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Off the rails...............a bit long!!

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assumpta · 30/03/2009 16:24

I am writing to see what you all think. My brother in his 40's lives on his own in a small village. He drinks far too much, spirits mainly, and is on anti-depressants, which he does not take properly. People, including family have tried to help him in any way that they can. He is rude, arrogant, disrespectful and generally thinks that everyone should do exactly what he wants, when he wants. He has no responsibilities in life, no marriage, no children, other than the family house he lives in, which he does not keep in fantastic order, family have tried to help with this and he goes mad. He cant bear anything to be thrown out or moved, he cant bear people making noise in his house. He thinks that wherever he is that everyone should listen to him and he talks over people at any opportunity, even telling them that they are stupid. This will even be in a public place, i.e. pub. People are really fed up of him including his family. We all love him, but I hate to say he is not well liked at the moment. He is seeing a physch but says that he is stupid and no good. Any ideas?

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ScummyMummy · 30/03/2009 16:27

Sounds like he has a few problems and you are doing all you can, really. Has he always been like this?

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MitchyInge · 30/03/2009 17:29

would he mind you talking to his psychiatrist to find out how best to support him?

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assumpta · 30/03/2009 17:32

He has got much worse in the last year or so. He is very aggitated with everything, but its the fact that he is nasty in the things that he says to adults as well as children, that I cannot accept. We were all brought up with manners and to respect other people and this I feel is a step to far in his behaviour. The only thing is that nobody, as yet, has told him to, basically, shut it as everyone is afraid that it may tip him over the edge. Someone is going to punch him in the mouth soon. What should we do?

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Nontoxic · 30/03/2009 17:34

I don't know much about this but do you think the problem could be some degree of Asperger's?

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assumpta · 30/03/2009 19:22

I don't really know anything about aspergers, but I will look it up.

I have just found out that somebody close has spoken to him about his behaviour and he feels really bad at the moment. They have pointed out that he is a much nicer person when he is not drinking, and they also told him about insulting people. He accepted this, but followed up by saying that they are saying things about him behind his back. From what I can gather something quite traumatic happened a while back, but he has not opened up about it. He has been advised to tell his psych but we will have to wait and see. Maybe he should be asked outright, but would this tip him over the edge?

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ScummyMummy · 30/03/2009 19:40

I wouldn't ask him. It's up to him to choose whom he discloses it to. I think you just need to stay as supportive as you can. If you are worried about his wellbeing or safety could you ring his mental health team?

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MIFLAW · 31/03/2009 23:28

He sounds like he has a drink problem.

Which is more than sufficient to explain the rest.