I'm newish to mumsnet and feel a bit different to most here. I am not depressed at the moment but have had it rear its head a couple of times before I became a mum myself. Am trying everything to ward it off, terrfiied that PND may come its way to me too. We've had such awful stuff happen in our famliy around depression and mental illness and its caring for my aunt who has serious MH probs at times that causes me much anxiety myself.
It used to be not knowing what mental illness was all about that stressed me as I didn't know how to help but it was all on me to help, if you know what I mean. I then cracked under pressure of it all - degree, job, aunt trying several attempts to commit suicide.
We're through all this now, my aunts child has been adopted which is a whole other story but at least she is not caught up in this nightmare.
What's weird is that getting depressed myself was a good thing in a way. (Even the experience of seroxat which initally sent me to jupiter and a bit loopy loo until things levelled out) makes me able to uderstand and help my aunt better now when she's ill.
What I can't deal with though is my aunts situation with a guy who has major issues - he's abusive and manipulative - been kicked out of his own family , got no friends etc and is a vulture to my aunt who is vulnerable.
This has been going on for years and everytime she has got the strength to kick him out - he's weedled his way back in days/weeks later because he knows she's scared of him. It nearly went to court recently but aunt didn't press charges - the police had loads on him but she got too scared to go through with it. To be honest I'd have loved to see him locked up but I don't know whether it would have done him any good - he really needs psychiatric help.
I don't know what to do - she called me last night to say she was scared he'll hurt me and my baby because he blames me for her having called the police on him, even though there;s times when she's found the strength to make the decsion to dial 999 herself I've had nothing to do with - he's deluded and paranoid - thinks neighbours are shouting at him through the walls.
Trouble is I don't now whether she is just scared and paranoid too - he's not actually done or said anything to her that actually idicates he would hurt me or DS but it's a massive fear to her.
It's such a scary situation and you people give such good advice, can anyone help?
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How do I help someone help themselves, and protect myself and baby too?
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Webdiva · 30/09/2007 11:00
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