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Stopping meds

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GracieLoo Thu 13-Dec-12 18:16:12

It's just sort of happened, I was reducing them, then missed a couple as was getting different advice from psych, GP and care co ordinator. I haven't managed to get to GP but was told my prescription would be waiting for me at chemist to carry on at 75 ml.

I went to pick it up and was told it wasn't there. So I phoned GP and the receptionist said I could get an appt til after Xmas, but she'd do a week script for me to collect and made an appt for beg of January. She sounded arsey like usual and hung up abruptly.

So I agreed then afterwards realised this still left me without over Xmas . I'm scared to ring GP back and scared to ring care co ordinator as she'll think I've messed it up and I don't want to keep bothering her. Also I really don't want to be on them anyway so why go to all this hassle, plus a couple of people have commented I've lost weight, and I think it's due to lower dosage.

I don't know if the chemist, surgery and cc will communicate and realise I've not picked it up, or do I admit the truth and know they'll be cross with me. Feel I have no control over anything anymore.

GracieLoo Thu 13-Dec-12 21:39:22

I know no one cares but I can't relax this evening, too much going on in my head. I keep having thoughts of really not wanting to be here, I cry too much, can't cope with most things, wish I could die accidentally so it's easier for others.
I don't want to tell anyone as I haven't taken an od for a couple of months and I don't want them to think I'm going back there. I keep thinking about it though.

Persuasion Thu 13-Dec-12 21:45:30

I didn't want to read and not comment. It depends a bit what meds they are, and what they're for?

I would speak to your care co-ordinator tomorrow, even if you stop they can at least be aware of it and keep a closer eye on you? And I'm sure they could arrange a short prescription to cover the interim.

But if you're starting to think of overdose etc then maybe you have come off them too soon?

susanann Thu 13-Dec-12 21:55:49

Gracieloo You shouldnt be worrying about them telling you off. Its their job to help you. You are not "bothering them". Get in touch with your care co-ordinator tomorrow, as persuasion suggests. You obviously need help. Dont do anything silly will you? How about ringing the samaritians?

Smudging Thu 13-Dec-12 22:14:00

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

GracieLoo Thu 13-Dec-12 22:20:58

It's venlafaxine. I wish I could just take them and accept it, but it feels wrong taking them. I don't want to be fat but more stable on meds, or a messed up, crying failure either.

I keep crying tonight, and thinking I haven't got much opportunity in the next week to take loads of pills and I know I shouldn't anyway. I'm giving up texting this, it's too hard to make sense. I feel dead inside. My cc will be disappointed and I'm scared her reaction will make me feel worse.

Persuasion Thu 13-Dec-12 22:33:41

She definitely won't be disappointed. Especially if you find the strength to tell her what's going on. You can do this, because you came on here to talk about it.

You shouldn't take an overdose, which I think you know from the way you're talking about it. There will be a balance to be found between side effects and being well, and this doesn't mean you can't come off it eventually, but maybe things have just gone too fast this time.

Please find someone to talk to tonight. Samaritans is 08457 90 90 90. Or an out of hours GP or A&E.

GracieLoo Thu 13-Dec-12 22:40:53

I'm just lying in bed thinking why am I like this. I hate crying, and everything is making me cry, especially anything to do with my dd. I have been getting the meds, taking some then storing them in a box. Told cc last week I had meds put away, and she said it's my responsibility to keep safe, throw them away, or if I od I know what the risks are. I think she thinks I won't. She keeps drumming into me how it would affect dd, I know that but at the time I see that dd would grow up with 'normal' people who don't SH, cry, get irritable or don't want to live like this!

amillionyears Fri 14-Dec-12 11:23:22

Pick up your weeks script.
Take them as prescribed at the 75ml
Next week, is next week. I expect you can get a new script at the end of next week to last you over Xmas.

We care about you.

susanann Fri 14-Dec-12 12:26:52

Please get help. You can do this. Your dd needs you, even if you dont think youre "normal". If you od it will affect her badly. One step at a time. Do you have friends or family who can support you? please dont think you are "bothering" them. As a mum I would be devastated if my dd could not come to me for help cos she didnt want to "bother " me. Just think how your parents would feel if you od and didnt tell them that youre in a state. Please get help. You are a worthwhile person. You do not deserve this. keep in touch please x

GracieLoo Fri 14-Dec-12 12:33:33

I picked up the prescription and it was four weeks worth so don't know what the bloody receptionist was on about. Went to dd nativity and burst into tears as soon as I walked in, not because I'm emotional about seeing dd, just because everything feels so pointless.

Now I'm due to go to a family kids party, so irritable, can't be arsed, getting a headache due to holding the tears in. On waiting list for group therapy but don't see how anythings going to help.

peachypips Fri 14-Dec-12 12:37:10

The reason you are feeling so low and bad is because you have stopped ur meds too quickly and you are experiencing the anxiety and depression side of discontinuation syndrome (withdrawal). Venlafaxine has a v short half life and is notorious for this kind of thing, although it is bloody brilliant for depression! Get ye to the docs ASAP and get your meds, enjoy Christmas and think again in the spring when the weather is better. I know it's hard with the weight gain, but it's not going to be forever.
We genuinely care about you even though we don't know you because we have been there- please get ur meds xxxxxx

peachypips Fri 14-Dec-12 12:38:59

Sorry x post! Well done for going to doc- the headache will go when your body gets the meds back up to the right level in about 48 hours ish. Can you keep us updated about how you are over the next few days? X

susanann Fri 14-Dec-12 12:39:11

Glad the prescription was for 4 wks worth Gracie. Xmas is a stressful time of year for most people. Could someone else take dd to the party and give you some me time? Why not ring samaritians, persuasion left you the number. You need to talk I think.

frillynat81 Fri 14-Dec-12 22:16:36

Never feel like you can't phone any medical professional involved in your care and treatment because you worry about being told off! I was forever doing that when I was at my lowest and it did me no favours. Please take your meds as directed, remember why you are on them - to make you well. I too am on Venlafaxine and I don't particularly like it but I would rather have gained a few pounds and be well than be back where I used to be. There are always people you can talk to here I'm sure. Also, have a look at the Sane website. They have a helpline too. X

GracieLoo Sat 15-Dec-12 17:10:51

Thanks for replying, I find it helps to have support and advice. Still not feeling great, feel lethargic and distant from the world. I'm worried as I'm doing really stupid things, I broke dishwasher by putting wrong stuff in, tried getting in wrong car, left bag at home etc. It's like my brains not working and I just want to sleep but I can't!

susanann Sat 15-Dec-12 17:25:53

The thing is mental health probs do mess with your head a bit. (brain not working) I get like that sometimes and I find it hard to sleep. But things will get better. Hang on in there Gracie. x

GracieLoo Sun 16-Dec-12 00:38:54

I feel fat and horrible, I am fat! Hate myself, and can feel myself starting to hate others! Not in a good place

susanann Sun 16-Dec-12 11:03:55

please go seek medical help asap. We cant do much on here. Im sure youre a lovely person, youre just ill. I expect youre starting to hate others cos you just feel bad generally. Please phone your gp or care co-ordinator, they are there to help you Gracie. x

happygolucky0 Sun 16-Dec-12 11:34:21

Gracie you do need to stop the meds very slowly reducing them bit by bit. Over a long period of time. e.g 10ml every 7 weeks ish. I have to take meds as I have medical condition that causes alot of pain. I know what you mean about the weight. I got off all the meds recently and wasn't as hungry but had alot of pain. It is catch 22 you have to put up with certain side effects i guess. It sounds like you may need something to help you sleep. Try and take meds first things in the morning if they are not helping you with sleep. Cant you get something from the supermarket until you can see the doctor which may help you sleep? It may sound silly but try and get out in the sunlight during the day as much as possible.In the winter we tend to stay in the warm but we need the sunlight!
what is going on in your life to make you feel so down hun? Are you married? You mentioned dd how old is she?

amillionyears Sun 16-Dec-12 13:05:50

happygpluckyO. I dont expect GracieLoo will mind if you read her posts on MN over the last few months.

GracieLoo. People that takes these meds say it will take a couple of days for the meds to work. Then you should feel a bit better.
In a few days time you should know whether the regular 75ml dosage is enough, or whether you will need to go back onto a higher dose.

happygolucky0 Sun 16-Dec-12 21:19:34

Thanks amillionyears. I had a brief read. If you don't mind me asking which part of the country are you Gracie? I wouldn't mind helping you out with some babysitting or whatever if you was close to me. Slim chance I guess but you never know.
Its tough work being a single parent. I have been for most of my son's life he is 15 now. It is even tougher when you are not 100%. Do you have many friends around to help you locally?
Have you looked at CBT? It helped me when I was going through I tough time earier this year.

GracieLoo Sun 16-Dec-12 22:46:32

I don't want to sleep as then it's the start of another long, hard week. Working extra, don't feel I can cope with it. I'm on the waiting list for group therapy and have done bits of CBT with different people. I have friends but everyone has their own lives and I hate asking for help. I don't know what future there is for me, i don't want to affect dd long term by being depressed, even though I try hard to hide it from her she must sense things. Think the HV keeps an eye out for her though.

happygolucky0 Mon 17-Dec-12 11:25:35

Good morning I totally get some of what you say. I take on extra shifts then get so knackered which I hadn't. It is catch 22 as need the money. I also understand about hiding stuff from kids. I have fibromyalgia, which is I experience alot of pain. I try not to complain about it too much in front of my son as it cant be nice to see your parent in pain every day. He is at a tricky age at mo.
See you can do anything to help your friends out if you feel up to it. Have their kids over for tea or something. I use to find it easier to look after my son when he had other kids to play with when he was young. Then you may feel better about asking them for help when you need a break. They are your friends you shouldn't worry about asking for help from your mates. They can only say yes or no!

GracieLoo Wed 19-Dec-12 15:24:27

Feeling so miserable and I don't know why, this weathers not helping, not looking forward to Xmas, it's all about dd and so it should be, but I feel so insignificant! Lying on my bed crying while dd is watching tv, how guilty do I feel! But her friends coming round with his mum so I need to pull myself together. I want to curl up on my bed forever but I don't have time to!

amillionyears Wed 19-Dec-12 15:44:45

Deal with her friend first.
What could you do nice for yourself, that is Christmassy, later on?

GracieLoo Wed 19-Dec-12 15:55:33

I don't know, nothing, got to go to a meeting at work after tea and take dd with me which I'm stressing about as she'll prob fall asleep in the car. So that's all I can think about, I might just wrap presents when I get back. Fighting back the tears as friends are due any moment. Hate being like this.

GracieLoo Wed 19-Dec-12 22:03:31

Think I'm getting more and more anxious. I don't know if I can stand it anymore! Just keep thinking omg another year is starting and I'm dreading it. Can't struggle like I have done this year. I panic over the hols too that I won't be able to get hold of the professionals, but then I worry im too reliant on them. Starting to realise maybe I'm not quite right, but worried others can't see it as I function with daily things, even if I do find it hard, I know I have to look after dd. But I don't think I'm doing enough xmassy stuff with her, or playing with her enough.

My minds racing with thoughts, some bad ones but a small voice is saying ignore them, but I wish that voice would go away so I can stop struggling like this!

amillionyears Wed 19-Dec-12 22:40:48

I dont think you need to worry about how you are looking after DD.
You have been posting on here for a while now, and from what I can tell, you look after her very well.

Have the professionals given you details about how and when you can get hold of them over the holidays?

GracieLoo Thu 20-Dec-12 16:12:13

I'm not enjoying anything I should be enjoying. Feel bad for anyone around me, that's if they notice. Scared and fed up. Found myself googling what I could od on last night.

happygolucky0 Thu 20-Dec-12 19:54:06

Maybe a silly question Gracieloo but do you tell the doctor how you feel? I would of thought they can up your medication or change it to help your situation. They have done for a friend of mine.

Maybe you could or to a church service with dd or go out and see some of the xmas lights on the houses. Bake something. Make some play dough or something. You usually know at that age if you are paying them enough attention as they dont leave you alone!!
Do you have much support at work from people?

GracieLoo Thu 20-Dec-12 20:58:21

I haven't felt this bad for a while. Was prescribed diazepam, might take one. So tense, shaky and can't think straight. It's my fault I'm a mess and I feel bad dd has me as a mum.

amillionyears Thu 20-Dec-12 21:33:14

Are you supposed to be on diazepam regularly?
If you are prescribed it, then yes, sounds like you should take it.

GracieLoo Fri 21-Dec-12 08:07:53

I didn't take it, was prescribed it but scared to. Finally got to sleep last night, when I woke, for a second I felt ok, then all the thoughts and pain came rushing back. I took dd downstairs, put her infront of tv with a drink and banana, then came back to bed. I now do not want to move. The thought of making cup of tea, then getting us both ready is too much. And I've got to work later, how can I do this?!

GracieLoo Fri 21-Dec-12 09:26:26

Sod it I don't even care anymore, no point reaching out for support. Really had enough

amillionyears Fri 21-Dec-12 09:28:34

GracieLoo,why didnt you take it?
Can you take it now?
What time have you got to go to work?

amillionyears Fri 21-Dec-12 09:29:13

And have you eaten anything today yourself?

amillionyears Fri 21-Dec-12 09:31:59

DD is ok.
We need to fix you.

GracieLoo Fri 21-Dec-12 09:43:13

I'm not supposed to take it if I'm going to drive but think I will anyway. I did have breakfast to see if that helped. Going to see if I can take dd to my mums earlier as have quick appt with sw and know I'm going to break down.

amillionyears Fri 21-Dec-12 10:08:28

Can someone else drive you?
Or get a bus or taxi just this once?
That way you can still take the pill. If you take a pill, then drive, that is potentially dangerous to you and others.

happygolucky0 Fri 21-Dec-12 10:09:43

Gracie the meds will make you really tired at first as have the same myself, but after a few weeks they will do their job of reducing your anxiousness and hopefully relax you if you can try and stick with it. Try not to be scared... you are so like my friend I have at work you two could be twins lol!!!
Re the driving is there any chance you could use public transport. I know its a pain in the behind but if you can take the diazepam it should help. (it seems to be helping friend at work at the mo). Try and get yourself chilled and in good spirts for xmas..
Try not to drive with your little one in the car hun ..... not until you get use to the dose at least and feel more stable. pleasssssssssseee
Do well, stay strong and try and have a good day

GracieLoo Fri 21-Dec-12 10:39:04

In response to an earlier question, I do tell the professionals everything, that's why it's so frustrating. Maybe I'm not always honest about if I forget the tablets. I don't know why I do that. Sw is coming here, I just have to drive to work later, I would never risk it with dd in the car.

amillionyears Fri 21-Dec-12 10:58:43

You need to try and take what you are prescribed correctly. The correct dose at the correct time.

You are important too. Is there any way you can get to and from work without having to drive yourself?

happygolucky0 Fri 21-Dec-12 12:42:47

ok Gracie well done on not taking dd in the car while feeling the effects of the diazepam.
What has the doctor prescribed you Gracie? And how often are you to take them?
Maybe you could come on here and try and keep a note when you have taken one/them to try and help you remember to keep up with it.

GracieLoo Sat 22-Dec-12 17:25:33

Had a long chat with sw yesterday. She said she's concerned enough that I'll have to do a parenting course or she'll have to involve social services. That's my biggest fear. She said she know dd is fine and I'm a good mum, but she says I need support before it gets so bad it will affect me and dd. Kind of get what she's saying, as I worry when I feel distant, or feel I don't love dd and I'm a complete failure. She said she doesn't want me to still be like this when I'm 40/50, in and out of hospital, so issues need to be addresses now.

Tried to have a nice day just me and dd, was a bit up and down but getting through it. Nearly over, just teatime which can be a battle when I can lose it (as in me hiding away crying in frustration).

I'm trying, maybe not enough, but wish it wasn't so hard. Already taken a dip, by buying a bottle of wine that I'm craving for this eve to numb this pain! Wish I was normal.

amillionyears Sat 22-Dec-12 17:56:15

<hugs>
Do the parenting course.
Agree that you need support,they may have some answers for you.

I do think you may have issues that need addressing. Again, I dont know what they are, but the sw does seem to have some ideas.
What do you think of the sw? Is she one you have seen before?

tbh, I see it all as a positive. But I do not know how things work.

amillionyears Sat 22-Dec-12 17:57:12

Try not to drink the wine. Easy for me to say I know.

Gracie - as someone who has just had a massive dip from mucking about with my meds, please take the diazepam that you've been prescribed. They will really, really help.

I sympathise totally with how you are feeling, but you need some help to get through this rough patch.

GracieLoo Sat 22-Dec-12 18:43:54

Ok, it's more the venlafaxine I muck about with but determined to sort it out. Some stupid part of my brain gets in the way sometimes. So glad today is nearly over, but then there's going to more days like this over the next two wks :-(

It's the same sw I've had for a while, I know I've just got to listen and do whatever they say

GracieLoo Sat 22-Dec-12 21:40:37

happy thanks for the meds suggestion, I do need to do something to remind myself to take it. Too tired to concentrate on anything but too agitated to sleep! Feelings of guilt over dd tonight, hate being the way I am, want to go get her and cuddle her in my bed to try make everything ok.

happygolucky0 Sun 23-Dec-12 16:43:52

Hope you are doing ok Gracie parenting course sounds good. I did one over the telephone a few years ago. Really helped me at the time.
How is the diazepam? Wont that help you sleep? Are you worried about not being alert enough to see to you dd? Just make sure everything is made safe which I am sure you do. Put some art stuff or something for her to play with in the kitchen ,before you go to sleep and if she is going to be awake before you she will just play and be fine. Set some alarm clocks or something.I am just going on now !!

GracieLoo Mon 24-Dec-12 09:12:30

Thanks I do sometimes get up with her then put on tv while i go back for half hour. Praying the next two days go ok and I don't lose it. I know it's only two days but I don't want Xmas to be a bad memory for LO.

I know my sw and HV are working today and I get a panic that I need to ring them for reassurance. But I know this is me being too dependent and needy which is how I get when I don't feel great. I need to get through it by myself though.

Just me and dd again today, saw friends yesterday so can't complain, but it does make me feel a bit alone.

GracieLoo Mon 24-Dec-12 15:40:52

I don't always feel I love dd, I feel I'm just existing, wonder why I'm still here.

happygolucky0 Mon 24-Dec-12 16:43:04

Hello Gracie just increase your meds to what the doctor said take. You should be able to take the dizaepam if you are at home. Just do that ...I was stressed at work today and took an extra amitriptyline to chill me , not idea but sometimes it is needed. Have you taken your meds the last few days?
I am going to my parents for xmas dinner but my Mum has just informed me that she is ill!!!
You want to try loving a grumpy 15 ds !! lol I say I love him to bits but don't always like his behaviour. I have quite a stressful jobs at times too.
Guess what I am trying to say is everyone has their problems, life can be tough. You just got to pick yourself up and keep fighting. What do you enjoy doing?

happygolucky0 Mon 24-Dec-12 16:44:51

Merry xmas and Happy New year!

amillionyears Mon 24-Dec-12 16:48:21

Agree with happygplucky0 about being on the correct dosage of meds.
You do love dd.

Having talked to you on MN for the last few months, I think the number one thing for you is to take the meds as prescribed. Once you are stable on them, then the sw might be able to help you work some things out, like she suggested.

GracieLoo Mon 24-Dec-12 18:26:31

I am determined to just start taking meds properly starting from now. But what do I do when I've just lost it like now?! Dd was being difficult and annoying at teatime, but has been most of the day. I tried ignoring and getting on with stuff, but dropped something loading dishwasher and lost it and went at my wrist with scissors. Then was swearing under my breath but not caring what dd heard. Now sobbing on my bed while she watches a film but I can't keep doing this! Want to scream and run away! There's no one I can ring, it's Xmas and no one want a miserable, crazy cow crying at them. Dd is ok btw, but I am so worried about damaging her emotionally and causing issues with food or anything.

GracieLoo Mon 24-Dec-12 18:27:23

Plus I tool a diazepam couple of hours ago, not much effect, just dizzy for a bit.

Gracie - this is what the Crisis Team are there for over the holidays. Even if you're not referred to them, they're there to help, even if its just to talk to you.

The diazepam may take a while to work and you may need to take them at regular intervals, rather than waiting until you lose it. They are there to help prevent relapse as well as help when things get hard.

I really sympathise, I really do. I'm taking diazepam every four hours at the moment just to keep me going. Take care xx

Oh and its not dependent and needy to ask for help when you need it. Its wise and sensible. They are there to support you, its their job. Don't be afraid to call them.

GracieLoo Mon 24-Dec-12 18:42:26

I don't even know how i contact them. I rang them before but they said I wasn't referred to them. Do u have to go through out of hours GP? I've been let down by trying to get help, and it scares me that if it's just me and dd here they'll take her off me. Plus it's Xmas and I don't want family upset if they had to be informed. I'm worrying too much and can't think. I want help

First off they won't take your DD off you. DD isn't at risk in your care and they're not interested in breaking up families, particularly on xmas eve.

Two options open to you here, but you need to be honest with whoever you speak to.

1. Call the Crisis Team. Explain that you know you're not referred to them, but you need their help to direct you to where you can get help as you've already hurt yourself and you're scared that you may do it again as you are extremely anxious and although you've not taken Diazepam, its not calmed you down. Hopefully they will either speak to you and help you themselves, or they'll direct you to someone who can.

2. Call the OOH GP and explain exactly as above to them instead. They can then either prescribe something stronger, like Lorazepram or refer you to the crisis team.

Either way you get help, but you need to be absolutely clear about how bad you are feeling and don't play it down.

I know about being let down. I was stood at the foot of a bridge and the Crisis Team told me to call back after 5pm as I should call my care co-ordinator during the day. I put the phone down, waited 5 mins, thought about it, called them back and was completely honest. They got me the help I needed. Resources are tight, but they WILL help those who really need it.

GracieLoo Mon 24-Dec-12 21:44:03

Thank u so much, have calmed down for now but appreciate the advice as may well need it this week, or NYE which is always difficult. Sorry to hear of your horrible experience, I have found a&e made me feel stupid and insignificant. It's so hard to ask for help anyway let alone being treated like you're not worth it.

Been wrapping presents from Santa but feeling bad as there is not half as much as other kids are getting, as seen in fb pictures. Hoping tomorrow goes ok for everyone struggling right now.

amillionyears Mon 24-Dec-12 22:09:55

Some people go way overboard with presents.
So try not to compare. There are also people who like to brag a lot and show off.

I dont give as much as some other people.

Hope you do end up having a nice day tomorrow. smile

emmac52000 Tue 25-Dec-12 08:08:25

Gracieloo, it sounds like your in a really desperate place right now. Please call the team and to talk to someone call the Samaritans whenever you need them. They are there for you 24/7 specifically for people in your situation. You don't have to speak with them you can email them too if you don't feel comfortable right now to talk with someone their email is mailto:jo@samaritans.org where someone is at the end of your email waiting for you. The Samaritans might help you outside of speaking to the doctors etc. thing I like is that they listen to you and don't judge and they don't even know its you as you don't need to disclose anything. We are all thinking of you smile

GracieLoo Tue 25-Dec-12 18:16:49

Was doing ok kind of, but now getting really pissed off with family and all this pretending to have fun crap! Looking forward to a day on my own tomorrow ( bad mum I know), but then get wound up by the way dd's dad spoils her and feeds her rubbish. Can't wait to go to bed so this day can be over. Just going to drink to get through the next few hours, then back at home the rest of the week. It doesn't help being around others. Want to cry!

GracieLoo Fri 28-Dec-12 21:02:37

Went to chemist with my prescription and tried to get 4 wks worth, they would only give me 1 wk. Tried ringing HV and sw but they were still off, sw's manager tried calling back but by then my mum was here making dd happy, so I couldn't answer. I now feel desperate with the weekend ahead, being alone. I think I'm getting worse, think my family have noticed but they haven't said anything, can just tell by their worried looks.

Getting mixed feelings regarding dd, one minute feeling like I really could end it as I'm no good for her, the next she was sitting on my lap, with me crying behind her back, feeling like I'm really letting her down but she can't be without me. But I can't carry on like this!

Also, no one has asked me what I'm doing nye, shows how much I matter!

amillionyears Fri 28-Dec-12 23:15:17

Are you on the proper prescribed dose now GracieLoo?

GracieLoo Sun 30-Dec-12 20:22:45

I do take them, just occasionally forget as I expect most do?

Keep losing it with dd at mealtimes, or if she doesn't behave well, I can't control myself and snap. Not in a physical way, but I say things I shouldn't, like 'who do I bother cooking for u. Your cousin would eat it, why can't u?. Just eat it!'. It's becoming an issue for both of us. I then start doubting my parenting, whether I'm damaging her, whether she'd be better off without me.

I gave her a nice bath and we cuddled up and watched a film. I said sorry, she asked if I was grumpy with her, I said I was grumpy with myself, then started crying but she didn't notice. Ive read her a story, had kiss and hugs and she's gone to bed happy. But I feel so, so guilty, it's making me restless, I hate myself! Want reassurance that she's not going to be emotionally damaged, but I understand if everyone thinks I'm a complete cow sad

GracieLoo Sun 30-Dec-12 20:23:43

*why do I bother, not who do I bother

amillionyears Sun 30-Dec-12 20:46:30

Not everyone is the best parent.
Good enough is good enough.
You have lots of authority input. So they would say if it was not good enough.

When there is just a parent and a child, it can make for quite an intense relationship. I have seen it with some people I know.
Not sure what the answer is.
Both of you mixing with other people and familes is helpful, as you are doing.

happygolucky0 Tue 01-Jan-13 01:04:30

Hello........ I lost the thread and couldn't find you for awhile! Seems like you have been doing ok GracieLoo.
Some kids are fussy eaters (mine being one). I get where you are coming from when they don't wont to eat. They don't understand what a task it can be getting a meal together. I read it is surpose to take around 10 times of trying foods until they will like it. mmmm I gave in and gave him what he would eat. I pay for it now though as end up making two separte meals some days. so I feel your pains!
What about freezing some meals that she likes, or doing some mirco meals to give yourself a day off.

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