I have been sitting here for an hour now trying to work up the courage to post this, and yes I have changed my name for this.
I am really worried that i may have PND or just plain old depression.
I have 3 dc's aged from two to 6 months, they are all at home with me full time and recently I am finding every day a struggle.
There is alot going on at the moment in my life, my husband is a builder and the house that we are living in we have been doing up our selves, and recently we have just brought a new house (that also needs doing up) now I know there are people who don't even have a roof over thier head so why the hell am I so unhappy?
It's not that me Dc's are terrible or anything but 2 of them have very bad evenings and seem to cry from 5 onwards for no reason, they won't have nap's and just never seem to be happy at this time in the evening, which is putting a huge strain on Dh and I, I can't do everything by myself, but dh needs to get this house finished before we can rent it out, so he comes home from work and start's working on this place while I do the dinner and try and stop the kids from moaning.
My eldest dc is 2 and like any 2 year old she doesn't leave me alone, i can't even wee without her popping in, and recently I have been finding it really hard to keep her entertained ALL DAY, i am constantly watching the clock waiting for it to be time for her nap so I can have a bit of peace.
I usually have my mum or dad over for a couple of hours one or two day's a week, but they are on holiday at the moment, so I am by myself, which i thought was going to be a good thing, because the new house that we have broguth is not in the area that we are in now, so it will give me a chance to see how I get on on my own.
Well to say the least I am just about managing. I feel like I need a break from the kids from DH, from my life.
I did actually go out last weekend for the first time in a year and I actually felt like a real person for once, I actually had an identity I wasn't just mummy.
I feel so guilty that I feel this way cause I love my kids so much, but I am just finding it so hard to be happy at the moment.
I feel like I am a failure aswell because i know there are people who are in alot more dificult situations than me and they can cope, so why can't I.
My dh is pretty useless and I can't really talk to him, even if I could I don't think I would because I don't want everyone to see what a mess I am, i should be able to do this.
I don't know, I know I should go see my doctor or something but I don't want to admit my feelings to anyone, I just feel like i have completly failed.
I don't want this to be PND, how will I look people in the eye knowing that I can't cope at the one thing I should be able to do.
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I'm worried I may have PND
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arethereanynicknamesnotinuse · 05/10/2007 07:47
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