Hi,
I've been depressed before and I know the signs...everytime I'm not depressed I try to remind myself that when I am depressed it's a mood, it's not me. But then when I get depressed again this 'it's just a mood' notion of course loses all meaning and I just feel awful, truly awful - scared, tired, angry, guilty, panicking all the time, or, even worse, experiencing things as if I'm at some sort of remove. It's particularly bad in connection with my dd, age 5: I love her desperately but can't summon any energy or real enthusiasm for playing with her, taking her places, so there's the guilt thing happening. And she keeps telling me I don't really love her and I have to reassure her all the time. Recently I made a tough decision to stop her overnight visits to her father (we are no longer together) because these visits seemed to upset her so much, so I've said that all she needs with him right now is daytime visits. I feel like I've done the right thing but then I contemplate how hard it might be for him to not have dd overnight and I feel guilty (again). It doesn't exactly help that he keeps telling me I'm going to go to hell when I die, etc. Intellectually I don't believe in hell but I do feel as if I'm an incredibly evil person a lot of the time. I've been self-medicating with Valium (which I can't stop taking abruptly because I've been on it for months) and, I'm ashamed to confess, alcohol. I teach part time at a university and I have to take painkillers and sedatives in order to get through classes without falling apart (or at least I feel like I'm about to fall apart a lot of the time). The smallest thing sends me wailing to the laundry or bedroom to cry: every task, no matter how small, seems to misfire or take what feels like about 5,000 years to complete. I'm confused, I keep dropping things, messing things up: a typical thing that brings tears to my eyes is opening a wardrobe door to put clothes away and a whole bundle of stuff that I've inefficiently stuffed in there previously falls on top of my head (btw, this sort of thing is not because of drinking, either, this is when I'm quite sober). I can't concentrate on work (and I have tons of reading etc to do for my job), actually I feel like I can barely read sometimes. My fiance, with whom I recently moved in, thinks this is all HIS fault (which it isn't, it's just me) and he can't get it right with me: if he tries to be caring I feel irritable, if he withdraws I feel like he's trying to torment me, so what can he do? Last night we had a bad fight and he nearly went to a hotel. So today I decided to start on Lovan (Prozac) again, but from previous experience I know I can only start on about a quarter of a tablet at a time or I go jittery and feel completely sick. And even after I'm on a whole tablet it takes about 3 months before I feel any better. My child is in front of the tv all the time, I mess up all the pre-school stuff (eg, forget when it's excursion days etc). I don't know how I'm going to get through this....the Lovan does work for me but as I said it takes a while. I feel sorry for myself and then feel digusted with myself for feeling sorry for myself. I've been crying so much that I've got a permanently puffy face...I just can't seem to get along with my fiance in this sort of mood and it's so awful as I love him very much. I can't even look people in the eye....I can't make phone calls, I can't do anything, there's no comfort zone except sleep. It's getting towards evening now and I'm feeling a bit better (which I've heard is often true of depressed people - but sometimes I think this is simply because when one is depressed one knows that night and bed and not so far away and the days are so long....)
This has been an opus, I just have to blow off: usually I wouldn't have the energy. I have this feeling, which I can't shake, that I'm being punished for something or that I've done something unforgiveable. I don't know. Help me: what do other people do when they feel like this (apart from anti depressants?)
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Caththerese1973 · 02/04/2008 09:34
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