Can't stop crying

[madmumNika]

Hi everyone,
Just really looking for someone to tell me that everything will be ok! I'm currently 11 weeks pregnant and mum to my gorgeous 20 month old son, who was born prematurely at 30 weeks due to severe pre-eclampsia. I'm now on daily aspirin with this pregnancy to hopefully ward off pre-eclampsia, and been warned to try to reduce stress. The problem is work is getting me really worried. I have recently reduced my hours as we moved a long way from my place of work due to my other half getting a new job, so I reduced my hours and work from home some of the time to avoid lots of commuting and missing DS. That's all ok but I haven't been paid since 20 Nov due to some problem with my new work pattern- but no one told me!! I chased them today and once I got off the phone (with the issue still not resolved) I started to cry and now I just can't stop!! I have some big deadlines looming, my son wasn't well before christmas and we had a flood downstairs so the house is a mess. I feel at the end of my tether and the pay thing seems to have finished me off! Please tell me this is a pregnancy hormone thing! I wish I could stop feeling stressed. I have few friends where we've moved to and no one to blow off to... I just don't know what to do.

Sorry for going on. Hugs to you all, Nika x

[zippitippitoes]

big hugs nika

no wonder you are crying

rest and something nice to eat, a walk pout side and someone to take the pressure off

is your lack of apy a real financial worry or just the situation and the sorting out getting to you?

drop everything which isn't absolutely essential and make a to do list with just those things you have to do

[madmumNika]

Thank you zippitippitoes

Still crying here feeling very pathetic! The lack of pay has put us into our overdraft but things aren't desperate yet (although childcare fees due out any day but can apply for additional overdraft if needed!). It's definitely more the situation...it just feels like one thing after another at the mo. But I know I have it easy compared to many, which makes me feel all the more stupid!! I need to talk to my line manager, he doesn't know I'm pregnant yet, but right now I'll be pretty useless as will cry down the phone!

Going to take the dog out for a walk at lunchtime- good suggestion

[zippitippitoes]

Are you worried about telling work you are pregnant?

well you have got an overwhelming amount going on so the tears are natural and probably doing you good a bit cathartic

obviously oif you are a t breaking opijnt and unable to carry on at all then you need to sek some help otherwise

perhaps an attempt to take some time out (twenty minutes maybe?) and do some sort of visualising technique might be therapeutic

[madmumNika]

I have stopped crying finally. I think you're right, it has been cathartic. Now feel guilty for going on about (& a little guilty for spending an hour of my work day crying!)! I am definitely worried about telling my boss. He sort of depends on me quite a lot to oversee projects but my interest has been waning of late and I don't feel the same work obligations that I used to. I think that's the perspective you get sometimes after having a child- what used to seem earth-shatteringly important isn't anymore!!! I just feel like I'm juggling too many balls and they're starting to fall down around me, not sure I can do anything well anymore. Going to call him about my pay now and if I can be brave I might tell him I'm pregnant at the same time and get it over & done with! I miss my wee boy today...can't seem to focus on work so wonder what I'm doing!! OK enough rambling better get this call over with before I wimp out.

Thank you for helping me

[zippitippitoes]

good luck.. maybe once the telling is over you will be feeling better about that

try googling visualisation and see what you get

I don't know if you've tried it but basically it is creating a calming mental picture and is helpful for stress

on mn they do this a bit in the yurt

I don't know much about it but i am trying to head that way to help with anxiety