Suffering from antenatal depression with no support - Is there any help out there?

[whocaresaboutyourintellect]

Im 30 weeks pregnant. I am new to my local area which is very isolated and has no local clubs. I dont drive and have 3 kids and SPD so public transport is a big No NO. DH works all the hours god sends and I am very alone.

I have no family support at the moment and I dont even have any old friends I can call on. It never really bothered me before because I was happy and kids did their clubs and dh didn't work such long hours.

Over the last 5 months it has been getting worse, I am either numb or angry.DH knows how lonely I feel and tried his best. I think about death all the time and question my place on this earth. Thats what made me realise that this must be depression,

I approached my doctor who can only offer me councilling. But I dont need anyone to tell me that the problem is I am a sad loner.

I just dont know how to find that fullfillment. DH says I should be excited about the baby.

[silentcatastrophe]

You are NOT going to be told that you are a sad loner! Ante natal depression is very common. I had it before my 1st baby was born and was told that a lot of PND actually starts during pregnancy.

Go back to your doctor, and tell them how you feel. Print out this page if you don't want to say how you feel. Please don't be ashamed.

When you start getting help, you will feel much better and more in control and then you might look forward to the new baby more!

[flakecake]

Hi there,

It seems like DH needs to cut down his hours. If he can not are there any relatives you can stay with for a while? There is a charity that provides befriending, ask your midwife about it.

Please remember you are lonely just for the moment, I'm sure things will improve. There must be something going on in your area? Local bus service?

[maledetta]

You are not alone Whocares! I am 29 weeks pregnant and feeling v. depressed...It doesn't help when the world assumes you should be feeling fine.....the reality is, you have far more need to be cherished and supported at this time, and if that doesn't happen sufficiently, it's easy to spiral downwards.

I am on my own (dumped by the father)and my close friends have lost all interest (they have their own problems/ I am being too needy for them to cope with/they are bad friends- all of the above, probably).

I don't know what advice to give really- just to say that you're not alone.

[lostlenore]

Your gp can prescribe you medication, as well as talking. You do need to be honest with them about how low you are really feeling though, I have been feeling frankly shite throughout this pregnancy but got really low about a month ago. It took me two visits to the gp to be able to tell them what was wrong but I have been given fluoxetine which I am hoping will help a little (am 22 wks pg).

Which part of the country are you in? I live in Kent and would be happy to meet up if you are South East/London based.

I hope you can find a way to feel better, you are most definitely not alone in feeling like that, and you are not a bad person for not being all joyful.