Hi I'm looking for some words of wisdom.
I've been ill, and the kids are currently with their father most of the time as I spent some time in hospital. I seriously think their dad has a personality disorder (no empathy, remorse, is a compulsive and convincing liar). He was financially, psychologically, and towards the end, I think sexually abusive towards me (I think so at least…one occasion tried to penetrate in the 'wrong' hole whilst I was asleep, and also did other things that hurt me during intercourse, that I did not agree to, but couldn't say no at the time, and caused me pain)
So, I'm being treated like I'm the 'risk' factor because I got ill as a result of the stress I was put under (root cause- STBXH), and he's being treated as the responsible parent.
I think the kids are ok with him for short periods of time, but not longer term. I think he can meet their very basic needs. I don't think he'd hurt them, but I worry that if he could treat me like he did, he's capable of treating other people badly too. The kids have been requesting to come home. They say their dad won't let them phone me. I'm not at all happy with the situation.
Question is- how much, if anything do I tell the SW? She's putting the brakes on the kids been returned to me, and thinking they are best spending most of the time with their dad.
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dangermouseisace · 09/02/2016 18:24
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