Hi everyone,
I don't expect any replies just need to feel like I'm getting things off my chest.
I just feel like things are getting on top of me. Have two DD's - (one 2yrs 8 mths, one 8 mths). I just feel so alone. I don't have any close friends as I am rather shy so find making friends hard. I go to some playgroups but always feel like the outsider with all the other mums chatting away. I have just handed in my notice at work but I don't feel satisfied as a full time mum ( I know that sounds terrible). I cannot afford to work as childcare costs are too high plus the past 8 months being off with DD1 has made me realise that she is better off not being in nursery full time.
I feel like I've nothing to look forward to. Even thought DH has a good job, without my salary we don't have alot of money to spend. Our house is looking really shabby as we haven't really done any DIY since we moved in 5 years ago!!! I struggle with getting housework done - partly rushing around after my DD's and partly that I have no motivation. So I feel like I am stuck in a mess of a home which I cannot stand.
DH works very long hours so during the week I feel like a single mum as he is out of the door before the DD's wake up and he's back well after they have gone to bed. He's knackered at weekends so ends up falling asleep on the sofa which makes me annoyed as I end up feeling even more alone. When he does offer advice I just feel like he's telling me how to do my job so I end up resenting him.
Sometimes I feel like I could just scream. My DH has had to go away this weekend to help his parents and he litterally spent 2 mins on the phone before saying he had to go and abrubtly put the phone down. I felt like he just wasn't interested in me so ended up throwing the phone across the room.
Now I've started I can't stop. I feel angry but I am not sure what I am angry at. Maybe I am angry at myself. Didn't realise how much hard work being a mum would be. I don't have any time for myself and even if I did I don't know what I'd do as I don't have any interests (apart from babies and cooking - how domesticated! ;)). I feel like I've gone back to being teenager again - completely insecure and not sure what I am doing. A couple of years ago I had much more confidence and optimism. I don't know what has happened to me.
Anyway, if you've listened to my ramblings then thank you. Maybe an early night might help.
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AK1107 · 01/02/2008 21:50
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