Sleepover / anxiety out of control

[Susiesue61]

DD is 12 and has 2 friends for a sleepover tonight. I am neurotic about friendships, being not very good at them myself. She has friends but doesn't seem to get included/invited to much out of school. The friends tonight are 1 from primary school and 1 from her new school.

My anxiety is quite troublesome at the moment, and I am so anxious tonight it's unreal. I just feel if I relax, it will all go wrong. I am worried that they will leave her out, she doesn't normally like groups of 3 but she wanted them to come.

I have totally overthought this and am driving myself mad, quite literally

[AndIFeedEmGunpowder]

Oh Susie. I'm sorry you feel anxious. They wouldn't have accepted the invitation if they didn't want to come!

I think it is really normal to worry about our DC and not want them to get hurt, but you need to trust your DD will be ok. If she isn't, you can be there to pick up the pieces in the morning which you can't do if you are knackered.

You cannot make it go wrong by relaxing, you don't have super powers.

Can you do something to distract yourself from worrying about it? TV? Trashy novel?

Have you spoken to your GP about your anxiety? It must be knackering for you.

[AndIFeedEmGunpowder]

Sorry did not mean super powers bit to sound patronising. I always think I can affect outcomes by thinking something/not thinking it too, logically I know this is impossible! MI5 would want us if it was!

[Susiesue61]

Thanks for replying! Have tried medication, referred for counselling but couldn't get to the appointments due to work, which caused me more stress!

They've had a great time up to now :) I'm just getting things out of proportion at the mo. Going on holiday next week which is also really stressful but will be fine once I'm there

[AndIFeedEmGunpowder]

Oh nightmare.

I'm so pleased they had a good time and hope it continued well. Holidays can be super stressful, I find it helps if I don't consider I'm on holiday until we are unpacked. Hope you enjoy yourselves!