I don't think I should be feeling like this.....

[bodenbetty]

I have a 3yr old ds and a 5 week old Dd - it took us along time to concieve her so she is doubly preciuos. everyone is telling me to enjoy her while she's so litel but teh truth is I'm findong it very hard to at the moment. Her sleeping at night is completly up teh creek as she is very colicky from about midnight onwards. i'm trying all sorts of diffetn approiaches with little success so far. mY ds has been lovley with her but I'm not giving himteh attention he wants becasue of her & I can tell he feels a bit left out.
I've been lucky enough to havea bit of help in teh wek from grandparemts but I juat feelike I@m winging it teh whole time _ every day I think how did i get through that & how am I going to do it again tomorrow? I'm also finding it so boring being glued to teh sofa or whereever feeding al teh time & if not doing that trying to play with DS or catching up onhousework.
I'm knackered & feel awful for not enjoying the family I wanted for so long.
has anyone else felt like this & does it pass?

[schneebly]

Your DD is only 5 weeks fgs! I think most of us feel like that when they are tiny - give yourself a break and forget the housework - it will wait! As for your DS - you could try to talk to him or read him a story while you feed DD? Give it a few more weeks and you will feel better I am sure. Dont feel bad - it will pass. xxx

[fistfullofnappies]

If she's collicky at night, then just hang on and survive until it passes! Then you'll have plenty of time and energy to enjoy her, and she'll be just as gorgeous.

[Scoobydooooo]

What you have just written could have been me, i also had a ds who was 3 1/2 & then had my dd she was also very precious to us because we had a mc before her.

You are going to feel emotional & yes it is very very hard at first to share your time, i found i was always crying & did struggle a bit.

It does get better & you need to give yourself time, dont panic about the housework if you cant fit it in its fine you can do it when you can fit it in & when your not tired.

My dd is now 6 1/2 months & i have a rountine now & am just starting to find it easier, i did struggle along the way but it has worked out in the end & it's not as hard as you think it is going to be (somedays can be a struggle depending on whats happening)

Please do one thing though ENJOY your dd while she is so little because the one thing i regret is the fact i was to busy crying & feeling down to even enjoy her, she is now 6+ months & is already started crawling & sitting up now & i just feel i did not cherish her first born moments enough.

Goodluck & dont panic

[bubblepop]

hey, your little one is so young yet, you will get there! i think what you are going through is completely normal, in fact if you had the time to search though all the archived messages, you'd find something very similar posted by myself not so long ago. first thing to do is, FORGET HOUSEWORK! get sleep whenever possible.have you spoken to your hv about the colic? there could be something you hav'nt tried yet. remember,IT IS YOUR BASIC HUMAN RIGHT TO HAVE A SHOWER, MAKE A CUP OF TEA AND A SANDWICH AND GO TO THE TOILET!!if the baby cries for 3 mins while you do any of these things,well it won't do her any harm, aslong as you know she is safe.i found that a nice little book was a good way of keeping my toddler amused whilst i was feeding the baby, we used to read it together.it is tricky though if they are a little jealous. don't feel guilty if you have to use the tv a bit more than usual to keep your toddler amused, it is such a short time when they are newborn and before you know it you'll be back on your feet and out and about again. good luck