Yesterday, a work colleague confided in my about his severe depression. We had talk about depression before and he knew I had been depressed and how stronly I felt about the lackof understanding of mental health issues. We work closely and get on very well so I think he felt comfortable telling me his story.
I told him yesterday that I had had a breakdown but, thank God, had responded to meds.
He told me that the last 3 years have been particularly bad for him, with suicidal thoughts. He has tried every med going, but none have worked due to either severe side effects or resulting in his having no feelings whatsoever (which he hated). CBT doesn't seem to have helped either.
I am really worried for him. His work is brilliant because he puts unbelievable amounts of effort in but he told me that he dreads coming to work every day and it is draining him completely which is not suprising bearing in mind that his sleep is very, very poor.
They are just about to buy a house and his wife is due with first baby in May.
He has had time off work before but against his doctor's wishes, he came back after 3 months.
As far as I can see, continuing to work is putting a huge strain on him but he is driving himself because of the mortgage etc. This would be their first home- they are young and don't have money to fall back on.
I listened to him yesterday and my heart broke for him but I really felt stuck in what to say because for me, I would't be here but for the meds so how can you help someone for whom they don't work?
He doesn't want to do shock therapy and I feel he feels he is running out of options.
I am working from home today. He is off and we will both be back in tomorrow.
Have told him that if there is anything I can do, he only has to shout but I feel this isn't enough and wish there was something I could do, apart from listening to him.
I would be really, really grateful for any ideas or tips etc.
Thanks for reading this.
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HOW TO HELP WORK COLLEAGUE I AM REALLY, REALLY WORRIED ABOUT
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cpbp · 27/03/2014 08:49
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