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Mental health

everything is getting on top of me...

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Nemoinapeartree · 22/12/2006 22:51

am just sinking further and further and cant see an end at the minute. Everything seems to be going wrong..Ds[3] has been ill for 3 days with a temp and throwing up etc. Was seen today at walk in centre who said if his fluid intake isnt up by tommorow am then he has to go into hospital. DD still having problems with her asthma despite the steroids. My nan came to visit today[found out yesterday she has advanced cancer] and havent seen her for a while but she looked horrendous, of course tried to stay chirpy but kept going into the kitchen to cry. Dh still not got ajob sorted for end of jan and we will be in dire shit if he doesnt manage it. Am 37wks pregnant but baby has dropped right down making me feel very uncomfortable and have insomnia anyway, plus cant start my normal ADs until baby is born..just feel like I am cracking up again and thoughts of SH etc are very strong which they havent been in a year. We are skint, shit keeps being dropped on us and I cant see an end to all of it.

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expatinscotland · 22/12/2006 22:54

Oh, damn, nemo.

Can't offer much but empathy.

I'm hanging on for my psychiatrist appointment in Jan., too.

Here's hoping it comes soon and you get sorted. It's rough, coming off one med to the next.

Hang in there, please!

You're NOT alone!

Nemoinapeartree · 22/12/2006 22:58

thanks expat...I know things will help be evened out when I can start the venlaflaxine again but cant take it at the min with the baby..so still have a couple of weeks at least before can start.

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expatinscotland · 22/12/2006 23:05

Then a couple of weeks till it kicks in. Are you marking off the days? Sad, but I've found it helps!

I'm like, 'I get to see my psychiatrist on the 11th, hurray! Maybe there will be a cancellation!'

I think I'll be going venlaflaxine as well.

I'm sertaline now and it's just not cutting it.

Here's hoping that does it for you!

Please try not to cut! I've not SH'd, but of course have come across many who do or have. I know what they get out of it. I get the same from smoking.

It's a slipperly slope. Try not to go there, please!

MerryBiglipsmas · 22/12/2006 23:06

oh Nemo - dont know what to say as im so full of cold (yes again!!) and my brain is not working as all i can think of is Xmas this, Xmas that, Xmas etc ... there is another 3 days to go and still not in the mood for Xmas as also had the worse flu last week...

all i can say that keep your chin up and before you know it you will get thru... xxxxxxx

Nemoinapeartree · 22/12/2006 23:07

I am trying not to as have been down that road before but now Ds is old enough to notice which would kill me. I am ticking off the days thinking if can get consultant to give me the 6th jan as induction date should be on it by 7th jan and 2 wks after means they should be kicking in by 21st..so only a month to go

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expatinscotland · 22/12/2006 23:10

Hold onto that thought, Nemo!

Think, too, the ol' tax credits will be kicking in, too.

Look forward to that.

It's going to be allright.

Have you worked out your dosage w/your psychiatrist?

I've got my old one, but he's great, and so I know he won't stick me on some silly dosage that won't do FA.

Nemoinapeartree · 22/12/2006 23:15

already discussed dosage with psychatrist as used to be on 225mg a day[highest can go] so will be starting on 75mg but I can increase if it is not helping and he has wrote to the gp to confirm this. Just hoping it helps again. As for tax credits...mmm well they are a pain in the behind..lol

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expatinscotland · 22/12/2006 23:17

K, so you can increase thru GP w/o having to wait for consult appointment, that's a good feeling I know.

This is good. One less thing to trigger anxiety.

Tax credits will come through. Just do all in writing and photocopy.

Boxes are being ticked here, less to be anxious about.

Insomnia?

Hope you don't have it!

fussymummy · 22/12/2006 23:52

Nemo so sorry you're having such a tough time.

With regards to your little one not taking fluids, do you have any ice pops??

Thats what i give my kids when they refuse to take fluids while ill.

If you don't have any then make his favourite juice in a small cup and freeze it, then he can sip it as it melts.

I'm on venlafaxine as well, i've tried so many ADs and so far have found these to be the best for me.

Keep posting and getting support, we're all here for you.

MerryBiglipsmas · 23/12/2006 09:32

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Nemoinapeartree · 23/12/2006 14:26

really not coping to well and just want to hide away until I dont know when..

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Mummy2TandF · 23/12/2006 14:39

Nemo - sorry to hear you are feeling down, I am sure that christmas isn't helping but that is the same for everyone at the moment, it deffo has that effect on me - in respect of dh's job, what does he want to do? and where abouts do you live? I may be able to help Keep your chin up and I am sure that things will seem better in the new year

lulumama · 23/12/2006 15:11

nemo...sorry you are feeling so down......this is always a hard time of year , regardless
i found venlaflaxine started to work within days rather than weeks...

also, you are 37 weeks..so you are on the home stretch now. there is light , but you just need to keep looking.., honestly, don;t know your family situation, just try to muster as much support as you can from friends and family x

Nemoinapeartree · 23/12/2006 20:04

thanks lulu

mummy2tandf..he has many talents has been a sales manager, did phd in molecular biology and genetics, has lectured and is currently doing a msce it course. We are in Liverpool so just trying to find anything at the minute but mos tplaces not advertising due to xmas etc.

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stoppinattwo · 25/12/2006 06:40

Nemo, Is there anything I can do to help. Am only round the corner hun, just let me know, even if you want me to call round for a cuppa n a chat, or you can come here. youknow where i am. Please dont take all this on your own shoulders, we are here to help

SA2XXX

MomOnTheRun · 25/12/2006 07:07

Nemo, as dh is not working, can you get him to help you more with the dc? DC being sick will make you more stressed so you need time to rest as you are 37wks pg.

DH sounds very qualified so you shouldn't worry about him finding a job. Think of it as God's gift so that you have help at hand when you have your baby.

Too many people spend out of their means for 1 Xmas. Don't get yourself into that situation. You don't have to buy expensive presents for DC. They are just go through the motions in ripping the paper off.

I'm sorry about your gran. You are entitled to cry as much as you want. Your gran is very strong and is not letting the cancer get on top of her. Let her be your inspiration and don't let the stress get on top of you.

I wish you a merry xmas! Looking forward to hear your baby announcment.

Nemoinapeartree · 25/12/2006 22:26

stoppin thanks for the offer hun and if we need to will shout.

Momontherun..thanks..Dh has been helping with the children since he finished for christmas but if I just sit and wallow will make things 10 times worse. Have to stay busy or things will fall apart.

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mummytosteven · 25/12/2006 22:31

sorry to hear about your gran. probably the world's most pointless observation but anyone would be feeling like shite dealing with family illness/shock job less etc, history of depression or not. is there owt I can do to help (not sure if you would count coming round with a feisty toddler as help tho )

what day is the obs/gynae appt - just wonder if you could twist their arm into inducing the next day, so you could start ads asap.

Nemoinapeartree · 25/12/2006 22:36

MTs appointment is next tues and consultant has already said if am low can pick an induction date to start ADs so am hoping to pick the 6th jan so have enough notice to sort the kids but soon enough to not be a lifetime away. Also need gps to pull their finger out re the prescription but Dh will phone on wed. Dh is around now until the 2nd so am ok for company just fed up of feeling so low as I know where it tends to go.

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mummytosteven · 25/12/2006 22:41

so you've already decided 6th is the best then. I remember it was a bit cumbersome coordinating psych orders and GP prescription when I was PG, I phoned the psych in hysterics about it hiding in the corridor at work , so I think you are absolutely right to get H on the case now. just try and count the days, count the hours at the worst time, I'm sure you know all the generic s-h advice/avoidance well enough, I won't patronise you by spouting it at you. hope you are sleeping OK.

Nemoinapeartree · 25/12/2006 22:58

sleep would be good if not for this baby deciding best time for BHs are 2-5am...sigh..even had me half hoping/half fretting I was in labour this afternoon.

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mummytosteven · 25/12/2006 23:00

hmmm. don't spose taking a paracetamol would work with BHs would they (I think I had one BH in total when PG with DS, so not quite sure what they are like LOL)

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Nemoinapeartree · 27/12/2006 21:14

Dh managed to get my prescription sorted today so will be ready on saturday at pharmacy. Also while on phone apparently mw was in surgery and told DH she wanted to see me tommorow to check how I am..so now have to go in there..sigh. Still feeling low and fed up but at least end of pregnancy is looking closer.

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expatinscotland · 27/12/2006 21:16

Thanks for updating us, Nemo!

I've been thinking of you!

Please try to hang in there.

Hope you are soon cuddling your new baby.

Nemoinapeartree · 27/12/2006 21:28

thanks expat.

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