Feeling angry all the time

[Mumsymum]

For the past few months I have been feeling very angry and tearful - like PMT but worse and constant. I am always taking it out on dp as I do not think he takes enough responsibility for our children and home - i work fulltime but seem to have to do everything myself. I have tried explaining to him how I feel but he just thinks I am nagging and being a pain. I am close to asking him to leave but do not want to be left on my own. Am I just stressed?

[spacemonkey]

It does sound like classic symptoms of stress to me mumsymum. You say "just" stress, but stress is a serious thing! You have a lot on your plate. Is there any way you can cut down on working hours or delegate some of your other responsibilities to ease the pressure on yourself?

[tiptop]

Mumsymum - I agree with sm. Does dh do his fair share of things around the house? Could he do more? Could he have the children for, say, half a day or one day every weekend to let you have some breathing space? Do you have any hobbies or time to yourself? If money isn't too tight, could you have a cleaner or someone to do the ironing? Can dh do the weekly shop so that it's part of his routine and not one more thing for you to do? As sm says, try to delegate things that others can do instead of you. Hth. Oh, and try to share the bedtime routine or else you do it on certain days and he does it on others.

[Lonelymum]

I feel I am constantly angry. Sometimes I listen to myself talking to the children and it seems to me I am constantly shouting at them or sounding irritable and cross, never speaking to them in a happy tone. Sometimes it is the same when I speak to dh. I assume I am like this because I am stressed or depressed so I think you should assume the same. You need to sit down with dh and work out what would make you feel happier and more relaxed. I know it is easier said than done because I haven't solved my problem yet, but facing up to being stressed might be the first step in the fight direction.

[vict17]

Are you on the pill? That can upset your hormones and make you feel ratty all the time.

[pinkmamma]

Hi there - don't know if you have heard of Bach Flower Remedies? They are made from plant extracts and are completely natural. They do one called "Holly" which is for anger. I can relate to how you are feeling and I have taken this remedy when I feel like this and it works for me. You can buy it in Boots and most chemists - around £6. Got to be worth a try

[Kayleigh]

pinkmamma, can you take the Bach Flower Redmedies with AD's ? I know you shouldn't take Rescue Remedy with them. Are the others the same ?