I have suffered from anxiety of different forms on and off since my early twenties. Life circumstances seem to dictate whether I am suffering significantly or not. For the last few years it's been mainly under control and I am very very aware of when I am having anxious thoughts / over-thinking things BUT that doesn't seem to stop it happening.
This weekend I am solo parenting because my DH is off on a cycling trip for his mates' 40th. I am very happy for him to go, deserves a break and has helped to organise the trip (15 blokes). There will be plenty of drinking as well as cycling and I am fine with all of this, he gets that I get anxious and is good at keeping in touch with me and kids whenever (rarely) away from home. BUT I am massively anxious about the whole thing. My anxiety has been building over the last few weeks and I have managed to keep a lid on it / not say anything (it often comes out as anger if I speak to him and I really am not angry so don't want to show that to him!). Anyway I can't stop obsessing that he will have a car crash (they're travelling 4.5hrs away) particularly on the way back as they will go out on the last night to celebrate the 40th. He's not driving, another friend is but I know he has a fast car and I can't stop worrying myself stupid that something is going to go wrong.
Last night I contemplated asking him to get the train home but I know he will think me insane (also takes 6 hours) meaning he wouldn't be home to see the kids before they go to bed. I know it's 'sensible' to not worry and be grateful he will be home early afternoon ish but I just keep imagining the worst.
Then last night I started worrying about a cycling accident.
My anxiety always flares massively when he has to go away / on a trip. I stupidly read an article about being a single parent today and I think that's sent me in a spin.
Any tips? I have forgotten all the CBT techniques I learnt years ago. I can speak to DH but tbh there's not much point because he can't do anything to reassure me can he?
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Anxiety raising ugly head today - help needed
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boomboom198 · 12/05/2016 10:17
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