Hi i am 49- single mum to daughter 15 and son 12. I live along from family and i have been on my own for 5 years- my dad has dementia so my parents can no longer visit me and i get to see them maybe 3 times a year. My marriage was a very difficult one and the divorce was horrendous- he is a high earner and he hid money from me and i am in the family home but have to sell it when my son is 21 and my ex still gets half- so my financial future seems scary at times. I am grieving for my dad too as every time i see him he has deteriorated badly.
My stress levels have been very high over the past few years and i know that i have been very low at times. I have a terrible driving phobia so i have been limited where i can drive- but we live near a train station so that has been ok because we get get around by train. but a few weeks ago i went by train by myself- something i do alot and has never bothered me and all of a sudden i started to experience this dreadful panic- it has awful- i felt sick, needed the loo, was shaking and sweating and didnt know what to do with myself...i felt totally out of control and very scared.
Since then every time i go by train i feel panic set in and so i am avoiding it again...but i cant keep avoiding things- my kids need me to take them places and we need to have a life.
My anxiety is exhausting me- i am dizzy and shaky and feel like my brain is full of cotton wool- i dont work but i know at some point i will need to- but both my kids have asd and various other conditions so they need me at home to support them.
Gp gave me antidepressants but i am scared to take them as in the past i have had awful side effects and withdrawl effects. I have got some diazepam if i need to take them but havent taken them for years.
I feel so alone- i feel so tired- i feel frustrated because i want to feel in control and well- i am fed up with feeling like this- it has been on and off for years- i want to do exciting things and start to live again-
my daughter is 15 and wants to be a doctor - she is an amazing kid- strong and determined and an A student who is predicted to get As in all her gcses- she is on work experience at the moment at the local hospital- i am so proud of her- but i want her to be proud of me too- and i feel so pathetic that i am trapped in this anxiety- they dont see how bad i am - i am good at putting my mask on and pretending i am ok.
I really need some friends who understand how i feel- people think i should be ok now- divorcing a man with a personality disorder is the hardest thing i have ever done- and i have done it alone- i feel battered and worn out-
Gp said i had generalised anxiety disorder and probably PTSD due to the abusive marriage and horrendous drawn out divorce.
Thank you for taking the time to read my post- i am sorry if it is abit rambling- i guess that is how my brain feels right now lol.
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paulwellerfan · 13/07/2016 14:33
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