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Please help me

(5 Posts)
timescrossword Mon 05-Sep-16 18:06:17

Please help and stop me from being an utter irrational nutcase and undermining my relationship completely. I feel like I am cracking up and I should be cooking DC's tea right now but I'm here instead.

timescrossword Mon 05-Sep-16 18:14:11

To save drip feeding, I am a single parent. I have a boyfriend who lives apart and a lot went wrong earlier this year when he decided he wouldn't be able to live with me because his children just won't accept me. It nearly split us up and it was incredibly painful. We are still together and things keep happening to stop him coming over here and I am turning into an anxious, needy, paranoid, suspicious wreck, which I don't actually think is justified but I still feel like shit. And now I can't see his account on my computer any more. Please stop me before I give him the third degree and wreck my relationship with him.

AnxiousCarer Mon 05-Sep-16 18:27:35

It does sound like you need to sit down with your bf face to face andctalk all your worries through. Is this possible?

Costacoffeeplease Mon 05-Sep-16 18:32:15

What 'things keep happening'?

It sounds as though he's making excuses not to come over. Perhaps you should take control and decide when he can come, and if he doesn't, then that will show you how serious he is. Don't give him the power to make all the decisions, and don't do the 'pick me dance'

timescrossword Mon 05-Sep-16 18:45:43

The things that keep happening are work, car and children. He's depressed. I've just spoken to him on the phone. I cried and told him I'd had a shit day and he said he wished he could give me a hug. He started talking about the issues again - spread too thinly and not doing a good job of our relationship or being a father to his children but he had to stop taking as it was making him too depressed. I'm gutted. I feel like I'm losing him

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