I have come to realise that about 20 years ago I went through a period of pretty deep darkness. I never saw or spoke to anyone about so I don't know if it was depression, but it wasn't my normal. I was 18 and in the middle of my last year in school, A levels, etc. My family are lovely, but I'm the "good child" so I tend to get overlooked/can be invisible. At the same time as I was going through the biggest thing in my life, one sister was having an unplanned pregnancy, the other was doing GCSEs and some health and school issues, and my dad was doing his first year exams having gone back to uni (still working full time). The house was busy and my mum was frantically keeping on top of everything. I completely slipped through the cracks. I didn't sleep for months; instead I cried a lot, alone in the dark. But I held it together, and no one noticed. I used to lie in bed at night, wondering what would happen if I just didn't exist any more, and how it all might be easier if I didn't. I never seriously considered acting on it, I didn't want to actually die, I just didn't want to be here any more. I don't know if that makes sense.
After saying no one noticed, in truth two people did. Two friends of mine in school. We were in the same large group of girls who were friends in school and out. They took me aside one day and asked what was wrong. I don't remember anyone else in my life at the time doing it. I lied and said I was fine. They told me I wasn't. I shrugged it off and they never mentioned it again (they were as utterly clueless as I was), but looking back, it meant so much and I think it might have been what started to pull me back.
I've had other bouts of similar feelings over the years, but never so bad or so long. In the last few months I haven't been feeling great. Not awful, but not right. I'm doing well at covering it though. I know I'd feel like a fraud going to the gp, so I'm not sure where or to go or what to do. I know I have to sort out some life stuff, practical things like getting more sleep and eating less crap, but now that I'm finally piecing things together, I'm worried it might need something else. But as the one who copes, I'm not good being seen to not be able to manage. I have no idea how to ask for help.
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KanyesVest · 18/10/2016 23:00
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