while DS slept.
2. Cooked dinner for friends, had a good chat too.
3. DCs well behaved (mostly).
4. My lovely DH made the packed lunches, a job I hate doing.

fuzzpig Sun 03-Nov-13 21:44:36

Didn't freak out and panic when DS blocked the toilet!
Put the shopping away myself
Watched another new anime movie, it was great

No telly on til about 1pm, DCs played really nicely with building blocks
Wrote down proper lists for Xmas presents/food etc
Was snappy with DH but apologised rather than staying grumpy

1. Baked a yummy chocolate cake
2. Tidied up lounge
3. Didn't get upset by my thread on S&B going a bit stroppy

NotYoMomma Sun 03-Nov-13 22:44:36

1) having a lovely bubble bath (right now with my water resistant phone) grin

2) DH and me having good banter all day

3) sucessfully telling my mother I st
hall be naming my own baby and to back off

NotYoMomma Sun 03-Nov-13 22:45:53

fuzzpig - what anime movie? I love anime, manga and all that. I go to all the UK conventions

fuzzpig Sun 03-Nov-13 22:55:53

Journey to Agartha. Quite sad in places though.

Relatively new to anime, mostly watching studio ghibli. DSD really loves naruto so getting a few manga/anime related Xmas pressies for her. grin