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Am I just being stupid or is this anxiety?

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Wilberforce2 Fri 13-May-16 23:15:08

I have always been what family/friends would jokingly call a hypochondriac but ever since having my second child two years ago I've developed a real obsession/fear that I am going to get Cancer and die. It's getting steadily worse to the point where I have cried at least twice everyday for the last 4 weeks. I play out scenes in my head where the doctor tells me I have Cancer and then I have to tell the kids (7 & 2) constantly and then I end up in floods of tears and on the verge of a panic attack because I can't breath.

Nothing is enjoyable anymore because I'm thinking about how I won't get to do whatever I'm doing anymore when I'm dead. Tonight for example dh is out so me and ds had a film night and now he is sleeping in my bed as a treat, I've been uncontrollably sobbing for the last hour because he was all cuddled up to me and I just keep thinking that if I die he won't be able to do this anymore. DH is useless with stuff like this and won't entertain it at all, I decided to try and start a discussion about it yesterday by emailing him a link to info about health anxiety and he emailed back within minutes jokingly saying "I might just have you sectioned" so I sent one back saying "it's not funny I think there is something wrong with me, I can't keep worrying like this" and he basically replied saying I'm just being silly and to stop thinking about illness all of the time.

Am I just being silly? There are people out there actually dying and I'm here worrying about it happening to me.

I feel sick constantly with worry and I spend ages checking myself for signs of skin cancer and googling symptoms of breast/ovarian/cervical and bowel cancer, it's just constant.

Is there anything I can do for this? I don't see how I can switch off the worry and stress. I had PND after my second baby and was in Citalopram but this isn't depression it genuine fear,

Thank you for reading so sorry it's long x

Naughty1205 Fri 13-May-16 23:27:24

Definitely anxiety. Been there, still there. It's awful. Can you go to gp? You can't live like that.

Wilberforce2 Sat 14-May-16 13:08:24

Thank you for replying, it's quite nice to hear someone tell me that I'm not just being stupid. I know I should go to the doctors but my GP isn't that amazing and when I had PND he gave me pills and shoved me out the door telling me to call the health visitor. I'm just a bit embarrassed I guess.. I do know I can't go on like this day to day as its sending me crazy.

Orchidflower1 Sat 14-May-16 17:25:57

Could you see a councilor op- I've just started seeing someone and its beginning to help. Doc has given me meds but I'm a bit reluctant to take them as I was made so Unwell when I tried fluoxetine before. Been given escitolpram this time. smile

ProfessorPreciseaBug Sun 15-May-16 22:36:19

It is all too easy to get yourself into a negative mindset where you convince yourself of something that is actually wrong.... and verifiably wrong.. So I don't think you are being stupid.. And no, you can't just snap out of it.

I can't offer a solution except that when I convince myself of something tarrible.... I am always wrong..

Wolfiefan Sun 15-May-16 22:37:32

Try a different GP? This is anxiety and you need help. flowers

AliceScarlett Sat 21-May-16 12:04:20

Self help? Click on the health anxiety booklet:

www.ntw.nhs.uk/pic/selfhelp/

FranTan Sat 21-May-16 12:17:09

Been there, OP. It's anxiety and the NHS prescribes CBT. I had an intensive course and while it didn't cure it, it became less debilitating. I also had it after DC2 was born and became fixated on having oral cancer. Utter nightmare - constant checking, googling and seeking reassurance; these are the behaviours you need to break. CBT will help you do this and you may be able to self-refer. flowers

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