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Mental health

Is anybody else like me no get up and go/motivation

14 replies

stressedouttoday · 04/01/2008 22:12

Hi

I am driving myself mad as I cannot be bothered to do anything.
Everything seems too much of a effort.
The house gets half heartedly cleaned once a week, I cannot be bothered to cook a proper meal and would much rather bung soemthing simple in the oven.

My DP frequently comes home from a long day at work to no dinner.
Going out to pay a bill or to carry out some sort of essential task feels like too much effort at times.

I cannot be bothered going to my job and I only work 2 night shifts a week but it is very stressful and I don't feel mentally able for it.

I am always feeling tired and frequently fall asleep by 9.00pm on the sofa and then will wake up at 5.00am still in my day clothes as I couldn't be bothered to get my backside up to bed and all I want to do is sit and watch the telly or eat loads of chocolate and as a consequence of that I am overweight.

I wake up in the morning and cannot be bothered sometimes with the day ahead has it seems so unexciting.

I do have a 7 year old DS and can't even be bothered to do things with him sometimes.

I am very concerned about my addiction to chocolate as I am really eating a tremendous amount.

Is anybody else like me.

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Coby · 04/01/2008 22:20

yep, typical depression - isn't it fun?

just eaten 1/2 large bar of galaxy and now nicking DHs chocky orange even though I usually don't like them, should be doing housework and certain overdue paperwork things that people are screaming for but.........

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Dior · 04/01/2008 22:21

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mrspnut · 04/01/2008 22:24

I've felt like this since the start of the school holidays. I have come to the realisation that school brings structure to my life even though it's not me attending.

I have spent 2 weeks stuffing my face and drinking more than is good for me, and the only effort I have made is to go to the gym 4 times and take my littlest one swimming once.

Hopefully once next week comes and big one is back at school I will find things easier.

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LoveAngel · 04/01/2008 22:25

Classic depression. I remember when I had PND I was eating a shameful amount of chocolate - family bars one after the other, and still not satisfied. I was really at my lowest then. Also found simple tasks like making a short phonecall or going to the post office difficult (I am pretty much recovered from the worst of it now, but still find that if there are more than 3 things on my 'to do list' I feel overwhelmed...)

Have you talked to anyone about how you are feeling?

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OutlawTorn · 04/01/2008 22:26

yes that is me too. The chocolate thing is horrible because as you say, it effects you physically. My new years resolution is always to lose weight but I just cant keep off the chocolate, its a proper addiction.

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burstingbug · 04/01/2008 22:30

Yes.
I'm kind of the same, but have got a bit better.
I do manage to get some motivation to rustle up food at meal times.
Going out has become easier after battling with anxiety. I need to go to work to get away from my DS's (almost 3yrs and almost 19 mths).
I get tired in the evenings but can't get to sleep easily then find it really hard to wake up and get out of bed in the morning.
I find it hard to sit and play with my DS's without getting stressed with them or before they start fighting.

As for chocolate, I can take it or leave it.

Have you talked to anyone about how you feel or seen your Dr?

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stressedouttoday · 04/01/2008 22:34

Hi LoveAngel
No I haven't spoken to anybody about it except my mom who isn't that sympathetic she simply just says its because I have no hobbies or interests.
Part of my problem is that I am painfully shy as well so I don't have any mates.
I would find getting out and doing activities difficult due to my shyness but then thats another problem.

I am getting worse as I get older and I would find it really difficult to open up to anybody face to face.

I have been like this for a long time now and have never been sure whether its depression or not.

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burstingbug · 04/01/2008 22:39

Sounds like how my long term depression has been.

I'm also the same as you with shyness, I find it really hard to get out and do stuff especially when it means talking to and meeting people - I think that boils down to having very little self esteem.

Please try to get some motivation and courage to book an appt with your Dr if you can. xx

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onlyjoking9329 · 04/01/2008 22:44

blimey that sounds just like me, my get up and go has got up and gone. i don't know what the answer is but i will hang aroung to find out.

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LoveAngel · 04/01/2008 23:00

Hi stressedouttoday. I think you should bite the bullet and talk to your GP with a view to getting some counselling. Tell him/her how you feel - write it down and take the notes along with you if you think you'll get tongue tied - or you could even write your GP a letter and post it, asking him/her to give you a ring to discuss...?

Counselling was how I started to overcome my depression. It wasn't a miracle cure - I still struggle quite a bit, but I am so much better than before. The comfort eating is semi under control (I have lost two stone, although still have a way to go yet!) and I am able to get out and have even braved a few toddler groups (I could never have done this a year ago...way too scary!). I realised through counselling that I had a long term depression of some sort, dating back as far as some traumatic experiences in my childhood, and having a baby really brought things to a head ( I got full blown PND and had a real social phobia and terrible anxiety). Talking to someone non judgemental and sympathetic really helped in the long term. Maybe you could give it a go?

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stressedouttoday · 04/01/2008 23:13

Hi

Your right I should I do think that maybe my shyness has made things worse for me.

I could really do with sorting that one out.
I also worry constantly about my only ds who never has another child to play with due to me never having the ability to get out there and make friends of moms with children of his age.

I think its awful he is stuck with a mom who cannot be bothered with anything and has no mates.

It is all so depressing

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Nonicknamesleft · 04/01/2008 23:37

Dear stressedouttoday

I do feel for you and it really reads to me like a list of classic depression symptoms. I've had it a few times, and like a lot of illnesses, you don't really realise how much it's got you until it starts to lift and you start to remember what normal feels like.

Like other posters here, I urge you to see your doctor. Treating depression isn't necessarily easy like taking a course of antibiotics, but it isn't by any means insurmountable. In every case of mine, a short to medium term use of antidepressants was a lifesaver (literally in some instances), and had me back on my feet in pretty quick measure. And depression is nothing to be ashamed of - it's just one of those things that happens to some of us. Treat it like the illness it is, get to your doctor, and I'm sure you will soon be back in control of things and not feeling so powerless and low.

One last thing: antidepressants are just one way of tackling the problem. Other people have mentioned counselling and that can be fantastic too if it's the right thing for you. It is often a case of trying a couple or so approaches to see what works. And at the risk of sounding horribly girl guide-ish, exercise can be a massive help in making you feel better too (especially if you are feeling rubbish about eating loads of chocolate). I have found that it's good at boosting my self esteem, presumably because of all those lovely endorphins that are suddenly sent bombing around my little dejected brain.

Anyway, whatever you try I wish you all the best. I promise you, there is a way out.

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mumof3monsters · 04/01/2008 23:51

this is first time iv been on here iv joined up because i cant belive how ur feeling got to say snap was sitting with my 3 boy's earlier thinking how useless i am for not playing with them just dont have energy to do anything just hope some how it will get better when eldest is back in school and normality is back if there is such a thing anymore,i would take a visit to doc and make sure you tell him exactly how u feel.