Hi,
Sorry to intrude here, but I?m feeling so low and just need to vent. I have a nine week old baby and I?m not coping well at all. The house is messy, I have a huge pile of ironing, and although I make things look ok on the surface, I?m not on top of things and I just cry all the time. I?m exhausted because every time I wake up after the nigh feeds I can?t get back to sleep because my mind is racing. I have no appetite at all, and have to force myself to do anything at all. I feel so guilty because my husband and baby deserve much better than this.
My husband is lovely, but I feel like I can?t keep complaining to him because I?ve put him through a lot already. I had a horrible pregnancy because I have a rare form of kidney disease which meant I was in and out of hospital throughout the pregnany and went into premature labour 3 times, but was pulled back from the brink. Eventually I was induced at 38 weeks, ds was in distress throughout and was back to back and had a hand in front of his face. I ended up with ventouse and forceps, shoulder dystocia, a 3rd degree tear and a severe haemorrhage which needed blood transfusions. Ds was in SCBU for a week due to wet lungs, hypoglycaemia and jaundice, but thankfully is fine now.
I know that I should be grateful that we are both ok, but I can?t seem to move on, even though I know I?m just being selfish and need to get a grip. On top of this, the pregnancy has exacerbated my other condition, and I need major surgery to correct it. At the moment the local NHS has cancelled all non urgent treatment, so that has been put on hold as well.
Just to cap it all I just had a huge row with my mother who has a big problem with the fact that I?m still breastfeeding. For the last week or so my baby has been wanting to feed every two hours. He?s gaining weight fine, but my mother constantly tells me that I?m starving him, and that ?normal? people have stopped breastfeeding now, and that its not fair on him to continue. She said that the breastfeeding is also why I still haven?t got my figure back ( I?m still a size larger than pre pregnancy and hate myself for it.)
When the HV did the Edinburgh test I scored 15 but she said that it didn?t matter because I had a reason to be depressed and if she was in my situation she would probably have scored 30! As far as my friends and the outside world are concerned, I seem to be coping fine, but I just feel like a fraud.
I don?t expect anyone to get to the end of this, and I know that there are no answers, but I just needed to vent to someone.
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black31cat · 12/04/2007 19:45
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