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alcoholic son

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violetsrblue Sun 10-Aug-14 22:01:34

Feeling really low now and awful, isolated and absolutely full of fear about the future. I had a nice few hours out with my friend. My son who has been living with me for 3 months and is an alcoholic, was out when I got back. Shortly after a neighbour knocked on my door and said, your son is lying on the ground. I found him, called an ambulance, he had been drinking and taken coke.

I didn't go with him to the hospital. Started to then changed my mind and asked them to drop me off, we were still near home at that point. I just wanted to be at home and be with my dogs. My life has gone into freefall since he moved in. The only person I have told about tonight is his ex-partner. I feel like, how will I ever be able to go out? I don't know what to do. Writing it here has helped a bit.

comedancing Sun 10-Aug-14 22:09:01

He can't live with you if he is going to drink..your life will be hell..he needs to hit rock bottom...its such a hard thing for a mother but he needs to go unless he is completely clean...did he split up from partner because of drink...while he is in hospital tell him he cannot come back to your house..you do not have to put up with this..have you tried Alan on..you will get support there

violetsrblue Mon 11-Aug-14 12:26:09

Thanks, it is such a painful decision as you say, I know what you are saying is right though. I am going to go to Al-Anon tomorrow, my firat one, I should have gone weeks ago but kept letting nerves get in the way.

violetsrblue Mon 11-Aug-14 12:29:23

Meant to say, my first one. He did split up with his partner because of drink, and the heartbreaking thing is that they have 2 young children.

EmNetta Mon 11-Aug-14 13:32:32

I,m sure you'll get help from Al-Anon, who are quite used to hearing about friends and relatives with this problem, and have positive ideas to help, so you're no longer trying to cope alone.

Superworm Mon 11-Aug-14 13:58:17

I'm so sorry op, you must be heartbroken. My parents are alcoholics. It's a terrible disease.

Try al-anon, work on your boundaries and keeping your sanity. Lay ground rules, no drinking or you leave. Tough but you will lose yourself in his addiction if not. He needs to hit rick bottom.

I don't go to the hospital these days either. I've spent too long standing around being abused, only to have it thrown back in my face weeks later. He is safe there, use the time to build your strength.

violetsrblue Thu 14-Aug-14 08:55:14

Thanks so much for all the replies and kindness. They didn't keep him in hospital that night and he is back with me, don't know how long for right now.

temporaryusername Thu 14-Aug-14 19:59:36

thanks violetsrblue

I don't have any advice but just wanted to say sorry you're having to go through this.

violetsrblue Fri 15-Aug-14 12:58:21

Thank you, it really helps to not feel so alone with it, just feel so down and tired now but from yesterday have been trying to emotionally detach at least.

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