Ive suffered with depression on and off now since I was 17/18. I have been to various counselling, a stress management course and been put on two different types of anti depressants. (Came off these a few years ago.)
Im 7 months pregnant and have an almost 2 year old son. Im finding things really hard to cope with. Im worried about the birth (have a thread in childbirth 'c or v?'), I have my driving test coming up in a few weeks (petrified by nerves so has taken me 6 years to get back to the point where I feel ready to try again.) Have been posting on the driving thread in other subjects. Im finding the nerves so hard to cope with. Its all I can think about.
I dont have family near me, and dont have friends I can talk to. My nerves have always held me back, and I let them. A few times its felt like Im having a breakdown, it scares me and I cant cope. DP is lovely and has shown me so much patience but I think hes at a loss for what else he can do to help. I wonder if its all the hormones running through me that are emphasising how Im feeling and making things worse. Its that that is stopping me from going to the docs just yet. Im wondering if its better to wait until after the birth. (Ive only recently moved to the surgery near me so dont know the doctors yet etc) I feel like a really crap mum because I lack the confidence to go out with my son. Some days I dont leave the house and dont have an adult convo until dp comes home. I have panic attacks and feel v anxious and although Ive learnt how to handle them they still stop me. I really wanted this year to be a good one but Ive had such a bad time lately. I wanted to take my son to toddler groups this year but I cant face it. Im massive at the moment and dont feel at ease or whatever in my maternity clothes, Im not enjoying this pregnancy I just want it to all be done so I can get back to normal. DP has said then maybe to not worry about all this at the mo (well try not to) and once I feel more comfortable in myself to then give it a go. (DS goes to nursery one morning a week.) After I had ds I got pnd and I wonder if Ive ever really got over it, or if any of the things Ive tried have helped. Maybe this is just how Im meant to be?
Ive never been able to hold down a job and I dont understand why and Im already worried about not being able to find employment when the time comes. I want to go to college in sep but I blush so bad and the nerves are crippling that I know I'll back out and let myself and dp, dc down again. We live in a council house in a really nice area (2 bed) and already Im worrying that we'll get moved to somewhere horrible once this baby is older and we need another room. I let everything build up and make such huge deals of things and then I dont know how to handle things. I dont want to go on the tablets again as they didnt help after a while except make me numb and they were a nightmare to get off, but sometimes I dont think I have any choice. Sometimes I wish I didnt make the decision to have children because I dont think Im any good as a mother. Im not the right kind of role model. I have no motivation for anything anymore and I dont know what to do. I know my life is just passing me by and that makes me feel worse but I still dont know what/how Im meant to go about doing anything about it.
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Sorry... feeling low
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dillinger · 21/01/2008 11:35
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