This may be long and rambly so sorry in advance .
I have 5 dc and am pg again ,we lost a dd 10 years ago after she got a normal childhood illness and it attacked her immune system and shut down her organs and she passed away in ICU this was so unexpected and shocking as everyone had been confident uo to three days before that she would be fine ,I am not posting to gain sympathy I think it is part of my issues now.
After dd died I already had ds and got pg very quick with dd I suffered badly with pnd and never really bonded until she was much older by this stage I had had dd3 whi is 7 now when she was a baby she was poorly a lot and now has mild asthma I have always felt more anxious about her than the others I don't know why I can only assume it is because she has asthma .When I was pg with dd4 I got into a state and started having panic attacks and became fixated on dd3's health again we visited a&e a lot just to be told she was fine.
Now I am doing it again I literally jump every time she coughs I feel myself getting churned up I try not to let her see how stressed it is making me but I do wonder if she is picking up on it .
She has had a cough on and off for three weeks and I am terrified although she is fine in herself I know I am been stupid ,dp is getting pissed off with me and I am getting more and more anxious I worry when she is at school and worry when she is asleep I am terrified about leaving her when I give birth .
Last night she had a coughing fit and I panicked so much I got my sister to take me to a&e the staff were lovely and she was fine they think she is run down from the coughing and has a viral infection but apart from tha is fit as a fiddle ,which reassures me but there is always a little nagging feeling saying what if.
I love all of my dc of course and look after them when they are ill but I don't get anxious over them iyswim ? My 3 year old has a nighttime cough too and I am so rational about it ,so why am I so messed up over dd3?
It is getting me down now I don't want to see my gp because I am worried they will think I am not coping which I am I just can't cope with dd 3 been ill.
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ComeWhineWithMe · 12/02/2009 09:06
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