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I have no one to talk to all day.

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IcingOnTheCake · 08/05/2007 21:32

My dp goes to work at 6am and comes home at 5-6pm. I feel more and more down everyday as i have no one except a 6.5 month old baby. I find it very hard to talk to strangers and instantly put up that protection guard with new people. I have tried the baby groups but no luck. Somedays the people on mn are the only people i speak to all day while dp is at work. I sound like a real sad ass don't i.

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fryalot · 08/05/2007 21:34

no, you sound like me.

I have dd2 (2.10) and ds (20mo) to talk to until dd1 comes home at 4.30, then dp comes in at about 5.30

He's generally knackered and wants to talk about his day, so I still have nobody to talk to.

you are not alone.

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zizou · 08/05/2007 21:36

Icing on the cake you must get out of the house that is no way to be living! Please go to the park, take your baby swimming, go to a cafe, go to the library, try different groups if the first lot didn't work out. YOU CANNOT BE ON YOUR OWN ALL DAY! IT IS TERRIBLE FOR YOUR MENTAL HEALTH AND HENCE FOR THAT OF YOUR BABY!
Please get out more!
Where are you?

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zizou · 08/05/2007 21:36

sorry pressed allcaps by mistake, was not shouting, although do feel very strongly about this.

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IcingOnTheCake · 08/05/2007 21:38

When i go out the house people are mean to me. I think it maybe just me but i really do feel like i can't cope going out the house and facing people.

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luciemule · 08/05/2007 21:40

Just getting out in the fresh air or going window shopping will help - even if you only walk around and sit and have a cup of tea. If you've got a baby, you'll never be on your own. I would never have gone to a cafe and sat on my own before I had kids but now I do it a bit too much!
The other day in Bath, I saw two women (at separate times) just sitting on the grass in the parks with their babies and I thought it strange as to why. But then I thought - perhaps they would be feeling down if they were at home alone with just the baby.

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zizou · 08/05/2007 21:40

What? All people? Icing you sound depressed.
Go and see GP quickly. Who is mean to you?

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luciemule · 08/05/2007 21:41

In what way do you think they're mean to you?

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zizou · 08/05/2007 21:44

confused, have you started two threads about this?

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IcingOnTheCake · 08/05/2007 21:45

I have just realised i have posted twice. Sorry, how the hell did i manage that!

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littletickles · 11/05/2007 10:57

You sound like me too. Im at home all day with 8 month old and have nobody to talk to. My other half is out the house for 11 hours a day and its very lonley!

Although i do go out most days, even if its only for a few hours, just to get some exercise and fresh air. Little one is at that akward age where its hard to entertain her all the time.

If you fancy a chat, you can always email me [email protected] .

Take care

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chocolatte · 12/05/2007 10:55

Icing - I agree with zizou - try some more baby groups. I would suggest going to ones where there is something to do rather than just the coffee-and-chat ones. Like maybe a baby music or craft type thing or baby swimming. Even if that's not really you it's easier to get talking. If you dont feel comfortable talking to people why dont you set yourself a small goal like giving another mum a big smile when you're out! Its sure to be returned and she might start a conversation. Also you could maybe think about questions to ask other mums to help get things going. I know it sounds a bit contrived but it might give you more confidence to get talking as the other person will be doing most of the talking and everyone loves talking about their own babies so should make things easier. Hope this helps. Sending you a big smile (grin)