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if I didn't have children I would kill myself today

(37 Posts)
memoo Tue 29-Jun-10 11:50:12

feel like a big lump of useless shit.

don't want to be here a minute longer

every day is so long and painful i just can't bare it any longer

the only thing that stops me from killing myself is the pain it would cause my children and can't bare to hurt them. Love them more than anything

weepootle Tue 29-Jun-10 11:52:14

memoo, sorry you're feeling like this. Does anyone in RL know how you feel?

Couldn't see this and not post.

Is there anyone who can be with you today? Try and remember it is the depression talking not you but I do know how horrible it can be sad.

You will make it through this day. And then you will make it through tomorrow. Think little steps at the moment.

honeynutloops Tue 29-Jun-10 11:56:05

Sorry you are feeling like this - it is something specific that has triggered your feelings? (sorry do not now your history)

Do you have anyone who can be with you in RL?

As Noah said Little Steps.

memoo Tue 29-Jun-10 11:56:06

I am being treated for depression. have meds coming out if my ears. doesn't stop the pain though. Everybody seems to think i should be feeling better now, and I did for a while, but seem to have crashed again,

There is nobody who can be here. DH is fab but he really can't come home from work today

memoo Tue 29-Jun-10 11:57:22

I will keep thinking little steps. trying to tell meself that tomorrow will be better but today feels like it is never going to be over unless I do something to make it end

honeynutloops Tue 29-Jun-10 11:57:41

How old are your children? Will your Dh be back later today?

4kidsandcounting Tue 29-Jun-10 11:58:53

Please try to speak to someone about how you are feeling.It would really help to let it all out with someone you can trust.I know its hard but bottling everything up doesnt help you must try to talk about this.Sending a BIG HUGE HUG

memoo Tue 29-Jun-10 12:01:22

My children are 11, 9 and 9 months. DH will be home at 3.

Have already spole to people about it but feel like I'm just getting on everyone nerves now. it feels like now I have medication and have had support people expect me to be better. I think even my DH is probably sick to death of listening to me going on about how crap I feel

I have read some of your past threads and so have a bit of an idea of your history.

One thing I will say is that it is OK to not feel great, even if you feel that others think you should be better by now.

I think you have three children - are two at school? And a smallish sized baby? The baby won't mind what you do - can you go out for a bit maybe? Just do some walking round with baby in the buggy? And have you eaten anything?

I am asking too many questions I think.

4kidsandcounting Tue 29-Jun-10 12:02:36

Just read your other comments after i had posted,could you call your dh at work for a quick chat or could he get away from work abit earlier to see you as i think you need someone with you today.

Doyouthinktheysaurus Tue 29-Jun-10 12:03:55

memoo I'm sorry you are feeling so low todaysad Have you been feeling like this for sometime? If you have a mental health worker or CPN you really should try giving them a call and let them know how you are feeling.

It really may help to talk to someone in RL and they may be able to offer you some/more support.

Take care and as Noah says one step at time. Look after yourself, take care to eat and drink if you can face it, and keep talking on here if you find it helps.

<<hugs>>

You are not getting on everyone's nerves. That is the depression talking. Yes people want you to feel better because having depression is horrible.

memoo Tue 29-Jun-10 12:05:11

Have spoke to DH bt he really can't come home today. Has a really big meeting and has already lost lots of days at work.

You don't ask too many questions Noah, although I am very impressed by your memory.

I really can't go out today. I can't get myself together enough and feel safer indoors.

cornsilk5793 Tue 29-Jun-10 12:05:58

so sorry to hear you're feeling so down memoo
don't know your history but have seen your name on MN before
can you get out for a little walk? Is there anyone else who can come round for a bit?

honeynutloops Tue 29-Jun-10 12:06:44

You will not be getting on anyones nerves by talking about how you feel - that is what friends are for. And you can certainly talk all you need to on here.

If you older two children are at school than can you take the little one for a walk or something - it is a beautiful day again.

And your dh will be home at 3pm - not long especially if you break it up into chunks of time and make sure that you try to do something in each chunk iykwim.
Sending you an unmumsnetty hug!

memoo Tue 29-Jun-10 12:07:05

I do have a CPN but hate phoning them. Have an appointment with consultant psychiatrist next week to see how I'm getting on. Know I need my meds adjusting as they're not working.

Just overwhelmed by these feelings of not wanting to be here. I really can't stand it

memoo Tue 29-Jun-10 12:07:59

thanks for the hugs. Have to go and feed DD. Will be back in a little while

You need to phone. NOW There are people there to help you, and if you are feeling suicidal, then that's definitely something they will want to know about.

cornsilk5793 Tue 29-Jun-10 12:14:10

They are there to help you - you need to phone them.

sethstarkaddersmum Tue 29-Jun-10 12:16:37

hugs Memoo.
you love your children and that makes you wonderful & special & worthwhile.

Lulumaam Tue 29-Jun-10 12:18:12

hi memoo.. you must phone them

it is a long hard road to being better, and there will be days like this, but eventually they will get fewer and further between

call teh CPN, they're there for you for precisely this situation

you want some help, you've posted on here, so go and make that call smile

Doyouthinktheysaurus Tue 29-Jun-10 12:19:09

Do phone your CPN, that's what they are there for. They need to know how low you are feeling, it's at times like this that you need their support.

Oh memoo!! Poor you sad

Last time I went downhill I didn't ring my CPN. Told her about it later and she said she was worried I was "disengaging" hmm

They are there to help, but I do understand that sometimes they are the last people you want to talk to.

What meds are you on...

Did you get admitted in the end or are you being managed at home?

memoo Tue 29-Jun-10 12:54:39

Getdown, I was admitted but they couldn't for a short time but they couldn't get me a place on mother and baby unit so ended up back home with twice daily visits from home managment team.

I'm on vanlafaxine, trifluoperazine and zopiclone at night. They seemed to be working at first and I was definately improving but started going down hill the last week or so.

I know I really do need to help myself by phoning the CPN. Think I will wait for DH to get home first as its hard to talk with DD

laurasarah Tue 29-Jun-10 13:22:01

Oh no memoo

Talk to us and keep talking to us.

Everybody here wants to help you.

You will get through this, we promise, hang on in there and it wont be long before DH is home

Trying distracting yourself from your thoughts. A walk would be good but if not find something in the house that you can do to take your mind off your thoughts. I know its hard and we've all been there

If I were with you I would give you lots of cuddles. Do you have any close friends you could call to come over and keep you company for a while?

piratecat Tue 29-Jun-10 13:27:08

hi memoo,

i just want you to know that I am here to 'talk' to, as much as i can i understand. I have honestly been where you are, and been there for ten yrs or more.

They need to get those meds bloody sorted. Long shot but have you tried Prozac?

Please come back and let us know how your day is going. hugs to you xxxxxxx

SagacityNell Tue 29-Jun-10 13:35:25

Memoo - would speaking to Samaritans help?

I know everyone is saying to ring your CPN but it seems as if you don't want to.

kizzie Tue 29-Jun-10 19:17:58

Hi Memoo- im sorry today was so incredibly hard. I know youve been through a horrible time but it will get better. Just keep hanging on.
Thinking of you x

Doyouthinktheysaurus Tue 29-Jun-10 19:28:38

Hope you are coping this evening memoo. Take care of yourself.

memoo Tue 29-Jun-10 21:50:05

hi, feeling a little better this evening. DH got home at 3 and so I went a slept til dinner time.

Still can't get rid of the feeling of not wanting to be here. Just need to keep telling myself that things will get better.

Thanks for all your support today

piratecat Tue 29-Jun-10 21:54:03

hi, just logged on to see you'd posted.
Your dh sounds lovely memoo, I am glad oyu got some rest.

rest is key. Be kind to yourself, try to say postive kind things to your true self, your inner person/child, just remember you deserve a happy life. Your kids deserve a happy mummy.

I foyu start to feel awful and run yourself down, just say to yourself, this will pass, I am in there, I am ok, and i will get better, i just need time.
xxxxxxx

honeynutloops Wed 30-Jun-10 12:21:10

How are you feeling today Memoo?

piratecat Wed 30-Jun-10 13:26:51

hi memoo (waves) hope you get to read my thread from last night. How are you today?

sammyjoseph4321 Thu 12-Dec-13 19:44:39

it probably dosent sound to good me saying this but i know exactly how u feel, my life is so crap. if it wasnt fot my kids i feel exactly the same. im homeless now and staying with a friend some days are good some days are bad. struggling to pay for things that i cant afford. this life just isnot fair. im trying to complete te second year of my course but staying at my friends is getting to me. my appearance has changed and i dont care about myself any more. i love my kids so i cant let them down but each day i wake up and i feel like ive let them down. all i can say is just try and put your mind to something possitve, focus on it and maybe u will feel a lot better. good luck

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Jjl221310 Sun 17-Aug-14 02:30:30

I feel the exact same I am sorry u are going through this and I am sorry I have no advice for you I just hope the best for you I have a 9 yr 6yr and 1yr old and if it weren't for them I would not be here right now even with medication/counselling etc

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