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Don't feel like I can cope

(8 Posts)
Charlie2909 Fri 21-Mar-14 07:48:45

I don't know where to start. I feel like I can't cope at the moment. I have a 6 week old baby my second child and my partner has just returned back to work (he works away) and he'll be gone for 3 weeks. I feel like I can't cope on my own with my baby. I have cried almost none stop for 24 hours now and my other child who is 7 is starting to worry about me and get up set!! I think I may have signs of postnatal depression as every time my baby cries I want to run away. I just need someone to talk too as I don't have much family and friends to talk to and help out! Feel like a failure and I'm loosing the plot xx

SharonCurley Fri 21-Mar-14 07:56:39

It's very overwhelming.I know.I've been there.I'm not sure if you have pnd or are feeling overwhelmed at the thought of being on your own.Make an appointment with your gp for a chat.Things that have helped me are getting out in the mornings for some fresh air, a little treat everyday- go to a cafe, buy a magazine etc.cooking quick meals or meals that we get two days out of.I don't keep on top of the housework every day.Good days and bad but I don't feel guilty about it any more.Can you get a cleaner once a week?Explain to your seven year old that you are feeling a little bit sad right now but everything will be okay.Try and reassure them and get them off to school.Is there anyone close to you that can give you a break.It makes the world of difference if you can just get a lie down for an hour or two.I really feel for you xx

SharonCurley Fri 21-Mar-14 07:57:26

And you are absolutely not a failure x

SharonCurley Fri 21-Mar-14 07:59:02

If I can be of any help at all pm me.Def go to the gp.you are exhausted and overwhelmed and its hard to think straight when you are upset

SilverStars Fri 21-Mar-14 16:30:36

May be worth contacting your HV too and saying you are struggling being on your own for 3 weeks. If you ring them today or Mon they may be able to set up home start for you or give you a children's support worker.

And remember you may not have pnd, it may be totally normal to struggle on your own with a new baby and a young child on your own when you are used to having a partner with you; either way some practical support sounds good,

SharonCurley Fri 21-Mar-14 20:06:33

Op I hope you are ok-I've been thinking of you today

Charlie2909 Sat 22-Mar-14 19:09:31

Thank you for your replies. I've spoken to my family and partners family and they are going to help me out more, my mother has come to stay the night with me as I still can't stop crying. I just don't like being on my own with my baby. I've been getting out the house today just for a walk and that's help, hate being stuck in.
I'm going to speak with my GP on Monday and see what they suggest, I do feel like I have pnd x

SharonCurley Sun 23-Mar-14 21:12:59

Great-glad you spoke to family and have some support .Hope you feel we'll again soon

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