I have always lacked confidence from a very early age. This all stemmed from my dad putting me down all the time. I carried this through to late teenage but then seemed to gain some confidence by going out with friends etc.. I never had any trouble getting boyfriends and have had 7 in my 34 years with 3 long term relationships. My last relationship was 5 years and resulted in a 7 year old daughter. This relationship ended when he cheated on me. It wasn't long after this relationship ended that I met my current partner of 3 and a half years. We have just had a 3 month old daughter. Our relationship is rubbish at the moment and we have always had issues from the very start. In hinesight we met too quickly after my last relationship ended but you can't help who you fall in love with and when. I brought baggage into this relationship due to the cheating and have terible problems trusting. I do not have any confidence and although I am told constantly by friends and my partner that I am attractive, I do not see what they see. I do not believe them. I look in the mirror and see someone completely different. I am a clingy, posessive girlfriend and I do not trust my partner. If I see him looking at or talking to an attractive girl I am filled with jealously and hate and I have a go at him. He says he will never cheat on me because he is happy with me and our daughters, but I do not believe him. He said if he ever did leave me it would not be because he has cheated, it would be because I have pushed him away. I started dance classes just before Xmas because he said I needed to get out more and will continue with these now xmas is over. I must admit I have gained some confidence from these classes and also getting my body back after giving birth. I just cannot feel attractive and I cannot trust my boyfriend. This causes arguements which came to a head over xmas but I want to work things out. Please help.
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