Just as it says in the tin really. I've been really exhausted all week (well, for weeks and weeks and months and months actually), have a chest infection that's really wiping me out and I've been shattered. When I get this tired I get a really short fuse, I can't sleep until after midnight (but have to be up at 6am).
Today I was exhausted, both kids were really playing up while I was trying to get dinner together, ds1 pushing ds2, ds2 hanging off my leg screaming.. etc. Nothing too unusual (well, they're usually better behaved!) I got ds2 settled, but ds1 was nagging for snacks, trying to pull my away from the kitchen. I was struggling to stay upright enough to cook and I just yelled at the poor kid, he ran off screaming and crying, tried to escape from the house. I felt awful
I apologised to him, make sure he was ok and we had a hug. I then walked back into the kitchen, closed the door, took a metal spoon, put it in the boiling water and held it against my arm and burned myself. I just hated myself. Felt like an awful mother, that I was ruining them and I deserved to be hurt. I hate shouting at them. I hated myself. I haven't self harmed for ages. I thought I was ok and now I'm scared I'm never going to be ok and I don't know how to deal with it.
Ds1 is an amazing kid but.. he is really sensitive/emotional and I'm scared it's all my fault. I had really bad pnd when he was a baby. He didn't sleep, just napped in the day and only when upright. I took him to the doctor countless times but I was overseas and the just laughed off reflux/colic and said he was just a mummy's boy. I felt awful for not being able to help him, and the lack of sleep pushed me over the edge. I used to cry, panic, all the time. I'm so scared I damaged him with all of that. Now, he's a great kid and I love him to bits. He is really bad at hearing no, controlling his emotions. When he's excited or upset he'll hit his head with his fist (I did this in the worst of my pnd (to myself of course!) and didn't even realise.) He scream/shriek at the top of his voice, kick the walls, the furniture, throw things, and I have no idea how to deal with him This will be for things like, telling him no he can't have another biscuit as dinner will be ready soon. Or, he has to put his socks on before school. Or, his brother snatched a toy. I read a lot of parenting books and advice and think "Aha!" but when it's happening in front of me I just crumble and don't know what to do. When he's not angry, which is 95% of the time, he's the sweetest, kindest little boy. He loves his little brother and teaches him to read and draw, they're always hugging and laughing together. He loves helping me with the housework and making gifts for me. He really is the most amazing kid but I'm terrified I've broken him because of how I was when I had pnd and how I am when I'm exhausted (shouty and not fun).
Sorry this is so long, I just feel like I've lost it and really let myself down and let ds1 down. Where do I even start with this?
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Self harmed for first time in ages, worried that something is "wrong" with son, house is a tip - help!
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