not coping

[sunseeker77]

The emotional roller coaster is really taking it's toll. The tears, numbness, the overwhelming anxiety that comes with the simplest tasks (going to work, having to do grocery shopping). I'm so exhausted that I physically ache .. nothing I do makes any difference. There isn't anyone I can turn to or that takes my situation seriously.. having been told that it's just for attention and that I should "stop whinging and just get on with things". My doctor is of the opinion that if I " just lose all my excess weight and get skinny" , all my other problems will go away.... if only it were that simple!
I have spent years being the one to offer support and love to those who were important to me but now that I need that same sort of help in return, there isn't a single person who will just listen to me without judgement or genuine unbiased concern.

[rinabean]

It's unkind of your friends and family to treat you that way, especially when you wouldn't do it to them.

Your doctor was unhelpful. I guess in his world skinny people don't, can't get depressed?

I find that the more I do the more I'm able to do, but it's so difficult to get started when you're depressed. It's frustrating when you can't do the things you used to.

I hope you start feeling better soon. This time of year is the worst for a lot of people.

[pigwitch]

Firstly you really need to get a new doctor. Someone that can be supportive can make all the difference.

[RandomNPC]

your GP is a bit of a dick. The attitudes that you've had off other people are appalling. I know the feeling about offering support to other people, and it not being returned when needed. I've lost some dear people over the years due to them 'not getting it'.
It is a rotten time of year.

[RandomNPC]

I had a 6 week anxiety course through my MH team. I found it useful. Are you on any ADs?

[sunseeker77]

I currently take Duloxetine (60mg) but don't find that it does much of anything, good or bad. I have taken most of what is available on the market for depression over the past 10+ years in addition to several long stays in hospital for self harm attempts as well as ongoing therapist interventions.
I get so frustrated with it all, with feeling how I do and not being able to see any "light at the end of the tunnel".
I have been preached and lectured at by friends and family about not reaching out or asking for help when I need it but when I do, it gets ignored or I'm told that basically I'm making to much of an issue out of everything.
I just really don't know what to do anymore.

[bluebell345]

I know that feeling, it is hard.
like others said, maybe it is that time of the year, I feel quite low, too.
d3 sun vitamin is good I guess.
forgive me if it is stupid to say, do you have any hobbies that you like to do? I find sometimes that helps.
hope we all get better soon.

[SewingAndCakes]

I can empathise with you and it's horrible to feel the way you do. Is there anyone close that will listen and understand? If not then there are lots of people here for when you need to vent. You're not alone in this

[sunseeker77]

Bluebell, i write a fair bit (so that its not all just rattling around inside my head) and as much as I can, go to the beach but this becomes less often as the depression & anxiety becomes more pronounced.. somewhat of a vicious cycle. I hope we all feel better sooner rather than later as well .

Sewing; I relocated interstate about 18 months ago and as a result there isn't anyone I know or can reach out to where I now live. Its good to know that there are people here to vent too, I just wish I felt less of the broken and dysfunctional than what I do.

[bluebell345]

hello sunseeker,
among all the ads I tried wellbutrin was the best, but I took it to stop smoking, they don't prescribe it here for depression. Have you tried it?
also, even mini chats with people, interacting with them helps I guess.

[sunseeker77]

Hi bluebell, no I haven't tried wellbutrin.
Because of other medications I am on and previous incidents, there are some ads & other medicines I am unable to take due to how they conflict with each other or with my body. It gets tiring needing to do the constant balancing act with it all.
How do you manage interacting with other people ? I moved from a very small country town into a city centre (first time in my life I have ever lived in any kind of major town) and it can be incredibly overwhelming.
I find it difficult to make friends and to not let my anxieties and self conciousness get the best of me.

[bluebell345]

in the future when you need to make changes to your meds maybe at that time you can give wellbutrin a go. it is good. also you can search for its reviews on the internet. I think it has lower doses that you can start with. I've seen many good reviews about it, if I had the chance I would go for a smaller dose type. many in UK cant get it, because it is not prescribed for depression.
interacting with people is not so difficult.
-they have their self consciousness like us, too.
-talking about small things even about weather wont let you down. if they don't response then it is ok, maybe they are not chatty or not in the mood.
-even in shopping when I talk someone in the till like 'how are you', that s still nice.
-meeting people with same interests through hobbies is easier as well.
just talk at first simple things, you wont lose anything.
I think going out and seeing people and if possible interacting helps.
oww I wrote a lot :), I usually don't write very much :)
I hope I am any kind of help.
best wishes sunseeker.