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very bad paranoia about social services

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vintagescarlett Thu 08-May-14 00:28:57

I look after my girl really well always but when i dont have her once a month or so i do go out and do socially take recreational drugs. would that be enough for social to take my girl? they have never taken an intrest in me i had severe depression before pregnancy so had to see specialists through out pregnancy but they were confident i was doing fine and able to cope which i am. but i do find my self researching a lot to see if they could take my girl obviously theres no drugs in the house or around her ever just couldnt bare losing her. HELPPPP

Purpleroxy Thu 08-May-14 00:45:04

Stop taking drugs.

LiberalLibertine Thu 08-May-14 00:49:11

No, that wouldn't be enough for them to take her. But you may take yourself away from her if you're doing e's etc. As you just don't know what's in them.

Are they the sort of drug you're taking?

vintagescarlett Thu 08-May-14 00:58:04

Well i dont drink so i take mdma with friends literally once a month say on a friday night and i wouldnt get my girl back till sunday so lots of time to recover. I know maybe people think im selfish but i dedicate everything to her i get no help off her dad, just once a month maybe even every two months have a little blow out. Just i know how strict social services are and how easily someone could just call up and say it to them

sallysparrow157 Thu 08-May-14 01:04:41

Social services are not going to be that fussed what you do when your child is in someone else's care (as long as your hobbies don't include poking random babies with pointy sticks or anything else generally detrimental to children). However, taking illicit, unregulated drugs which affect how your brain works and may well be cut with anything from ketamine to drain cleaner is incredibly bad for your mental health. Please stop taking this crap (you're better off getting pissed, at least you know exactly what you're getting) as both the drugs you're taking and the fact that you're taking them is making you paranoid and unhappy

vintagescarlett Thu 08-May-14 01:16:08

It's more where i live that makes me paranoid i got bullied badly younger and its a town where everyone seems to just carry on living in the past about 6 years ago so im scared someone who doesnt like me will report me as a boy already rang police because i was asking for some money back off him luckily they came and saw a clean house a clean baby and very happy baby with a lil cat purring rubbing his head on them. but after that i realised how easily someone could just jepordise everything over nothing. (Got the boy done for harrassment eventually though so don't think they would listen to him again). Im not a bad person who uses loads or anything i just like a release and im not a very good drunk so dont drink

vintagescarlett Thu 08-May-14 01:23:28

You guys have put my mind at ease though i just thought they would do a drug test and potentially decide to take my girl my mum would even be able to back up dates she had her etc.... hopefully they'll stay away anyway just need to stay away from people who would do somethign so cruel as to ring social over a petty fall out as revenge. Its not revenge its mine and my girl's life they could ruin makes me very angry

sallysparrow157 Thu 08-May-14 01:28:27

If you're this worried about what you're doing that you think someone reporting it could ruin your life, surely doing it is not worth that kind of worry? I'm not fussed that you take drugs or whatever whilst your daughter is elsewhere but you're obviously getting yourself upset about it, is the high that you get really worth this worry?

DioneTheDiabolist Thu 08-May-14 01:31:56

OP, SS are concerned about your DD's standard of care. Not what you do in your spare time.

Are you worried about the impact of your nights off on your DD?

DioneTheDiabolist Thu 08-May-14 01:35:12

Sorry, hit Post before Preview.blush

My post should have read
Why are you worried that your recreational activities would make SS concerned?

vintagescarlett Thu 08-May-14 01:42:41

very true sally but i didnt really know how social services work all ive seen is stuff on tv in soaps sounds silly but i've never needed to think about them before and dione no im not i know my girls if anything is slightly spoilt for everything every toy so many clothes always clean fed and gets love constantly maybe i go slightly overboard as its just me so try to make up for it but im not at all worried my mums not even worried and she is against drugs etc if she had concerns she would be the first to say

sallysparrow157 Thu 08-May-14 01:51:11

Vintage, but you are obviously worrying the hell out of yourself. These drugs make you more paranoid and they do influence they way your brain works in the long run. If you were doing whatever on the days you were child free then it's no problem but you are worrying yourself sick about it all, the combination of the actual drugs you are taking and your worry about your kids is making you very worried and paranoid and this really isn't worth the few hours of fun you get from the drug

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