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Lacking motiviation, inspiration, confidence etc

(5 Posts)
Jan13Blues Tue 25-Mar-14 21:38:58

Hi, just going round in circles at the moment.
I have a few issues, and the main one at the mo is my lack of confidence. I am seemingly confident to the outside world! I don't like to be a moaner. however, at the mo, everythings seems difficult, negative, pointless. I have had many hard times over the last several years and things are nowhere near as bad as they have been, but I think I've just run out of energy and enthusiasm.

I know in theory what needs doing (practical stuff, emotional stuff), but just can't seem to summon up the impetus to do them! I have read so many threads and help things on the web, and read self-help books, which do make me feel more positive - but then proceed not to take action! I am so frustrated at myself! I used to have a lot of get up and go, but it's just got lost over recent years...

I plan things that need doing, make lists, etc etc, but then just get home from work and procrastinate or half-do them. I am really getting on my own nerves! I've tried to look at why I procrastinate etc, and just beat myself up for being lazy. I get envious at people who seemingly have it 'together' and then beat myself up because I know I could be as well, if I just sorted myself out!

I know my life will be better if I sort certain things out - why am I putting it off! I am pretty certain I haven't got depression or anything like that - just lack of motivation etc.

does anyone else get this - long term, not just a phase?

Millie2013 Wed 26-Mar-14 02:01:53

Yes, I can totally relate! I'm not sure I have the answers though, sorry!
Are you sure you're not depressed? Depression can manifest if so many different ways, including those you have described. I know I'm prone to low mood, so I'm currently having therapy to deal with some underlying contributing factors and it was one of the best decisions I ever made

Jan13Blues Wed 26-Mar-14 06:48:41

Thank you for replying! I don't think I'm depressed. I've had a very hard few years, but have some good things to look forward to these days, just can't seem to get it together...

LastingLight Wed 26-Mar-14 06:54:26

Depression doesn't necessarily happen when you have stuff to be depressed about. It's an illness, and can hit you at any time. I suggest you see your gp, first of all for a full physical checkup as there are physical issues (e.g. thyroid) that can cause depression-like symptoms.

LCHammer Wed 26-Mar-14 07:09:58

Are you trying to do too many things? I've had to cut back drastically on things I get involved with, eg afterschool stuff with the kids, book club for me etc. I've given myself a break till summer as it was just too much on my mind and I felt rushed. I've taken a break from planning stuff that 'needs doing' in the house. It's fine as it is and I'd just get more work for myself. But firstly I'd check out depression with the GP.

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