Don't know why I am posting this except I am home alone (DH working away tonight) and generally feel really depressed.
Lovely DS is 10.5 weeks old. I love him to death even though he is grumpy. DH not bonding that great with him at the moment due to him being not a 'small baby' person so feel like I am sole parenting iykwim. BUT I have no doubts about DH or DS - both are the loves of my life. And I don't think it's PND either as I don't think I tick too many of that box.
Problem is my family lives overseas. I've always been fiercely independent. Due to abuse when I was little (of a sexual kind by a much older cousin) and my parents not being there for me (I was brought up by grandma), I don't feel close to them though things have been much better in recent times. Been living overseas since I was 19 (now 31), never really missed home much.
But since DS's arrival, I really miss my family (crying as I write this). Not just my immediate family, I grew up with cousins etc, huge extended family, very child-friendly, always having family gathering here, there and everywhere. I just miss them all.
Everyone thinks I just need to get out. I just converted my driving license to UK one so am getting out but not far from home as I am not confident about driving here. But it's not just that. It's my family. I want my son to grow up with lots of kids his age, go swimming in tropical weather etc. I don't want him to just face me all day long. No wonder he's grumpy, I would be grumpy too if I had to see me all day! LOL...
Sod's law is that right before DS's arrival, DH gave up a job with possibilities of us going back to where I came from for a more local job that paid better thinking that was a better move so he could be home more and I could have the option of being a SAHM if I wanted. Now I get this crushing feeling that we made the wrong choice.
Going back to see my family in September - two weeks with us three. A week before that, DH will be in San Fran for work so I will be heading back first with DS and now thinking of extending it by another week so I am home for all of a month. BUT I know this is not the solution.
I just feel so, so sad right now... I don't expect any answers or solutions. Just need to put this down as DH feels bad enough that I am lonely...
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Missing family overseas...
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angel1976 · 07/05/2008 22:36
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