Hi, just not really sure where to go from here, so I thought I'd write down bits about how I've been feeling. I have ds1 19months and ds2 nearly 4 months old, and supportive dh (not with housework unless nagged however!) he doesn't really know how I'm feeling, he's been working 6/7 days a wk, 7am til atleast 5/5.30pm. If he has a Sun off work he usually plays football so is out of the house 9.30am until 1 pm, so on an average wk we have a Sun afternoon to spend together as a family. He plays football on a Mon and Thurs night too, although only usually out of house for 1hr as 6-aside games. I'm exhausted, stressed and feel like I'm not coping at all. i feel like everything is spiraling out of my control. I haven't had a min to myself for 4 months. I start on a Mon trying to be positive, we'll get out to this toddler group so ds1 can run about etc, but we never get there, the wk goes on like this and it gets to Fri and the only time I've really been out of the house is to drop ds 1 at nursery 2 mornings a wk. I plan a weekly food menu but don't get round to cooking anything so we end up eating beans on toast or something else very quick (which makes me v sad). I have no motivation, the house is always a mess, i can't keep on top of it. The mornings and before dinner is the worst, it takes so much effort to get out to go somewhere we just don't go. ds2 is bf and is sleeping for a maximum of 4 hours in one go at night, followed ny feeding every 1/2hrs after. He likes to be held a lot. I don't have any negative feelings towards dc, i love them with everything, i feel constant guilt that I'm not being good enough. I've started crying quite a bit. I spend most of my time sitting around the house playing with dc / feeding/ just keeping on top of keeping us clean and fed. i keep obsessing about what I'm going to retrain as and have as a career, a few wks ago a midwife, last wk a secondary school teacher, when I'm currently finalising my diploma in nutritioal medicine. I have clinic all weekend next wkend and I'm dreading it, I have nothing to wear, confidence is going etc. We were having good days but these are now getting less and less. I thought it was just normal with having a baby but it's an excuse I can't use now as ds2 is nearly 4 months old. I'm unhappy with the way I look, but don't have the motivation to eat well. I get angry with dh and shout at him, I feel he doesn't understand what my life's like, he works hard but i work harder feelings etc. We usually argue when he gets home, then I calm down, then i feel 'normal' again when he's at home, everything seems much easier then, i can laugh then and think positively about the next day, but then I wake up.
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