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Feel like I just don't have the energy

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Notaclue · 11/04/2007 09:08

I have been feeling low for months (before the birth of my ds 6mths ago) Have been told its PND & am onAD's. Son is just such hard work its wearing me out (but I feel that literallly, not flippantly) He seems to be what they call a "spirited" child. I thought there was something wrong with him and have been referred to specialists but nothing has been clarified. (Thats good i suppose except I still have to deal with a really miserable, difficult draining child every day. I do love him but now my pateince is so thin...I'm getting snappy & I feel SO angry. I have other stuff going on my life that really does justify feeling shit so I know trhis isn't helping. But sometimes I seriously don't have the enrgy for him, don't feel love & feel desperation. I look at options in my life & really feel like suicide is an option. I feel his difficult personality is a punishment (from whom I don't know?!) because I have a tendency to feeling of guilt etc due to ashitty upbringing.

I have a really amazing wonderful loving helpful thoughtful partner (his dad) but I must be tearing him apart at the moment.

Got to go ds is crying.

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Sparkler1 · 11/04/2007 09:13

Notaclue - So sorry to hear you are feeling so low. I get very very low days myself and can totally sympathise. Do you get quality time for yourself very often? Could your DH have children for you to sleep/shop/go for a walk/night out with friends? It makes such a big difference to the way you feel just to have that bit of time. Even if your DH could take children out of the house for you to have time at home alone is brilliant.
People always suggest this to me and I try to find excuses not to do it but inside I know it's the right thing.
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LucyJones · 11/04/2007 09:15

Have you ppsted in parenting about your ds? We might have more of an idea on how to help you deal with him with a bit more info. Eg is it that he needs holding all the time? Would a sling help? Could you put him in a creche for a few hours a week to give you a bit of re-energising time?

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Sparkler1 · 11/04/2007 09:16

Even if someone can babysit for you so you and DH can have some quality time together. There's nothing wrong with the way you are feeling - all part of parenting I'm sure. My two dds are 7 and 5 and I quite often think to myself "gaaah, leave me alone!"

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Notaclue · 11/04/2007 09:18

I know that i do the same sometimes....almost taking all responsibility on myself. I have breast fed for 6mths now & think i should stop so i can share that resposibilty. DS doesn't sleep through either. I dont fel like a good mother to this tiny person.. how can i be so angry with him. my dp asked me not to be so rough with ds last night because i was so cross when i picked him up crying. he cries so much of the time all day and every tim e he wakesup even after a long nap.

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Notaclue · 11/04/2007 11:40

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mylittlestar · 11/04/2007 12:17

somebody on here mentioned cranial osteopathy for babies the other day and said it worked wonders....

perhaps someone else can remember who?

if your baby is being that difficult I can toatlly sympathise and surely anything is worth a try?

agree that maybe stopping bf and getting dp to help through the night would be a great idea - sleep will make you feel 100 times better

keep posting here. especially when you're feeling really low. there's always support and people to help

xx