have spent the day with my aunt today. she hasn;t been like she can be (which is to put me down and make me so damn angry I need to get drunk after), but I have still some away with a face (according to DH and the children), so she has clearly got to me more than I like.
she had a stroke about a week or so agao. only a small one, but still, a stroke. problem is, my family do not speak to me anymore (they haven;t since I annouced I was expecting DS2), and so no-one told me, until it was remembered that no-one would be about for my mother! (she is schizophrenic and I have issues with her.....please note the issues!).
anyhooooooooooooooooo........today aunty had to be taken to the hospital near to me for testing on her vision, and so I offered (altho I did not feel as tho I had too much choice, but still, she is family so I feel I should). I spoke to her a lot more today than I have in a long time. she was quite complementary about me and the children, which is nice as I feel very intimidated by her normaly, but she then bought up something that she had read by Bill Oddie (goodies fame). seems he too is a product of a violent schizophrenic mother, and a 'controling' mother figure (his gran in his case), altho he did in fact have a wonderful father, something I did not), and my aunt finally says she can understand what I have been trying to say about my mother for so long.
she finally understands, only because Bill Oddie wrote about his experiances
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why did she not understand just from me???
oh, and she also commented that she finally see;s that I am quite normal to feel how I do.......[hm]
no aunty, a lot of how I feel is becuase you never let me feel as tho it was ok to feel angry..........not just becuase of my mum, also because of you!!!!
arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
sorry, a lot of you may not understand my garbledness.
thing is, I am also feeling rather careworn anyway. I am not sad about that (I am glad to be there for friends), but then, I need a lttle something and an outlet to vent too IYGWIM, so here I am.
plus, one this that scares me.........I read the extract of his book (published in the daily mail, aunty made me print it out for her, and so I read it). he notes about his breakdowns, and there is a small commment about how his doctor thinks he is surprised he did not breakdown lots growing up. i have terrors about me heading down that path too......it so scares me the thought of being like my mum, and reading it in print that it is likely (well, maybe not that wording, I think in my stu today I may be taking it wrong), scares me more.
help, and a big
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not depressed, but feeling a little crappy about myself and in need of a little 'something', and to offload stuff about my mother and aunt......
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