giving up breastfeeding and feeling weepy - any connection?

[MrsWembley]

I'm down to one feed a day, dd's last feed which sends her to sleep. Night before last she didn't even need that and I felt a bit sad but nothing else. Then we had a 'needy' day yesterday which I put down to her having had so much attention over Christmas and with dp being home coz of the snow, then suddenly it's just the two of us and I'm not allowed to put her down, let alone leave the room. Then just before bedtime she threw up half her tea over the pair of us, so I phoned dp to ask him to come straight home and help bath her. He's home in fifteen minutes, she's fine, and when I'm cleaning myself up and filling her bath I can hear her being all happy and laughing with him and I start crying. I breastfeed her after her bath but it doesn't help shake the mood and I can't seem to shake it today either. Is it hormones?

[madmouse]

Maybe hormones, maybe just the change in your relationship. Suddenly she's not attached to you anymore - no longer having something that only you can give her. And don't they just know how to become a daddy's boy/girl on the rebound. My ds did - 11 months of bf and now at nearly two he follows dh through the house going dadadadadadadada...

Cut yourself some slack - like most things it will pass.

[MrsWembley]

Thank-you, I know you're right. It's just that I can't shake it and I'm normally a happy person. DD is too so when she's miserable it's really worrying as well. And then I pick her up and she's laughing again. Put her down and she cries. I've got a pile of washing to do otherwise she's got no clean growbags, washing-up from last night otherwise I can't get tea ready for tonight, and she won't let me leave the room for more than two minutes, if that! And then I feel guilty for resenting the fact that I can't get anything done and start crying again. Which leads me to felling guilty about crying over nothing and then I can't stop.

[madmouse]

If she's laughing when you pick her up she's obviously fine. Don't worry x

How old is she? Take her with you in whatever room you are doing your chores so she can see you. Chat to her as cheerfully as you can, sing some rhymes, it will all work out.

[adelicatequestion]

Mine are a bit older now, but I remember reading there is an age where they have attachement issues (8-12 months).

Don;t know how old your DD is, but it may be just a phase (not that that helps you!)

[MrsWembley]

Thank-you again for the help. DD is fine so long as she's getting attention and I normally don't mind, but the last couple of days I have been crying at the drop of a hat. Everytime I try to do something and she stops me I just feel frustrated and then guilty and then just plain upset. My big problem is that I'm quite anal about some things and I know I don't want to pass it on to her so I'm trying not to be around her but when it comes to just being clean and tidy and she stops me, wanting attention, then I get wound up and it is so wrong that it gets me more upset. So far it hasn't bothered me, which is why I wondered if it was to do with the change in hormones.

[MrsWembley]

Oh, and she's a couple of days shy of seven months.