Is there anyone out there unhappily married but financially trapped, socially isolated with very small children and suffering from anxiety / depression / sleep problems? I would love to know it's not just me and to hear your survival/ perseverance strategies?
Our second dc is due in a month. 2 months ago my husband emailed to say he was leaving us and giving me a months notice but my dad persuaded him it wasn't fair.
My husband and i then agreed that he would stay in his current job for 6 months, where he works mostly at home,rather than going consulting as the extra money was not as important as both of us being at home during this time with toddler and baby. Today he announced he has been planning the opposite & is going to start working away all week from next week.
He also said he wont guarantee to be around for the birth (which i'm really worried about) unless i choose a another c-section which i don't want, partly because i am worried about recovery with a 2 year old to look after.
There is no point arguing as it is a fait accompli but I don't dare say anything either (after the initial shock) in case he threatens to leave us again. Also because he is aggressive & quite violent (throwing and kicking things, stamping, yelling) and I am worried he will attack us. He has also threatened suicide. He says he wants me to "nurture" him as a valuable asset. He baits me til i cry and then laughs. He tries to draw me into arguments in front of our son, but i have refused to talk to him unless our son is in bed and so he just gets angry. My parents think he has done nothing wrong and make excuses for him but they never see the way he is at home.
I keep thinking i'm turning corners but it just seems to be one thing after another. I have lots of qualifications and had a good job before kids - i never thought i'd feel so powerless.
I want to just walk out of my life, escape for a while. But i couldn't leave my son behind & anyway, my parents would probably leave messages that he was hurt to bring me back. And at 36wks pg, its not that easy to go away with him. So i feel trapped.
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Anyone else unhappily married, depressed, anxious, isolated, with small children...?
toddlerhip · 23/03/2009 21:19
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