to feel suicidal

[commentappele]

Feeling very low. I know I'm not in the worst position, but have sunk into a slump and feeling low. I'm currently unemployed and beginning to feel like I'm running on empty. I've started to feel suicidal. It's been seven months now. Am getting interviews, several to final stage, but no offers. My confidence is now ebbing and lack of routine, direction, combined with uncertainty and isolation are making me feel blank and out of touch. I feel lost and worried. Struggling to keep pushing forward. I'm living back at home with a DF and his girlfriend who hates me. How should I go forward?

[DoJo]

Make an appointment to see your GP first thing in the morning, call the Samaritans now if you feel suicidal and try to remember that this too will pass. With the right support you can come out the other side and the struggle will have been worth it. Don't focus on what you can't do, focus on what you can do which is be kind to yourself and ask for help.

[akaMama]

Perhaps speak to your GP, or local mental health service. Sometimes talking to a professional about how you feel is good for you.

I know it's a cliche but everyone experiences highs and lows you are not alone in how you are feeling.

Have you tried taking up a hobby? Or perhaps volunteering somewhere using the skills you have. It will also look good on your cv when applying for jobs.

Hope you are feeling more positive soon

[PippaPug]

hello :)

Can you try some sort of volunteering for a local charity or for some work experience in somewhere you really want to work?
Can you ask friends to give you any advice - about your CV?

Do you do anything for you, reading, walks, swimming, paint your nails? Something you enjoy?

sounds a hard situation to be in with flat mates girlfriend - can you suggest a girly night with her with popcorn/film to break the ice?

X

[DelphiniumBlue]

Sorry you're feeling so low, don't really have much advice but didn't want leave your post unanswered.

Have you been to see your GP? They should be able to offer some help to get you through this time.

Meanwhile, the fact that you are getting interviews is encouraging. Feedback on the interviews would be helpful, I have found asking for a few pointers has always resulted in positive advice,which would help for future interviews.

Your living circumstances sound pretty depressing, are you able to get out of the house much? Having a regular routine can help keep you going, maybe you could volunteer a few days a week, apply for jobs from the library, brush up skills.There's often casual childcare work available. Sign on to agencies for temporary work over the summer,and get regular exercise, it'll help lift your mood.
Hopefully other people will be along soon with more specialist advice. xx

[Imustgodowntotheseaagain]

Have you been able to get feeback as to why you aren't getting offers? You are doing really well to get to interview stage, but perhaps there are a few simple things you could change.

Obviously this is for when you are feeling a bit stronger.

[acquiescence]

Try and find some fulfilment that is not connected to work. You have said lack of routine is a big factor so make yourself a routine- be it exercise, going to the library, cleaning, housework, job searching, cooking, seeing friends or fily. Make yourself a schedule that combines pleasurable activities and boring ones that you will feel some sense of achievement from.

Motivation is a massive struggle when you are feeling low, and by doing more you will feel able to do more. IAPT thought your GP (talking therapy) can support you with this.

For self help Google Glasgow steps, getselfhelp, cci self help for some good information leaflets and works books.

Talk to friends Nd family, not necessarily about feeling suicidal if you would find this difficult, but to let them know you are hAving a hard time and struggling so they can offer friendship and support.

[pinktrufflechoc]

That's awful; poor you.

What sort of work are you looking for?

[YetAnotherBeckyMumsnet]

Hi there commentappele

We are so sorry to hear you are feeling so low and we hope you find some support.

We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged up to us we usually add a link to our Mental Health resources - here. You can also go to the Samaritans' website here, or email them on [email protected]. Support from other Mumsnetters is great but as other MNers will tell you, it's really a good idea to seek RL help and support as well.

We're going to move this thread over to our Mental Health board in just a moment where we know there are lots of folk who will be able to share their experiences with you.

Very best wishes to you, OP.
MNHQ