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To cut a long story short, I have been depressed on and off for basically all my life. I also suffer from bulimia. My last bad breakdown was around 2months ago when i seriously considered suicide. I haven't rely recovered, and feel exhausted all the time.
I'm a sahm to ds(4) who goes to nursery for 3hours each morning. Dh takes him as I just can't do mornings and get stressed about trying to avoid altercations and bad feelings on the way to nursery (ds doesn't always want to go cheerfully, or will do weird things like ignoring other children who greet him, which makes me feel embarrassed) -I know I'm being overcautious/paranoid and silly, but can't stop being stressed. Since I lost a close friend who took an unjustified dislike with my ds U'm even worse -think that everyone hates us.
DH is self-employed and works from home. Since my breakdown happened, he is getting very little work done, so is stressed and worried about money (we are renting and have no savings). He says he can't concentrate on a task or even begin anything more complicated ir lengthy, as he will invariably be interrupted by ds hammering on his door,because I have gone to bed and fallen asleep in the afternoon, and then can't get up until after ds's bedtime. I have previously told dh to either ignore ds who will then have to come and raise me forcefully, or just work somewhere out of the house, so I dint have any other choice than take care of poor longsuffering ds. Because I just cannot self-motivate at the moment and feel massively guilty and exhausted all the time. Dh has ignored my advice, as he is sympathetic when i tell him i am feeling awful, but niw he is resentful and scared that he us getting no work dobe. Told him again today to just not listen to me and bugger off to a library or something. I think he got it this time, but he is also to blame as he is such a ditherer and procrastinator, so has probably found it easy to dumo the blame squarely on me.
I am on meds and waiting for psychotherapy appointment sometime in the next year - don't really know what I am asking here. Maybe just some shoulders to cry on. I feel life is very unfair and sometimes I even wish I had some "real" serious illness. Maybe then I wouldn't feel so guilty and people would be more understanding and sympathetic.
Sorry this is so long and confused.
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Feeling guilty and scared w a worried/resentful dh
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googlet · 23/04/2014 11:19
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