How can I stop giving a sh*t?!

[listentotheman]

Please advice if you can. I am sick of fretting/worrying/dwelling on things all the time.

I just move from one concern to another and am constantly thinking. It's exhausting!

I am so in awe of people who just seem relaxed and trouble-free - how do they manage it?

[DeliciousMonster]

What happens when you worry about something? Does it help the thing that you are worrying about?

[DustBunnyFarmer]

Have you tried mindfulness? There are lots of courses up and running now. The standard course is 8 x 2 hour sessions over 8 weeks, with practice in between. There is a book which sets out the basic approach and exercises for the 8 week course by Mark Williams and Danny Penman. You can buy it with a CD of guided meditations in the back. It's really helped me with my tendency to ruminate and angst over things, which affects my sleep badly when I'm in a bad patch.

[DustBunnyFarmer]

If you can find & afford a course, I'd recommend it though - the group support and 'post match analysis' when you are trying out a new technique helps, as you see other people are struggling to get to grips with it too & that's quite reassuring.

[WineCowboy]

Would second mindfulness. It's very good.