I don't know quite where to start, i have so many feelings and thoughts about my childhood, but i have to start somewhere.
My mother, im pretty sure has suffered with depression for a long time, and has since been diagnosed with bi polar and is now after 4 yrs on the right meds and since 2004 been like a new person.
She has changed for the better don't get me wrong, she's had a lot of therapy etc and seems to be content and happier less stressed etc.
And im happy that she is better, but for a while - actually since my son was born, i have found myself growing angry about my childhood, and how its still affecting me now in a very negative way.
When i first saw her after her breakdown i actualy cried ( after i left her ) because she had suddenly turned into a nice person, someone who i wish could of been my mum when i was younger.
It was like i had sent a letter to santa asking for a nice mummy and it had just got to him 10 yrs too late and i got my wish.
It feels so unfair that she is now okidokie, happy and content and im left feeling and looking like a complete wreck.
Im 10st overweight, I have anxiety and depression, suffered halucinations in the past, have frequent nightmares and OCD behaviour.
The other week i was shopping in tescos with DS in buggy and suddenly couldn't remember what i was supposed to buy, i spent about 20 mins trying to decided whether to buy garden peas or mixed veg!?! wtf?!!
I actually couldn't choose and i didn't burst out crying, the tears just started to flow, and then i couldn't decided whether i should go home, i felt stuck and lost.
ended up ditching my basket in the frozen isle and sitting at the end of the checkouts crying.
I have no idea why i did this, i was very happy in the morning and it was a lovely day, i just feel like the more/longer i avoid dealing with these intense feelings the more my mind/body is shutting itself down.
I am certainly starting to lose function and control of my emotions.
Anyway, what im trying to say is, i want my mum to tell me that she's sorry, that she aknowledges how awful it was living with her and that it wasn't my fault for being a difficult teenager ( she actualy phoned SS to collect me on my 8th birthday ) for reasons unknown.
But i can't ask her for this, im still scared of my mum TBH in some way, and we actually get on now ( even dispite my resentment ) Im just not sure how i can move on myself without her help.
Tell me im not the only one who feels like this?
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festering resentment
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OTTMummA · 29/03/2010 17:10
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