I am posting this here because I am hoping people here will understand me. And I do believe this is a mental health issue.
If this is long, please bear with me as I just need to get it all out.
Basically, I just can't stop worrying about offending people. If I see one friend I feel really bad to other friends, especially if they also know this friend.
For example, me and some other mums from DD's nursery were invited to a another mums house for lunch yesterday. So, I went, but all night I couldn't sleep because I was worried my best friend would be offended because she too knows this mum and wasn't invited. I had to tell her I didn't need a lift back to the school because I was going to another mums house, and I felt awful. Saw her after and although I had had a really nice time at lunch, I had to play it down, even making it sound boring so that I don't feel bad I had a good time without her. Now I worry the mum who invited me will get to hear of that and think i wasn't grateful!
Also, I am pg and lots of friends have offered me baby/maternity stuff. I greatly appreciate this, but I don't tell other friends who haven't incase they feel bad for not giving me their stuff, and I don't want them to feel bad!
One more example..a neighbour asked me to go round and look at her new kitchen she'd had. I went round but when my close friend neighbour asked what I was doing there, I went to pieces, feeling guilty for going!
I think what doesn't help is that my two closest friends are always running other people down. I don't do this, I hate it. And if ever I say I've been talking to so and so, or visiting so and so, they always say something negative about that person. I usually nod my head to agree with them as I don't want to disagree with my friend, and always end up feeling crap!
This is really eating me up inside and I think I need help - unless it's just pregnancy hormones.
Is anyone else out there like me?
I just want to be able to go where I want and do what I want without feel guilty all the time!
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rascalboys · 10/10/2008 16:29
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